Is this the one perfect name, or a huge mistake?
Hi all! My sister and I are name nerds, and I'm posting this dilemma on her behalf. She posed the same question elsewhere, but I really value all of your thoughts; they're always very insightful.
My sister and her husband have styles that are worlds apart. She likes "old man names", preferably with cute nicknames (Gerald/Jerry, Henry/Hank, Francis/Frankie, Carl, Dean, Russel/Russ, Charles/Chaz). She really wants to use Francis Xavier, in honor of our grandfather, but her husband really dislikes Francis/Frankie. However, he does like Xavier. His other favorites: Cassius, Octavius, Casimir/"Caz", Axel. My sister does not like his choices, to put it mildly.
There is one name they both agree on: Thomas/Tommy. She has always loved it, and her husband really likes it too. It's also a family name with very positive associations.
Here's the catch: they have a 2-year-old son named Jerry (Ger@ld J0seph)
Do you think they can use Tommy? Normally, I'd agree with the majority of people she's polled so far, and say absolutely not. However, I'm coming around to it... they've had such a tough time agreeing so far; Tommy "goes" with Jerry stylistically; and it seems silly to rule out a name based on something that might only be an issue for the relatively short period of their lives when the kids are always together. She wants 4 kids, and realizes it'd be better to wait and maybe use the name for a 3rd or 4th, but obviously there's no guarantee. My sister is a pretty confident, laid-back person, and I think she could deal with the comments. I just wouldn't want everyone to be secretly judging her, or laughing at the kids, and I think that's basically how she feels, too.
So what to y'all think? If it's a resounding no, do you have any suggestions that might suit both their styles? One name they also like is Henry/Hank. However, she's hesitant to use it, in case her husband ever comes around to Frankie (since they rhyme).
Really appreciate your honest opinions and unbiased perspectives, and I promise to post an update - she's due in early April, so it'll be soon!
Sat, 03/09/2019 - 3:17pm