Changing name good or bad?
I was named after my grandmother and her parents came from Spain in fact my great-grandmother was pregnant with my grandma and her twin sister just in time for them to get to America. My grandfather was named Emilio and my grandma was named Emily and I was named Emily.
She has always been Overjoyed that I was named after her. It was a big deal that the first granddaughter was named after her I guess. I have always been her favorite special to her and there was even a little conflict because my father got to it first. Other than see how important it was to her growing up, I don't really understand why it was so important in the Spanish culture but it always made her happy it always made me happy and it gave us a strong bond.
I started to wonder conversations over the years if she was actually born Emilia like after her father Emilio. her parents wanted to americanize her sister and her for things to be easier. None of her children can answer the question what was she truly named. My grandfather is a person that I would never ask because I don't think he would truly know. It was so important to be Americanized I could even see it being taken as far as her doing that on her wedding day. If he knew her name was actually the other he would insist she always went by the American anyway and would never tell me the truth. My grandfather is someone who for his own reasons was never let her have her Spanish Traditions teach her kids Spanish or anything like that.
I was always told I was her namesake by everyone in the family and it was said as a big deal. I asked her one time if she was named Emilia and she said her name is Emily and I asked her what about your birth certificate. I could tell she was very sad in answer the question but she just repeated her name was Emily. If her real name is Emilia and I'm her namesake I believe that the only way I actually could be that is too have the correct name not the modernized version. She never looks so sad as she did want to ask her that.
I have always been proud to be her namesake so if I discover it is actually Emilia would it be wrong of me to change it? Her and I have always had a special connection and she would love to be truly honored no matter what. I just feel strongly about being named properly. It's like her last Spanish tradition honor she has is having me as her namesake. If I end up doing that to be exactly like her is there anything about that that would be dishonoring to her? Is there any reason why I shouldn't do it.
I didn't ask her I just said I should be named exactly how she is and she never said another word. It was the first time I've ever seen her bothered by our names. I did ask her twin sister before she passed and all she would say is you have to talk to her. Both my parents said they would have named me the other if they knew that was a her true given name. Since tradition was pretty much killed away in that family and I can't seem to find much on the subject I'm hoping that I could get the right advice on what my name should be because I believe it should be 100% what hers is and it makes me sad she had to get rid of it to fit it but I understand it as well because of the time. But she doesn't talk about those things. Nobody really knows, so if it's bad to change it and it would be dishonoring I would like to know that too.
She does not have much longer and it's important to me that it's correct especially since it's the last of anything she ever had of her Spanish heritage and family because everybody else is gone. If this is something you don't know I understand but I'm desperate at this point. Thank you for taking the time to at least read this and I look forward to any answer you may provide. We have all pretty much figured out it is her name but I'm trying to track down a copy of her actual birth certificate before I would do anything.
Mon, 11/13/2017 - 6:53am