My new baby

So I recently gave birth to a beautiful baby girl, who was born happy and healthy! However, she has no name! My boyfriend and I have a few names picked out but cannot decide which... We both like Honey, Nellie and Hattie. The middle name will be Jennifer Anne. We have our hearts set on the middle names, but we are open to any other suggestions on first names. I have a niece called Ivy already as well. We are trying to decide so we can officially register her. 

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April 30, 2018 12:19 PM

Are you, by any chance, in the UK? Honey feels a bit cutesy for North America but I can see it fitting into the nickname-heavy name culture in the UK. 

The middle names are not really any help since I think that all three options go equally well since they're all quite similar (two syllables, ending in the "ee" sound). What about the baby's surname? 

If you really can't decide, I recommend trying the coin toss method. Take two of the names, assign heads or tails, and toss for it. You might find yourself really happy with the winner or lamenting the loss of the loser. That would tell you which of the two you prefer and you can eliminate the one your gut didn't like as much. Repeat until you have a winner.

Or you and your boyfriend can independently rank the names and you can then compare. If the same name is at the bottom of both lists, it's eliminated. If the same name is at the top, it's the winner. If you have different tops, well, you're at least down to two and can try the coin toss method.

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April 30, 2018 12:27 PM

Yes, you are right, we are from the UK. The babies surname is Moore-Taylor.

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April 30, 2018 12:55 PM

I like Hattie. It is a sweet name and works with both the middle names and the surname.

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By EVie
April 30, 2018 1:04 PM

To be honest, Honey really strikes me as too much, just because it's so entrenched as a generic term of endearment, especially for married couples (as illustrated by phrases like a "honey-do" list that have entered the mainstream vernacular). Kind of like using Sweetie or Babe as a given name. I see why it appeals, I see why it has a "name-like" feel, and I see why it would seem less out-there in the U.K. than in the U.S., but for me it's a stretch too far. I also don't think it will age well--in another decade or so, this trend for cutesy nicknames will have blown over, and it will just be kind of silly and embarrassing for her. Hattie and Nellie are at least very well-established nicknames, and won't be outliers in a world of Ellies and Daisies. (My favorite of the set is Nellie, which I like very much).

I'm trying to think of another example of this type of name -- the stylistic extreme of a trend that doesn't age as well as the more mainstream core. Anyone have any ideas?

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April 30, 2018 1:45 PM

I agree with all of this. I also think that Honey is a name not all personality types can carry off. If your daughter ends up going through an extreme Goth phase, I'm thinking she won't be overly thrilled to be called Honey. I also like Nellie the best, but Hattie is nice too.

(EVie, a name I've seen discussed in a similar way here is Birdie. I personally feel Birdie is somewhat easier to wear than Honey though. Another -- more dated -- name in the same vein might be Candy).

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April 30, 2018 1:36 PM

I like Nellie and Hattie. I agree with others that Honey seems a step too far--in addition to the generic endearment, it also has some sexual overtones that I would find a bit uncomfortable for a young woman.

As an alternative to Honey, maybe Bonnie? It sounds similar and also has a sweet meaning. Henny is sometimes used as a nickname for Henrietta (if you're wanting to honor a Harry or Henry with Hattie you could get an honor-name and a Honey sound-alike); I don't know if it sounds too chicken-ish, though, as in Henny Penny. Hmm, Penny is a cute option, too, actually.

Is Lottie your own name, or just part of your handle? If it's not your actual name, Nellie and Hattie together remind me of Lettie, which I love. 

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By EVie
April 30, 2018 2:11 PM

Yes, that's a really good point. I've definitely been called "honey" in a cat-calling situation. Now I'm imagining how awkward and uncomfortable it would be to exist as a teenager/young woman and have *every* older man I interact with calling me "Honey." It would probably make some of *them* rather uncomfortable, too (the upstanding ones) and the more disreputable ones would probably manage to stick some extra innuendo in there. <shudder>

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April 30, 2018 3:59 PM

This is making me see new problems with Baby's name in Jane the Virgin, too.

(Haven't seen it? Watch it, but don't read anything about it until you've seen all 4 seasons!)

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April 30, 2018 2:54 PM

I like Nellie best by far!  Such a sweet name.  I also like that it lends itself to Nell. 

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April 30, 2018 5:11 PM

sorry I dont like Honey  - Hattie is ok,  followed by Nellie -  I like the suggestion of Bonnie

others similar

Phoebe, Bronte, Sadie, Elsie, Josie, Gracie, Sylvie, Sally

Amy, Abby, Ellie, Evie, Allie, Katie, Lily, Ruby, Lucy, Milly, Molly, Quinlee, Xanthe, Chloe, Zoe, Julie, Chelsea

or maybe use a one syllable name and use the e/y sound as a nn - eg Eve, Rose, Grace, Kate, Anne, Jane, Ruth

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April 30, 2018 5:13 PM

Honey is a generic term of endearment you can use regardless of what her actual name is.  Besides the above-outlined benefits to your child of not being named Honey, you get the advantage of choosing two names if you put something else on the birth certificate and call her Honey sometimes as well.

 

Nellie and Hattie are really sweet nicknames, but I'm not at all a fan of them standing on their own.  For Nellie, there are loads of great options: Eleanor, Cornelia, Penelope, Ellen, Elizabeth, Helen (basically anything beginning El-).  Hattie could come from either Harriet or the more formal Henrietta.  Even if you don't completely love the long form, you can use the nickname 95% of the time and just know that you've given your daughter the flexibility to wear her name as best fits her throughout her life.  I personally felt that my -ie nickname had become a bit too babyish around fourth grade.  I'm all in favor of big, formal names to grow into, rather than cutesy ones to risk growing out of.

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May 1, 2018 10:15 AM

This seems to be one of those Atlantic divide things--this does not seem to be a concern in the UK the way it is here, and the cultural issues are different enough that there may be drawbacks to having a "big, formal" version of the name that wouldn't occur to most folks in the US.

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May 1, 2018 3:37 PM

I think it's one of the biggest differences in the naming culture. To give a few examples of people I personally know with names that are "just" the short version: Jenny, Nell, Evie, Bea, Albie, Alfie, Max, Jamie, Alex, Kit. Most of those are under 12 but a couple are adults, and I'm sure there's more that I'm just not remembering right now. 

Even given the nickname-type names though I agree Honey is too much, and you can use it as an unrelated-to-the-name-nickname anyway. Between Hattie and Nellie I prefer Hattie but that is purely because I work with young children and can't now unassociate Nellie with the elephant and her annoying song. 

A couple of other suggestions sticking with the two-syllable -ee ending sound: Maisy/Maisie, Tilly/Tillie, Rosie, Callie, Jessie, Libby