Middle name/initial thoughts

My husband and I are expecting a baby boy soon (June 11th or anytime now) to add to our family. We have two names that are top contender:



We have a 3 year old daughter already (Rylie June / RJH).


I am debating weather or not a “J” middle name is a bad idea or not. I don’t know if “BJ” will be something that will get a bad nickname or be made fun of. 

Our middle name options currently include:

Ethan James (we just like the ring to it, if we choose this first name probably will pick this middle name) 

Bryce Anson (obviously not a J)

Bryce Jarrett

Bryce James

Bryce Jerome

[all middle names being considered run in the family; my daughters middle name is also Mine, my mothers, and my grandmothers first name....]

I am open to all thoughts and suggestions. At this point I just don’t know if I am overthinking it, or if it something to be concerned with. Thanks in advance! 


May 21, 2018 11:03 PM

Here is a discussion that we had about the same topic a couple of years ago. 

Basically, I don't think I'd do it, but if YOU don't call him BJ, it's unlikely to be a problem.

May 22, 2018 2:08 AM

I agree. If you don't use BJ no one will find it a problem. I like Ethan James the best. 

May 22, 2018 10:13 AM

I like Ethan James,  2nd would be Bryce James - I dont think BJ would be a problem

May 22, 2018 6:20 PM

I don't think BJ will be an issue, but I like Ethan a lot better than Bryce.

May 23, 2018 10:02 AM

I agree with this. I particularly like Ethan better than Bryce in the context of a sister named Rylie. Rylie and Bryce fuzzes the gender a little for me (though this might be a plus for you), whereas Ethan is unambiguously male and by contrast makes Rylie seem more clearly to refer to a girl when shouted across a playground.

May 23, 2018 11:33 AM

I happen to love the name Bryce and the gender ambiguity Rylie and Bryce bring. But, I think Rylie and Bryce could easily become Bry and Ry. Coupled with the likely BJ initials, Ethan seems like a better choice for you.

May 23, 2018 11:46 AM

If you were saying "our absolute favorite name has the initials BJ" I would say that the issue isn't big enough to forego your best-beloved name. But you're deciding between several options, and I do think it is a big enough issue to be a tie-breaker. So I would drop the BJ options off your list, and see if you can fall in love with one of the choices that remain. If you don't, and instead keep thinking longingly of one of the BJ choices, then you can reconsider.

(And while we're on the topic of initials: there are a lot of BA_ words, so just double-check that his initials wouldn't spell anything you dislike--i.e. you may want to skip that combo if your last name is Davis.)

May 23, 2018 3:09 PM

^^ I agree with this. If you can't get on board with Ethan and REALLLLLLY love a "BJ" initial name, I would not say it should keep you from using it. But if you love them all, I think this could be a tie-breaker...

May 23, 2018 4:11 PM

I agree with this too. If Bryce was the name you loved most and you had one specific middle in mind with a lot of significance that happened to start with a J then I think you could overcome the issue of the BJ initials, but as you have multiple options I think it's best avoided.


May 28, 2018 9:24 PM

I also like Ethan a lot better than Bryce, which kind of reminds me of "rice." I don't think BJ is a huge issue unless that was going to be a nickname. I do like EJ as a nickname for Ethan James.

Fun fact: they both mean "strength."

June 20, 2018 4:18 PM

Thank you all. We welcomed Ethan Jarrett on June 12th! Big sister Rylie June is excited and getting used to her baby brother. I appreciate everyone who took time to comment. Thanks again!

June 20, 2018 5:15 PM

Congratulations! I really like the name Ethan and I think it's sweet that both children share a middle initial, it's a nice subtle connection. Thanks for coming back to update us. :)

June 20, 2018 5:20 PM

Yeah,  Congrats and thanks for the update.  Great name too and goes well with Rylie

June 20, 2018 5:21 PM

Fantastic! Thanks for the update and glad that you won't have to give another thought to his initials, even if someone decides to use them as a nickname :)

September 23, 2018 2:27 PM







September 24, 2018 11:26 AM

Kamilla, why are you responding to a months-old "baby has arrived" announcement with a list of names?