Completely different tastes in names!

My husband and I are expecting our third baby and we haven't found out the gender yet, but the name discussion is already starting to cause a little turmoil in our house.  Our first two are girls, Fiona and Nora.  It's a miracle we ever agreed to those, either.  Our last name has a long ee sound to begin and ends in "man", so I want to avoid anything too rhyme-y.  Our biggest challenge is finding boy names we both like.  With the previous pregnancies our favorite was Eliott Quinn, and we might go with that again, but it's not really my favorite any more.  My taste runs to the traditional with a slight Irish/Unexpected twist.  His is more contemporary with a country twist.  I hate to admit it, but I hate everything he suggests.  I try to find common ground, but he shoots down everything I suggest, too.

He LOVES the name "Pilot".  I contend that this isn't a name, it's a job (he is studying to become a commercial pilot).  He argues that every name was once just a sound and we are the ones that assign meaning to it.  I pay a lot of attention to the meaning of names.  When we discuss names, this is his ONLY suggestion.  I went to Nymbler.com and entered Pilot as an inspiration and out of the list of suggestions he liked "Ryker", if that gives you a feel for his taste.  

My favorites include:

Boys:  Seamus, Eliott, Alastair, Alec, Fletcher, Merritt, Graham

Girls: Imogen, Maeve, Muriel

Although I'm not totally sold on any of those.

Is there a common ground between Pilot and Fletcher?  Any suggestions will be considered!  Thanks!

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December 8, 2014 12:07 PM

My first thought is Archer. Still a manly occupational name that your husband might like, but it has a more classic feel, especially with the nickname Archie. 

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December 8, 2014 12:17 PM

I'll add that my husband and I had a similar dilemma. I love old-man names and he likes manly fantasy-inspired names. We found common ground in Arthur: wonderfully stodgy for me, and cool for him due to the legendary king (we had just finished watching the BBC series Merlin). 

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December 8, 2014 12:11 PM

I think there must be quite a bit of middle ground between Pilot and Fletcher, since after all Fletcher was once a job rather than a name (making arrows, I believe) :-).

What about Aeron? It's an abbreviation for aeronautical, but also a Welsh name pronounced not unlike Aaron. Or perhaps Wright (another old occupation name), after the Wright brothers? If you're willing to go a little further "out there," I think Aileron is very usable as a name, with a sound somewhat similar to Alastair; it's an aviation term meaning "little wing"--I believe it refers to the "flap" on an airplane wing that shifts open or closed when banking.

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By TKB
December 8, 2014 12:30 PM

I'd have suggested Fletcher as the common ground between a little bit country quirky and a little bit Irish quirky. 

One of the nice things about using a name that doesn't have an "established" meaning is it means whatever the parents want it to - their wishes and hopes become the name's meaning. So I can see your husband's perspective: it's a tribute to himself, a form of having a junior. It means whatever aviation means to him - seeking the stars, travel, freedom, opprotunity. In that way, it's a beautiful name "meaning" even if it doesn't have historic usage. 

But I'm also with you that I"m not crazy about how it sounds.

 Have you considered each picking one name? Alastair Pilot has a nice ring to it.

Putting aside aviation, how about Forrest, Everett, Cooper, Austen, Sawyer, Asher?

Or aviation themed names: I quite like Wright for you. Wright Merritt Ee-man. Or Jules or Verne. Martin after Lockheed Martin?  Douglas after the Boeing DC line. For a girl, Amelia or even MN Earhart? You could do Katherine or Kathleen with nn Kittyhawk. 

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By mk
December 8, 2014 2:31 PM

I think using Pilot as a middle name or looking for another aviation-inspired name is the best way to bridge your two tastes. What about Jett or Piper? Or traditional names like Charles and Amelia, after famous pilots?

I think Pilot can work as a first name if you give a more traditional middle name. Jason Lee's son Pilot Inspecktor sounds odd because of the middle name, in my opinion. Something like Pilot George seems fine.

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December 8, 2014 4:53 PM

My husband is also a pilot & it seems that as a group, they can be a bit weird when it comes to baby names.  We know a family who have given all of their kids aviation related names (P!per, C3sna, Ry@n & Curt!ss).  My suggestion to you is to try & get your husband to be less literal about finding a pilot name.  

Are there specific aviators that he likes/is inspired by?  Charles (Lindbergh & Yeager), Amelia, etc. Plenty of classic names there.  If you like names with an Irish flare, look specifically for Irish-born pilots from WWII.  Edward (Mick) Mannock & Brendan Finucane were WWII aces.  Maybe Mick, Mannock or Brendan would appeal to both of you.

Plane/helicopter names & manufacturers are also a good place to look (though I suggest you avoid Fokker).  Bell, Piper, Curtiss, Electra, etc. McDonnell could be shortened to just Donnell, which has the Irish flair you like.

FWIW, Archer is a type of plane made by Piper.  Lee Archer was also the name of one of the Tuskegee Airmen.  Perhaps one or both of these points could help you sway your husband to consider Archer.

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By EVie
December 8, 2014 11:47 PM

I'll throw out a bunch of letters from the NATO Phonetic Alphabet as some more aviation-inspired names: Charlie, Echo, India, Juliette, Mike, Oscar, Romeo, Sierra and Victor are all well-established names, and I can see Alpha, Bravo, Delta, Kilo and Lima working as well. And Dash is used for a hyphen--maybe Dashiell, nicknamed Dash? And there is also Roger, used to indicate a message has been received. 

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December 10, 2014 2:00 PM

Everyone, thank you so much for your replies!  When discussing names my husband told me he liked Pilot because of what it means to him and because it "sounds cool."  So the aviation names have been great at opening up the discussion and moving it in another vein.  He likes Jules, although our sister-in-law is named Julie and that's his brother's nickname for her, but we imagine she might be honored with a namesake.  I can get on board with Jules, at least it's better than Pilot!  

We have discussed every name you mentioned, so if you have more ideas, keep them coming!  They don't have to be aviation-themed, but they need to strike a balance between his country/"cool" taste and my traditional/Irish taste.

Thanks again!

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December 12, 2014 8:40 PM

Wyatt is another name that is pretty popular over both tastes. How about Jack? it's traditional but snappy and feels very adventure-y.