Changing my surname - suffixes and spellings?
I've always loved looking up names - I guess I too have a fixation with them - so it was great to find this site!
i go through periods of wanting to change my name. Not necessarily because I hate it - more because I like to think of more ...'interesting' names I suppose. Names I would use if I wrote a book kinda thing. I've never seriously considered changing my name in 'real life' though because up until recently I've a) lacked the necessary confidence to do so (what could very think if me?!!), b) I've thought it's the name I was given at birth - it just felt .. Taboo to change it.
lately I am probably the closet I've been to actually going through with a name change. I have a special birthday coming up that is the beginning if the next step in my life (think big one with a four in it!) and think it would be a perfect gift to myself. It would also symbolically represent the new step forward into almost u chartered territory (bit if a story behind that). Initially yes - changing my name was a way to 'break away' from my past - a very painful childhood from which I struggle with many years later. I don't especially like my current last name - nothing dreadful, but people seem to mis-hear what I say - it's a pain, AND i don't actually like how it sounds with my shortened first name - it's too abrupt.
But over the the osst few days it's become less about moving (running?) away from, and more about moving too - forging a new beginning. I also see it as a confidence thing - I think it takes courage to make such a change - I don't know anyone else who has changed their name (other than the usual last name change when someone marries)
i would keep my first name - I like it! and it would be much more convenient and less difficult to make the change. my middle and last names - I would change. I am named after family meme ers - all of which are dead. The only living relatives that would object are both in their 70s and 90s and to be honest - I wouldn't tell them I'd done it. They share my surname and as my father passed away a few years ago, they would very likely see it as disrespectful to him. My sister could hardly comment as she changed her name when married! I have no other relatives that are in my life to the pint they'd have an opinion. So it's pretty awesome in that regard!
Looking for a last name, I came up firstly with 'Winter' - because I LOVE winter - even now as a mature adult, I get as excited as a kid at Xmas when it snows. also in the past couple of years I took up a winter sport fills me with passion in a way very very few things in my life have. Unfortunately being a seasonal sport, it's only for 4 months of the year. Having a surname reflecting my love if winter, I figure would be a great way to link my love of winter, all year round.
HOWEVER - paired with my first name (I go by liz), I think it sounds too harsh. Too abrupt, and far from the friendly person I am. 'Elizabeth. Winter' I like, 'Liz. Winter' - I don't.
so I've looked at adding a suffix to it - something friendly sounding, that I think has a nice flow to it. Of all the possibilities I've come up with, I so far like 'winterbey' the best. I'm not fully decided if I will use this name - I'm not going to rush into a snap decision. But I'm stuck on spellings and which one to use.....
when you read the name, how did you pronounce it as you read it?
Its meant to be read as 'Winterbee'.
other options are: Winterby, or I suppose Winterbi (I don't like either especially I ending!)
initilaly i liked 'winterbee' as it would be the easiest to spell, I simply say 'as in, winter' And 'bee' double ee. But thinking ahead, I'm not so sure - While it might fit in nicely with my sense of fun right now - not so sure when I'm 70 years old, I'll feel the same? Also too of course -much more immediate association with a winter bee as in buzzy bee ...
yet spelling it 'bey' - I'm not sure I like it ... Although adding the middle name I'd pick (after a very dear friend), it would mean my full name as all letters WXYZ which I then is pretty cool. Buuuut - the 'bey' doesn't seem to capture my sense if fun in the same way - I feel caught between a balance of what suits me now in this phase of my life, and thinking ahead (which face it - I could be struck by lightening next year and never have to worry about my name being less 'mature' as I age. Oils always just adopt a more 'grown up' spelling later on, too.
would the spelling 'bey' result in people thinking it's 'winter BYE'?
i also think winterby would be seen as 'win TER by' (I don't like how it looks either)
if anyone has any other ideas as to suffixes, I'm interested also. ones such as 'winterstone' or 'winter tree' I think make too much of a link to the stone and tree bit - it's WINTER i want the emphasis to be on. I also love the 'ee' sound at the end if Winterbey. And 'winterly' i tnk is a bit 'cold'. Basically, I just love how the 'bee' sound flows. But I'm open to other ideas
thanks in advance!
Tue, 09/23/2014 - 3:07pm