Did I pick too common a name?

Hi everyone!  A few months ago, I tortured you all in 'Dilemmas' with my chronic indecision regarding a name for baby girl #2. I received the most thoughtful and insightful advice from so many people! Dad and I had finally agreed on Alexandra Maren - for about two weeks. Unfortunately, I started noticing that EVERYONE around me was choosing 'A' names; I also discovered 'Alex' names are popular in certain industries (my dad pointed this trend out to me, bless his dirty-minded old heart). So, we vetoed Alexandra. And could agree on nothing else. 

Well, baby girl #2 arrived on the 19th! We had no name picked out... but soon after she was born, as I was gazing lovingly upon her, I thought 'Julia?' I ran it by her Dad, my moms, some nurses, whoever I could corner and it received a favorable response - so I mulled it over for two days before committing to Julia Maren. I know I had checked it against the SSA database, but apparently in my after-birth exhaustion I failed to notice how popular Julia has been for, well, forever. 

So. I turn once again to the good and honest people of this community... How do you all feel about Julia? I would like to know ALL your thoughts on the name - is it too common, feminine or not, classic or dated, etc. etc. Also, I'd like to know how you all think it fits with big sister's name, Elaina Marie. I am trying to figure out if my second-guessing is just a byproduct of my generally indecisive nature, or if it is well-founded and I need to seriously consider a trip to Vital Records. Thanks in advance for your honesty! 

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July 30, 2014 4:04 PM

I think Julia is a great choice. Yes, it's high on the popularity charts, but for good reason: it's a beautiful name! If you're worried about popularity, however, put your mind at ease. It only ranked 75 last year, the lowest ranking it has had in a while. Despite it being a top-100 name, it's really more unique than you think because it has no sound-alike names clustered around it. Juliana (149), Julianna (190), and Julianne (819) are its only cousins on the charts. That makes Julia a lot less common than a name like Kyla, which was only ranked 319 last year. But Kyla sounds a heck of a lot like Kayla, Kaya, Kylie, Lila, and Mila (etc., etc.).

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July 30, 2014 10:00 AM

Speaking as a Julia, daughter and grandaughter of Julias, I can attest that Julia is a beautiful name that's very easy to live with. Like many names, it comes in clumps (at my daughter Julianna's preschool activities, we have regular encounters with a Julia, a Julianne, and a Julian), but I haven't ever had to use an initial at school or work. It's the perfect balance between familiar and uncommon: people know how to spell it and say it, but they tend to remember it because they don't encounter it every day.

Popularity-wise, it has always been fairly steadily in use, but hasn't ever made the top 25 in the U.S. (Highest ranking was 26th, in 1880; lowest was 141st, in the mid-70s -- just after I was born.)

I think a baby born this year named Julia is unlikely to have a classmate who shares her name, but she may have classmates with older sisters named Julia -- the name had a popularity peak about ten years ago or so.

Congratulations, and I think you made an excellent choice of name!

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July 30, 2014 11:45 AM

I agree that Julia is beautiful and timeless. I think it's a great choice, and I actually don't know anyone with the name, so it feels uncommon to me. My associations are Julia Child and Julia Roberts. My daughter's name is Juliet, which is less popular, but has the Shakespearean baggage (which hasn't been an issue yet but might be annoying when she's a teen). I hope you can come to peace with your choice, or quickly find the perfect name!

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By mk
July 30, 2014 3:38 PM

Julia is a pretty classic name. The only Julias I know are adults. I would not really consider it popular in general.

Maybe I'm being naive, but what negative industries are filled with people named Alex? The only Alexes I know are in the science field.

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July 31, 2014 2:45 AM

Thank you for asking this question. I have a 6-year-old Alexandra that we call Alex, and I am wondering what "industries" your dad was referring to. This is the first I've heard of it. 

As for Julia, it's a pretty name and not that popular. Even if it becomes popular, it's a classic like Sarah or Elizabeth so it won't be dated. When something has been popular 'forever' I think that may be a good sign that it's not just trendy. It sounds like you may be asking too many people's opinions, which can only add to your doubts. 

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July 31, 2014 5:12 AM

I apologize for any confusion my statement created. To be more specific, by "Alex" names I mean Alexis, Alexia, and Lexi - and 'certain industries' was a reference to exotic dancing - apparently my dad (who's a trucker, though that's really no excuse) spent more time in clubs than I realized, and his associating Alexandra with those other names turned me off it. Alexandra is a beautiful name - I did not mean to imply otherwise. I also think the other names are pretty. They were all on the list, actually. I really meant no offense, I often speak/write without filtering. :-(

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July 31, 2014 3:55 PM

Interesting...  I'm not offended. I understand everyone has different associations with names. :)

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By mk
July 31, 2014 9:29 PM

No offense, I was just really curious because I could not figure it out.

I agree, if that's what your dad associates those names with, you should probably avoid them.

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August 3, 2014 6:08 PM

Thank you all for the encouraging words!  I really can't imagine another name better for our little girl, but I do feel some relief that others (who have no reason to lie or try and spare my feelings) have responded so positively to the name Julia. I think part of my unease was due to the fact that I had no opportunity to feel the name out prior to choosing it, unlike with our first daughter's name - Elaina - which we decided on well before her birth. But, I think Julia knew her name before we did, lol. It's no wonder nothing else felt right! Thank you again for your input, everyone! 

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March 12, 2015 6:00 PM

I like Julia, but my daughter is Maren. You have good taste! :)