Husband is being difficult!!!

Hi everyone,

i posted earlier about names for our new twins but since then my partner has just gone weird. Hes adamant he wants his names and we can't decide on anything else. it's make it more difficult since we don't know the genders yet.

He wants Lazarus and Diesel for boys ( which I find truly hideous, sorry if I'm offending) Meadow and La'tisha for girls and Daxon and Grayun for one of each

I like Kaspar and Everest/Roman for boys, Lyric and Winter/Skye for girls and Roman and Wiinter

He chose Free's name so now it's my turn.

Am I being silly .... What should I do?


BTW Our other kids are Micah, Tobiah and Freedom


January 11, 2017 11:13 PM

Of course it's not silly to be opposed to the other partner dictating something as important as your children's names, with no input from the other partner.

I have to agree with you. I don't prefer any of your husband's combinations. They do not mesh with the styles of the paired name, or with you other children. As for the b/g pairing he suggested, I can't tell which name is meant for the boy and which for the girl and I don't see any appeal of Grayun.

I really like your name pairs. However, maybe you both need to just sit on this for a little while until you find out the genders and can have a more focused discussion, leaving out the arguments that aren't relevant to these two little people.

Good luck! I hope you are able to find two names you both love.

January 12, 2017 5:59 AM

That sounds like quite the dilemma!  When are you going to find out the genders?  That should at least reduce some of the guesswork / options.  Rather than each of you pinpointing complete combos and pairings that you're attached to as THE FAVORITE, maybe stepping back a bit?  Like each of you make a list of 10 girl and 10 boy names and compare.  Each of you gets to veto half of the others' list.  See what's left, if there's any common ground.  Possibly repeat a few times, adding five more names to your lists at every round.  Something like that.  But if it's a point of tension right now, better step back for a little while, if you're not too far along in the pregnancy.

I do think it will be much easier to think about names individually, rather than as twin pairings (so long as you're avoiding matchy-matchy scenarios like Romy and Roman).

January 12, 2017 4:59 PM

It sounds like you guys were more or less on the same page just a few days ago.  Why don't you wait a few more days to see if your husband snaps out of it?  Unless he's suddenly acting weird about other things, too, in which case you should get him medically evaluated.