Deleting old forums that you started???

I have a very old question on this site that I would like to erase from cyberspace...anybody know how to go about this? It is obviously not that easy... 


November 24, 2014 8:05 PM

Tell me which question and I'll delete it using my moderator superpowers. :-)

(Of course, this will only affect BNW's content. If someone has archived or otherwise copied content from here, you'll have to contact the other site's owner.)

June 3, 2018 1:15 PM


Hello!  Are you able to delete my post?

January 19, 2018 11:51 AM

Hello - I realize this is old, but is there any chance you'd be able to delete mine as well? It was just created yesterday. Thanks!

January 19, 2018 12:00 PM

Are you sure you want to delete it, or would anonymizing it be enough? (Replace characters with numbers or symbols to make names harder to find in a web search, delete identifying information if it's irrelevant to the discussion, that sort of thing.) I'm reluctant to just delete people's creativity and helpfulness.

January 19, 2018 12:27 PM

I'd really prefer if it could please be deleted - I think the unique combinations will be too searchable in the future. Really appreciate your help!

January 19, 2018 2:07 PM

Do you want to wait a day or two to get more replies, or do you want it deleted now?

January 19, 2018 2:17 PM

If it could be deleted now, that would be great. I truly appreciate it!

January 19, 2018 2:43 PM

I've anonymized it quite a bit, but there are all sorts of good suggestions and resources in the comments that I'd like to keep around. Will this do?

(I seem to recall being able to change the author of posts, too, but I can't seem to find that option. Other mods: am I imagining things?)

January 19, 2018 2:47 PM

Without going into details, this has already caused me problems and it would make a huge difference to me if it could be entirely deleted at this point.

January 19, 2018 3:40 PM

When in the editing mode, you expand the administration options and changing the author and time/date are there. 

June 1, 2018 1:40 PM


Could my post be deleted as well?  From last week?? Thank you!!


January 20, 2018 4:48 AM

I don't want anything deleted, but if someone could anonymize my daughter's name in my post "Girl Options" I'd appreciate it. It's spelled out normally in one response (Suzanne's) and as a result shows up in google searches with the other names under consideration.

Thank you mods!

January 20, 2018 9:01 AM

On it!

May 30, 2018 3:34 PM

New poster here, and this may sound like a dumb question, but why are people so concerned with not having these forums come up on Google if someone searches their kid's name? Is it a privacy issue? Do you not want other people to know what names you considered? It seems like this is a common thing that a lot of people do, and if someone could explain it I'd really appreciate it.


May 30, 2018 4:12 PM

It depends on the person, but there are some common themes.

Some folks just don't want their kids' names out there on general principle, or are concerned that the specific combination of names will make them identifiable in real life (generally not an issue for one kid named Charlotte Grace, but a Carolizza Guccii with older siblings Udolpho and Merline could probably be pinpointed).

Others might have included some sensitive information in the post (like "we can't use the middle name Rose because we don't want my mother's annoying aunt Rosemary to think it's in her honor") that would be recognizable if someone who knew them came across the post.

And some just don't want their whole name process out in the open. This can especially be an issue if any reservations were expressed about the chosen name that might someday bother the child if they google their own name.

My own strong preference is to mask names (or even redact them entirely) rather than delete a whole thread, as other people put in time and effort to their replies and I hate to lose that helpful information. But I'm also in the "don't put your kids' names on the internet anywhere if you can possibly help it, on general principle" camp, so I can definitely sympathize with the impulse.

June 4, 2018 4:33 PM

Thanks for answering! You really helped me understand this.


January 21, 2018 10:43 AM

I accidentally posted mine in "personal Experiences: Your Name Your Life" 3x somehow?? it's called "Looking for a middle and last name to match my first?" if someone could get rid of the duplicates that'd be amazing.

January 21, 2018 11:58 AM

That's a common problem and mods are always on the lookout for duplicate posts! Doing it now.

January 23, 2018 4:24 PM

I would also like to delete (or at least anonymize) a post of mine as well - regarding naming remorse. Can someone help me, please?

January 23, 2018 7:22 PM

Hi, Elsasmom! Want to have a look at whether I managed to your satisfaction? I loved your post and I'd prefer to anonymize rather than delete if it's agreeable to you!

January 24, 2018 3:24 PM

Thank you Lucubratirix. That should do the trick!

January 25, 2018 4:42 AM

If you change your mind at any point, just let us know - we can delete if it makes you feel better. I know how hard it is when you have unusually named kids in a sibset together, and one of the first things I did with my moderator status was to mask all of my kids' names!

January 25, 2018 2:55 PM

Actually, I would prefer if you delete the post. Thank you for understanding.

January 25, 2018 8:55 PM

Done! I hope your name regret is a thing of the past, too!

January 24, 2018 5:31 PM

I accidentally created 3 of the same forums, I blame myself and my extremely poor internet connection. Sorry!

January 24, 2018 5:33 PM

No worries, we'll fix it. This site is very slow loading sometimes, which tends to cause the multiple-posting problem.

May 28, 2018 7:52 PM

Hi I know this is an old thread but I’m hoping the right people see it. I created a post a few years back with too much detail. It was for a sister for Gemma Penelope, we actually had a boy! Now we’re expecting again and it’s a girl and there’s too much detail about possible names that might be chosen. A quick google search can give too much info away. Can someone delete it please? It would help me out so much! Thank you!! 

May 28, 2018 8:49 PM

Do you want it deleted or would masking names be enough?

May 29, 2018 7:04 AM

deleted would be great, thank you so much ! 

May 29, 2018 9:28 AM


May 29, 2018 10:39 AM

Thanks sooo much!! 

May 30, 2018 10:49 PM

Could my post be deleted as well?  From last week?? Thank you!!

June 4, 2018 9:42 AM

I took care of that for you.

July 30, 2018 4:50 PM

Hi there,

Is it possible to delete my post as well:

"Classic but not too common boy name. Thanks in advance!"


Thank you so much!

June 4, 2018 5:49 PM

Hi mods, could you delete all posts I created that include my children's names? I know I definitely have a dilemma post and a birth announcement, I can't remember if there are others -- they'd all be before May 2014. Thanks!

June 4, 2018 6:57 PM

I know that it seems like an easy request, but hunting down your posts and deleting them would take a considerable amount of work for moderators who are volunteering their time. Moderators cannot easily access everything posted by an individual and many of our other abilities are severely lacking. If you have specific posts that you'd like names masked or changed, please email the moderator account (bnwmod at Gmail) with the links and we'll make sure that they don't turn up in a Google search. Thank you for your understanding. 

June 6, 2018 6:03 AM

I did think it was an easy request -- I imagined you could search by user name or similar -- so sorry to have assumed incorrectly! I very much appreciate that mods volunteer their time and I'm constantly impressed by how much you do for the site. I'll find the posts myself and email the moderator account! Thanks!

June 6, 2018 9:46 AM

That's appreciated. We have the ability to see the past 4-5 (I think) comments, just like anyone else can -- and that's only if the user hasn't turned off the option of having past comments visible. Our ability to delete spam en masse has improved greatly over the past month or so, but we're still really limited in other ways. 

As moderators, some of us have gone back and masked our old posts until they didn't show up in Google searches, so we definitely understand the desire for privacy. Would that be acceptable to you? I know that we're all more than happy to edit until the poster is satisfied and reluctant to wholesale delete posts. We could even change names for similar ones, etc., so that your family is 100% unidentifiable. 

June 6, 2018 1:26 PM

We can search posts by using google. However, using your kids' full names no posts from the BNW forum show up, just a lot of articles with the up-to-date list of your kids' names from your newspaper column byline (which I am sure you know about). I'm happy to redact your kids' names from the posts further, and I've edited the instances of names being fully spelled out... but they really aren't making it on google.

June 6, 2018 1:36 PM

I just tackled all the names/comments in and am now working on Let me know if you spot any other things you'd like to edit out of the post.

June 8, 2018 5:50 PM

Thanks for this! I stopped including my kids' names in the paper a few years ago, though I know the old issues are available.

July 16, 2018 9:32 AM


    Could someone please, please delete my account on this website as well as the posts that I've created, I been trying to e-mail the site itself but didn't get a reply back, I need someone to please delete my account under the name Marysnow, or powernik thank you for your help.