Changing my name, help me choose <3

So I’m actually looking for names not for a baby but for myself! I’m changing my name and wanted to get some opinions that are unbiased from people I don’t know but love names as much as me haha <3 please share your opinions and give me some suggestion if you’d like! These are what I have thus far






Eila (just like Isla)





Luna (but I don’t know if someone could pull it off when older)




Lea or Léa

Elowen (but I don’t know if I’d be brave enough  )




September 18, 2018 2:11 PM

This is a really lovely collection of names! It also, for the most part, could be the roster at a current pre-school. That's not surprising, since your taste in names is in line with the current zeitgeist, but some of these names will stand out less on an adult than others. I think that more background would be helpful. Do you want a new name that makes people stop and take notice or do you want a new name that feels more like you and that people will readily accept was the name give to you by your parents? There really are a lot of beautiful names proposed here, so knowing more about what you're looking for would help narrow down the list.

September 18, 2018 5:24 PM

I think a name that is not a nightmare to spell but are still a little less common are nice. that will differ for all of us though, for example where I am names like Evangeline, Genevieve, Elowen & Athena are never heard of. I’ve never met anyone called any of these, young or old :) someone I met a while ago named her little girl Andromeda! How’s that for a showstopper

September 18, 2018 3:25 PM


I like the following

Genevieve, Elizabeth, Amelia, Elle, Evangeline, Aria

Eleonora - I prefer Elanora

Lea or Léa - is that pronounced the same as Leah, if it is, I'd spell it Leah

Rose - prefer this to Rosie, to me Rosie is a nn and is cutesy

Ember - I prefer Amber to Ember

Athena - I think you need to be really confident to carry this one


*my top ones would be Leah, Aria, Amelia and Genevieve then Elizabeth

September 18, 2018 3:33 PM

Thanks for commenting <3 I have a bad association with Amber and I also think that Ember is just prettier plus you get the nn Em. Lea is pronounced just like Leah and Léa is pronounced like Leia it’s just the French version of Leah :) I actually like Elanora possibly for a mn I like that it means “a home by the sea” very pretty 

September 18, 2018 4:07 PM

for Leah, Leia - I would go with the most common spelling in the area.  Yes Ember is nice too,  yes Elanora is very nice too - lovely meaning - I didnt realise it meant that,  we have a suburb here in the Gold Coast,  Queensland,  Australia named that

September 18, 2018 4:43 PM

I find Lea and Léa to be less ambiguous than Leah, which I know as both LAY-uh and LEE-uh. If you're looking for a wow name, this family of names likely isn't your best avenue, but they are solid names that wear well.

To me, Elanora feels 100% made up. Like a dumbed-down or "modernized" version of the classically elegant and beautiful Eleanora. This is because I have no association nor connection with it, but I would still recommend sticking with your original spelling if you decide to go with this name. I would also caution against believing online, user-submitted name "meanings" because they seldom have any basis in reality. 

September 18, 2018 5:26 PM

I actually prefer Eleonora than Eleanora I find the “a” in it a bit odd especially when said out loud, but maybe it’s just me. Thanks for commenting! :)

September 18, 2018 6:10 PM

Just curious if Eleanor looks weird to you with the A, too.

September 19, 2018 4:12 PM

Yes actually, but I guess it is just a personal preference after all :) I’m just used to Eleonora/Eleonor/Leonor/Leonore all of those with “leo” and not “lea”. But again, just a personal preference 

September 18, 2018 5:35 PM


The name Elanora is a Female name.

Australian Aboriginal meaning:
The name Elanora is a Australian Aboriginal baby name
The Australian Aboriginal meaning of Elanora is:
A home by the sea
not a made up name
September 18, 2018 6:16 PM

How is typing that out with no sources -- let alone reputable sources -- proving anything? All it proves to me is that you believe that information to be true. Writing it in the format of a name book or website does not make the information any more true.

And I didn't say that it was made up, I said that it felt like a made-up name to me -- which it does.

By EVie
September 19, 2018 6:21 AM

That factoid about the Australian place name meaning "home by the sea" seems to be repeated all over the internet, including on at least one local government site, but there are some red flags that make me not want to rely on that definition, even though it may turn out to be true. One is that all of the references I found just say it's an "aboriginal" name—no mention of the specific people or language who named it, nor of any details of how the compound name Elanora breaks down into words that mean "home" "by the" "sea."

Compare an etymology like the one Wikipedia gives for Manhattan: Wikipedia is usually not all that reliable, but in this case the level of detail and the fact that it cites actual sources make it fairly safe.

My guess is that the Elanora meaning was mentioned in some Australian tourism pamphlet or local history, picked up by Wikipedia or some other internet source without citation, and then spread to baby name sites by people who randomly googled Elanora and found the place name. Who knows where the original source got it from—it could be the kind of folk "meaning" that everybody "knows" is true but no one can actually source. Find me a source that names the actual people/language and I'll be more willing to believe it, even if it's just a tourism pamphlet.

I also think that citing an "Australian aboriginal" meaning for a name you pick randomly just because you think it's pretty falls into that icky cultural appropriation territory. Using names from other cultures can be fine if you do it respectfully and have a legitimate connection to that culture, but it can't possibly be respectful if you don't even bother to find out the name and language of the people whose name it is—especially a people who probably suffered at the hands of the settlers who took their "home by the sea" away from them (just writing that made me cringe). If you must use the spelling Elanora, just go with "it's a variant of Eleanora, I made it up" and don't try to legitimize it with an appropriative "meaning." 

September 21, 2018 1:31 AM

I think in this case it's less the case of bad culturally appropriative "baby name meaning" websites and more like Elanora, Queensland is an actual city, which I well believe may have had aboriginal influences into its name. (Wikipedia says so!)

However, I think the question about it as a baby name "meaning" that really depends. If the parents were vacationing in Australia and deliberately naming their daughter after the city, then sure. But otherwise I think the meaning is "spelling variant of Eleanora", which is a name family with notoriously squishy and flexible spellings (and specifically Elanor has Tolkein backup).

September 18, 2018 5:44 PM

I’ve narrowed  it down to Liv, Genevieve, Elizabeth, Amélie, Athena, Elle, and Léa. We’re making progress :D

September 18, 2018 9:07 PM

I really like Liv but I feel like it's not meant to stand alone.  However, I'm not a fan of Olivia really and I don't have a better suggestion.  Supremely unhelpful, I know.


Really I don't think you can go wrong with any of these.  Genevieve Estelle was our girl name the last time around; it's definitely a top contender for this baby as well, so I may be biased but that's my favorite on your list.  ;)

September 18, 2018 9:55 PM

Awww thank you and Genevieve Estelle is beautiful!! I read somewhere that Genevieve was considered to be a really old lady name in France, like Gertrude for Americans. Dont know how that makes me feel haha xD

September 18, 2018 10:37 PM

If you are in the US, be careful about diacritical markings - they often are left off of official documents.


As for the names themselves, all are lovely, but they are stylistically still very different.  It's as if you haven't really settled on what you are looking for in a name for yourself.  As someone who has waffled about whether I should legally change a portion of my own name, I wonder if you need more time to think about it.  Please forgive me if I'm wrong.

September 19, 2018 7:14 AM

You’re not wrong this list was made with names that I just thought of At the moment I made it. Don’t worry haha :) I’m also not rushing so I do want to think it through and take my time with it so I can make the right decision. The names I picked are also names that I think work with my personality and that I can pull of, I’m just working on narrowing it down :)

I guess we can separate them by short and longer names. For short names I have Elle, Liv, Léa, and I guess Athena is kind of a short name. Longer ones I have Elizabeth, Genevieve, and Amélie. I do worry that people will constantly think Liv is a nickname for Olivia or that how some have mentioned it looks incomplete but I do like it still. 

<3 thank you for commenting 

September 19, 2018 1:35 AM

I prefer Olivia or Livia as a full name to Liv,  I like Genevieve and Lea the best from this list,  Amelie is nice too,  Olivia is nice or Liv or Lavinia

By mk
September 19, 2018 5:03 PM

If I was going to change my name and was told to choose from that list, I'd pick Genevieve. So that's my vote.

I also like Amelia (I hated the move Amelie, and Amelia is a family name for me) and Angeline (similar to Evangline, but my preference). Elizabeth is always a classic, and Athena is nice.

Which ones are you drawn to?

September 19, 2018 8:11 PM

Athena because of how strong of a name it is, Elizabeth because classic although I’m not really drawn to it really it’s just more of a you can’t go wrong with it, Genevieve but the nickname Gen worries me a bit haha

September 20, 2018 4:07 AM

I know a Genevieve nicknamed Evie and another Viv so there are other options out there. I agree that I'm not a massive fan of Gen but love Genevieve.

September 19, 2018 9:38 PM

If your goal is to change to an easier spelling, picking any variation of Leah is going to lead to more spelling/pronuciation issues, along with any diacritical marks as mentioned above.  Likewise, Elanora, if it sparks a debate here, trust me, it will have spelling/pronunciation problems "out there".


I'd like to put in a word for Cleo.  It is short and peppy, generally easily spelled, though I've seen Clio.  The "O" ending is popular for boys names right now, which makes it a spunky choice for a woman.  I think the name is underused.

September 19, 2018 10:00 PM

The goals not a super simple spelling just not a nightmare of a spelling which I don’t think any of the names are. maybe Genevieve would be troublesome for some people but nothing too bad. And Elanora is a pretty name but if I were to make it official with that Kind of name it would be Eleonora

September 21, 2018 1:41 AM

I particularly like Cleo for you, as it seems to be most in the middle of your names, and it has a sweet spot of being unusual but familiar and not overly associated with one age group.

I don't know how old you are, but Genevieve is cresting so high that if you are older it would be a bit out-of-sync with the generation, ditto Evangeline, Aria, and to a lesser extent Luna and Ember (these names are less common, but they're still very of-the-moment for me). 

Elizabeth is a timeless name which would be completely unsurprising on anyone of any age, and it has nearly infinite nickname options which means that you have loads of reinvention possibilities if you're afraid you might not like to be locked in. 

Noelle is a name that strikes me as slightly dated, which I think could be great if you're part of the age group that the Noelle initially spiked in. I would only use it if you're fine with the diaresis being stripped off 99.9% of the time, even if you enjoy using it. I like it more than Elle.

Amelie would be too much of a struggle to get pronounced the attractive way by Americans. Ditto Léa.

Athena is a name that I'd encourage you to try out and see if it feels right. It's definitely more of a statement name; I like statement names but I think not everyone wears them comfortably. You have the advantage of naming yourself and not a child so you can decide your comfort. Try ordering coffee with the name or otherwise using it in reservation systems or the like where your actual name isn't really that relevant, and see if it feels embarrassing or fun to you! 

Rosie seems too cutesy to me as a given name, though it's a terrific nickname. Rose itself would be more to my taste.

And last point, I think the trying on names advice is a good one. Just take them for a spin in low-stakes situations and see how they feel comfortable. You have diverse options, now you just need to try them on and see what sort of name actually feels most right to you!