Gender associations for Lex

My given name is Alexa, but I've never liked the femininity of it. Family and close friends often called me Lex when I was younger, and around age 12 I decided I wanted to exclusively be addressed as Lex. That decision has, for the most part, stuck. I'm considering legally changing my name to Lex, not only to make things easier, but because I feel that it's more gender neutral (which would be ideal since I'm agender). If you were to hear about someone named Lex (assuming you were given no other indication of gender, such as pronouns), would you think male, female, or be unsure? I know that the process of legally changing one's name is a hassle, and I don't want to go through that if my name still reads as female. I'd really appreciate any thoughts on this, though I have to ask that any opinions about my gender not be expressed.

Thanks a bunch!

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June 30, 2015 1:00 AM

All the Lexes I know of, real and fictional, have been male.  However, the Latin word lex is a third declension feminine noun (by and large Latin abstract nouns are feminine), so there's that.  OTOH I hear Alex on both males and females.

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June 30, 2015 1:35 AM

It strikes me as gender neutral leaning female.  I wouldn't want to guess gender based on the name Lex. 

3
June 30, 2015 7:23 AM

I would be unsure. My first association is Lex Luthor, and I have known no Lexes in real life, so I'd lean toward assuming the person was male, but I wouldn't be positive.

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June 30, 2015 8:19 AM

I'd say unisex-leaning-girl. IMO Alex leans more unisex, if you'd consider changing it to that, legally. You could still go by Lex, but legally, would be more ambiguous. 

Of course, if for whatever reason (family member/friend/bad association is called Alex; or you just don't like Alex), then completely disregard me and go for Lex. It sounds fine to me, and it would give me a pause gender-wise.

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June 30, 2015 5:06 PM

Unfortunately, I have a cousin who I am very close in age to named Alexander, and he goes by Alex, which would be very difficult because we have the same surname. I think my family would also be able to transition to calling me Lex more easily than Alex.

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June 30, 2015 9:36 AM

Lex as a casual nickname I would probably guess female, shortened from Lexie. Lex as a given name I would lean male, as Lex Luthor is my only point of reference. Oh, and the sentient eponymous spaceship, Lexx--male voiced, I think.

Either way, I think Lex or Alex would suit your needs. If you want to preserve your monogram and/or want a fairly familiar option, go with Alex; otherwise, Lex.

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June 30, 2015 5:08 PM

Thanks all for your input. I'm concluding that it's largely neutral, so this has been really helpful.

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June 30, 2015 5:12 PM

Unsure. At first I assumed it was a feminine nickname in the same family as Lux, but then my primary association is with Lex Luther, so I agree with pp that it should absolutely fit your needs. There's a lot of fluidity to it that seems like just what you want.

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By mk
June 30, 2015 6:07 PM

It is entirely neutral to me.

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June 30, 2015 10:39 PM

It's very close to neutral for me, too. Maybe leaning slightly male, but only because of Lex Luthor, not because of any actual human persons. 

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July 7, 2015 5:09 PM

The full-name Lexes that I know are male, so that would be my assumption. Lex as a nickname seems fairly neutral to me, Lex as a full name seems male. Hearing the name Lex with no other context I'd assume most likely male, but possibly a nicknamed female.

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July 8, 2015 6:29 PM

I think it's a great gender-neutral name. Enough so, in fact, that I would tend to expect it to belong to someone of nonbinary gender, and to be a nickname for the also-gender-neutral Alexis. I love it, and in fact I wish I had a nickname quite as elegantly un-gendered.

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By Fly
July 9, 2015 7:24 AM

Lex is only associated with Lex Luthor for me, so it definitely reads masculine. A feminine version would be Lexi. Alex is fairly neutral, but leans masculine on weight of association.

Longer forms all read definitively one way or the other, except perhaps Alexis, which used to read masculine and now reads neutral leaning feminine.

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October 22, 2016 2:25 PM

"lex" is 100% a guys' name. No question.  I can't believe someone commented that they wouldn't be sure.  Well. They should be.  Number one, I have a very broad and deep background in English literature and usage....and i'm also in sales and have to make these kinds of decisions every day.  I would never think once about wheather Lex was male or female name.  Of course, using it in an androgynous way is your perorgative and adorable.  But is a man's name.

This week.

 

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pete