Baby girl!

Our first kid is on the way, but we're struggling to pick a name for her. 

What we're thinking: Bennett, Bentley, Kendall, Lowen, Spencer

My favorites right now are Bentley and Bennett; I keep going back and forth between them. My husband likes all of the names about the same, but he doesn't LOVE any of them. 

The middle name we are most likely going to use is Collins, a family name. Last name is the capital of texas :) 

Sugestions/thoughts/tips?

Thank y'all so much!

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November 8, 2019 5:24 PM

sorry I'm not really liking any of those for a girl,  Kendall would be my pick

other names with similar beginnings Benita, Kendra Kenzi Kinsee  Lorelei Lowena Lorena Louanne Lauren Lillian Luellen

Makenna Makenzie Kezia Keturah Evette Elliette Odette Olivette Avery Dakota Riley Reese Payton Quinn Finley Tayla Marley Alexis Emersyn Emery Skyler Ellery Harper Hollis Aubrey Blair Luca Micah Adair Addison Adley Hadley McKinley Makinley Madison Blakely

Darcy Quinlan Tory Milla Jensen Ashley Jesse Tyla Corin Robyn Kayden Shae Bronte Briohne Ziggy Tansey Kelsey Cassidy Briley Tatum Taryn

 

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November 8, 2019 11:24 PM

I agree that Kendall is the least awful.  You say that your husband doesn't love any of these options - are there names that he does love?

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November 9, 2019 10:06 AM

Sounds like you're drawn to more unisex sounding names beginning with B!

I like Bentley better than Bennet if those are your favourites but if your husbands not totally on board some others you migth like are:

1. Becket

2. Bellamy

3. Bellary

4. Berkley

5. Berlin

Just some suggestions! Don't let anyone tell you your prefered names aren't good enough either, we all have our preferences. :)

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November 10, 2019 8:27 PM

I like the suggestion of Bellamy.  It seems slightly more feminine (like if you saw it written down and tried to guess the sex of the person it belonged to) but still fits the surnamey style and isn't the slightest bit frilly.

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November 12, 2019 12:03 AM

No offense meant, but are you naming a law firm or a child?

Also, do you believe that it's an awful thing to be seen as feminine? That's the vibe I'm getting from your choices.

 

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November 12, 2019 1:01 AM

I think those names are a bit much with the surname and middle and too masculine too, maybe names that are 1, 3 or 4 syllables would be better

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November 12, 2019 6:53 PM

Collins strikes me as very much in the same two-syllable, unisex-leaning-masculine, recent-pop-culture-association, surname-as-given-name category as your other choices, with the added advantage of a family connection--is there a reason you aren't considering it as a first name? You might also look further into your and your husband's family trees as well as at hobbies or interests you share, to see if there are other surnames that appeal aesthetically and have a stronger emotional connection. Often that type of connection can help change a "like it OK" name into "the one" (my youngest has my mother's maiden name as first name; on its own I wouldn't even have considered it, but the sentimental connection to my mother and maternal grandparents really made it stand out, and is the reason my husband accepted it).

I like the sound of Bentley, which I mainly associate with the luxury car--it's not an association I personally like, but others definitely feel differently about that (witness all the kids named Lexus). Bennett is probably my least favorite on your list: I like the P&P association of Bennett, but its long history of use as a masculine given name and the very common male nickname Ben give a much stronger "only value masculine qualities" feel when used for a girl.

Of your less-favorite names, Lowen is the most interesting/unexpected to me, and feels the most evenly unisex. Kendall has the strongest history of use as a female given name, which you might like or not. My strongest association for that name is a soap opera character who's probably not even on the air any more and, I think, a Kardashian? Spencer is not quite as macho-sounding as Bennett, but close; it also has a potential romantic literary connection, if you spelled it Spenser (as in Edmund Spenser, author of The Faery Queen) and old Hollywood credentials (actor Spencer Tracy).

Finally, your surname also falls into that same exact category, so you might want to consider mixing things up a little bit more in either the first or middle slot with a name that varies in syllables or style or both, just in terms of giving your daughter options and also helping the whole name scan more as a single person's name rather than a string of surnames (the law firm effect that I think someone else mentioned).

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November 14, 2019 3:43 PM

Like my sister, your list leaves me wondering why you think femininity is so totally horrible/absolutely disgusting that you'd rather your daughter sound like a law firm than a girl. I'm pretty sure that isn't your intent, but that's the idea that comes across nevertheless.

Since you seem to like surnames-as-given-names, I'd ordinarily side with the poster who suggested using Collins as the given name (and then choosing a more traditional given name as the middle name to mitigate the law firm effect), since actual-family-surname-as-given-name is much preferrable to random-surname-that-we-like-the-sound-of-but-have-no-clue-about-the-etymology-as-given-name. Problem is, I foresee a lifetime of "helpful" clerks reversing your daughter's names, because Austin sounds much more like a given name than Collins. (It's the -s ending.)

Any interest in something like Bethany, Mackenzie, Cassidy, Ashley, Britney, Harper, Whitney, or Hadley? As in, names that aren't really traditional, but they've been in use as feminine names in the last several decades, so they don't sound like surnames anymore.

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November 16, 2019 12:24 AM

I haven't had much time to respond to these, so I'll just go through some major points I noticed while reading through them.

No, I have nothing against feminity, that is the most ridiculous conclusion I think someone could come up with just with the knowledge of my favorite names for a girl. 

No, I am not naming a law firm. 

I am deeply sorry if you are offended by these names or this post, but if you are, I think you might want to rethink some things. 

We did toss around the idea of using Collins as a first name, but honestly it doesn't flow very well with our last name, so we thought it be better in the middle spot. Also, I agree with the poster who predicted people flipping our last name with Collins because of the -s ending. I don't think we've totally eliminated it as a first name, though. 

I agree that Bentley does remind me of the car, but I think it won't be hard for people to get past that. I guess my thinking was, it's not like naming her Honda, and her friend's mom's will all have a car with the same name as her, since I don't know many people with Bentley's.

Although I like Kendall, the popularity is a turn off for me.

My husband contributed a little bit to the list and we took some off, so here is the most up-to-date list we have: Peyton, Harley, Parker, Camden, Collins, Bennett, Bentley, Lowen, Spencer. I like Harley, Parker and Spencer the best with our last name, but they aren't my absolute favorites.

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November 16, 2019 1:51 AM

I like Peyton best from you list, still like Kendall bet weter. I prefer Hadley to Harley.. camdyn would be ok  What about Marley, Eden, Kaeden, Jayden, Shaedyn, Skyla, Tyla, amber, ember, aster, keldin, lordan, Evander, summer, cardyn, Sheridan, linden, Jordyn, Addison, Lysandra, evanda, Asha, Heather, Kyla, river, London, Portia, piper, Leander, Jesper, winter

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November 19, 2019 9:00 PM

You state emphatically that you're not naming a law firm, but if you name your child "Peyton Collins Austin", she will 100% sound like a law firm, because all three of those are surnames. Hence our advice to rethink things. In the end, she's you're daughter, and you can inflict whatever name you wish on her (at least if you live in the US), but you asked for advice, so we're telling you: this is what other people will think of your daughter's name.

You also misunderstood the misogyny fears: we're not offended by your name ideas, but they do make it sound like you think femininity is a bad thing. Maybe you don't have anything against femininity, and can defend your choice to use all masculine names with a reasoned argument, but the thing is, you don't get to make that argument with 99.999% of the people your daughter will meet, because in real life, there just isn't any opportunity to do so. So all we're left with is the impression given by the name itself, and that impression is "must avoid sounding female at all costs".

Trying to riff off of Collins: does Colleen appeal to you at all?