Changing My Name

Hi everyone

I am thinking of changing my first name as I have never really bonded with my the name, which is Laura. I was never given a middle name by my parents. I am in my late twenties so I can change my name if I wish. I live in the UK. My surname starts with Ab and ends in S. The language I speak is English. 

The reason why I want to change my name as I have never felt like a Laura. Never bonded with my name. My parents never liked nicknames so I don't have one. They never allowed me to be called anything other than Laura except endearments which were reserved for family only.  The name Laura I feel does not reflect who I am inside. Even though it sounds crazy I feel a name gives people confidence. You could say I want a name thats gives me confidence in myself and self respect. I know a new name won't cure my confidence issues completely but I feel it will help me.

I have a brother called Matthew so a name that goes with his name would be good. I don't want my new name to stand out like I have changed my name.

I want something that is right for my age group, doesn't matter how popular it is just needs to be a name other than Laura. I don't want made up kind of name so I won't have complications such spelling or pronounciation issues. I like all sort of names so that is not much help. I do know I don't want a name ending in A.

I am not sure where to start in search of my new name but a few names I am considering are Sophie, Eleanor, Isabelle, Amy, Emily.

I would also like a middle name as I have not got one. I would like to honour my Mum so her name Karen could be an option or a variant of her name. She doesn't have a middle name.

Thanks for reading and I hope you can help me.



July 7, 2016 1:18 PM

Have you considered the name Catherine/Katherine? It meets all your criteria, including honouring your mother, except ease of spelling, since there are multiple variants. It would work well in the middle, too, if you'd like to reserve your honour for that spot.

July 7, 2016 1:42 PM

Hmm I am afraid to say I am not keen on Katherine. Thank you of for you suggestion though. Is there a naming website that is realiable enough to use for me to look for other varaints of the name Katherine?

July 7, 2016 1:58 PM

scads of variants there

July 7, 2016 1:25 PM

I don't know how well it fits your age group, but any interest in Daphne? It comes from the Greek word for 'laurel'.

I also second Katherine, for either first or middle: Karen originates as a Scandinavian diminutive of this name.


July 7, 2016 1:43 PM

Daphne is a no because its my aunts name and we don't get along. Thank you for your suggestion though.

July 7, 2016 3:35 PM

The UK doesn't seem to put its older baby name data on the web: the best I could find was a historical summary in 10-year increments (or maybe it's just for years ending in -4? I can't tell). In any case, here's the top 10 for the two closest years to your birth:

1984: Sarah, Laura, Gemma, Emma, Rebecca, Claire, Victoria, Samantha, Rachel, Amy

1994: Rebecca, Lauren, Jessica, Charlotte, Hannah, Sophie, Amy, Emily, Laura, Emma

(I notice that "Laura" appears on both lists: if nothing else, your parents were naming in accordance with their peers.)

For comparison, the most popular names in the US in the late '80s were Jessica, Ashley, Jennifer, Amanda, Sarah, Brittany, and Samantha.

The names you are considering all skew slightly younger than your actual age, but not egregiously so. As in, I would expect an Emily to most likely be in her early 20s, but wouldn't be surprised at all to find that she's actually over 30; a late-20s Emily would be totally unremarkable.

Your brother's name is one of those classics that has never been out of style, which is good and bad: it's good in the sense that you could choose practically any name and it would "go with" your brother's name, but it's bad in the sense that it's no help in narrowing down your choices. Well, OK, so I wouldn't expect late-80s UK parents who chose staid-and-steady Matthew for their son to choose cutting-edge-US-import Brittany for their daughter, but that's so extreme as to be hardly helpful.

For your middle name, I wonder if you'd consider keeping Laura in that spot. That would honor your mother in the sense of not totally throwing out her choice of name for you, and if your old friends accidentally call you Laura, your new friends won't be totally confused.

July 7, 2016 6:52 PM

I was born in 1990.  So I am 26. 

My Mum is helping choose my new name.

July 7, 2016 5:57 PM

Katherine variants that I like...

Kadri - maybe to out there






Kate (maybe to nicknamey) 

I think overall I would prefer to keep the letter K as Karen starts with a K.

July 12, 2016 9:41 AM

I am loving the names Sophie or Elisabeth at the moment. Mum does too. 

We like the combos...

Sophie Karin

Sophie Caitlin

Sophie Kay/Kaye

Elisabeth Karin

Elisabeth Caitlin

Elisabeth Kay/Kaye

We have discussed keeping Laura as a middle name and decided it will be a second middle name.



July 12, 2016 1:02 PM

If you do decide to keep Laura as a second middle, I heavily favour your options that don't end up with three 2-syllable names in a row: Sophie Kay(e) Laura or any of the Elisabeth options.

Do you anticipate wanting nickname options? Laura and Sophie offer approximately the same level of nicknamability, so if you've been satisfied with your name's ability to be nicknamed, either choice would work. However, if you like the idea of added flexibility, Elisabeth will give you many, many options to fit all situations, relationships, and moods.

July 12, 2016 5:04 PM

I think you could choose between Sophie and Elisabeth based on whether you want nickname options or not, as Karyn said. If you definitely don't want nicknames, then I would use Sophie because some people might automatically use a nickname for Elisabeth whether you want them to or not. If you like the idea of having nickname options, unlike you've had with Laura, and possibly going by different nicknames with different people, then Elisabeth is a better choice. For Sophie, I like Sophie Kay Laura best because I think it has a better rhythm. With Elisabeth, I prefer Kay or Karin over Caitlin. I like that Kay and Karin keep the K- of your mother's name. Good luck!

July 12, 2016 1:32 PM

I have always favored

Anna Sophia

but you could flip it. 

I am to wanting to change my name which is Amanda Marie. Maybe you have some sugestions?

By Feya
July 25, 2016 4:08 PM

I love the name Sophie so that gets my vote. 

Sophie Kay/Kaye Laura is lovely.