Name for our son!

We just found out we are having a boy, and me and my husband cannot agree on a name. Personally, my favorite boy name for as long as I can remember is Theodore, but I don't know what middle name I like yet. My husband likes Theodore too, but his favorites are Oliver and Brian. I like Oliver, but absolutely do not like the name Brian. His dad's name is Brian Scott, but he goes by Scott, and my husband really wants to give his son some tribute to his father, but I am not a fan of Scott at all either.

Right now, we both like Theodore (nickname Theo) or Oliver, but we can't think of a middle name for either names. My husband is pushing for Brian, and I'm thinking of just settling because I don't know how to convince him out of it.

Other middle names I like for Theodore or Oliver: Roy (my grandfathers name), Thomas (my dad's name), Vincent (my husbands name)

We have a daughter named Alexandria Rosalie, we call her Alex or Aly


Please help!! Thank you!!


February 22, 2017 9:00 PM

If he's determined to use Brian in honor of his father, something tells me that using your dad's or your grandfather's names as an alternative is not going to get you very far. How about a name that has a B and an S in it to honor Brian Scott?

Theodore Basil
Theodore Bastien
Theodore Bryson
Theodore Blaise
Theodore Baptiste
Theodore Sebastian
Theodore Sabas 

Vincent's V and Scott's S could get you Vasili/Vasilios, Vitus, and Valerius. Or Sylvan/Sylvio, Sylvester, Sven, Salvador/Salvatore, Steven, Silvio, or Stanislav.

Theodore Scott Thomas has a nice ring to it and honors both your fathers together. Or Oliver Prescott.

If you're thinking you might settle, putting Brian or Scott in that middle slot and thrilling your husband might be a worthy investment that keeps giving for a lifetime.

February 23, 2017 12:48 AM

I'm thinking that if you score your favorite first name, i.e., Theodore/Theo it would be gracious to give your husband lead on the middle name.  Seriously,  middle names are rarely used.  I think they're perfect for honor or senitmental names.  Can you jazz the name up a bit to something you like better?  I wanted to middle-name my daughter after my beloved grandmother but frankly did not like her given name.  My way out was the Irish variant of her name, which I love and we are Irish so a fitting winner all around.  BUT..... not a lot to work with re: Brian and Scott.  Hmmm.  Byron?  Scotland?  Some sort of Brian-Scott mash-up? Brant, Bryant, maybe Brittan.  Not getting too far with that either.

On the other hand, if you go with your husband's vote of Oliver, I think it's more than fair to veto his preferred middle names.

Can I ask how you named your daughter?  Was it a really mutual "we both just love Alexandria Rosalie!" or did someone get their favorites or family heritage more than the other?  It might be time for the compromise to work the other way this time around.

For what it's worth, I'm seriously crushing on Theodore Scotland as a name right now.  Sooooo cool.


February 23, 2017 12:15 PM

Brian probably derives from an old Celtic element meaning 'hill', and Scott is 'Scottish, Gaelic-speaking' (from/via a Latin name, but of unknown origin beyond that). Sir Hugh Munro wrote a catalog of Scotland's 3000-foot hills in 1891, and they're now known collectively as "the Munros". Other Scottish hill-names: Merrick, Galloway, Lowther, Moffat, Pentland, Moorfoot, Lammermuir, Corbett, Graham, Donald.

February 23, 2017 4:06 PM

Theodore & Oliver are both lovely.  To me, it really sounds like you have it narrowed down to 2 solid names.  

I like middle names that are in some way meaningful to the family & the middle slot is the perfect place to tuck an honor name that isn't your name style.  Middle names are rarely used anyway, so a disliked name is not going to matter much in daily use.  Unless there is some reason you feel strongly that your husband's father isn't worthy of a namesake, I see no reason not to do it.

I suggest making a deal with your husband, if you get your first pick of first name, then he can pick the middle.  At the very least, it would push your husband to decide which he wants more, pick of first, or an honor name for his father.  Theodore Brian or Theodore Scott are both fine.  If you use Oliver as the first, then you get to pick the middle, and I think an honor name from your side would work great (I would probably save Vincent as an honor-name from dad's side). Then suggest that you alternate for any future babies.  

Baby #1 Mom'sFirst + Dad'sMiddle, Baby #2 Dad'sFirst + Mom'sMiddle.   Or, you can make it even more specific and require that middles be honor names that switch from your side to husband's side of the family.  Baby #1 Dad'sFirst, MomsSideHonorMiddle and Baby #2, Mom'sFirst, Dad'sSideHonorMiddle.

February 23, 2017 4:56 PM

You could do a Scottish middle name to honor Scott. Alick, Broden, Cailean/Cailin, Chalmers, Clyde, Drew, Edan, Forbes, Jock, Kester, Manas, Morogh, Nairn, Rae, Seocan, and Seumas are all Scottish/have ties to Scotland.

February 23, 2017 5:09 PM

What about a middle name that starts with Br to honor Brian but let you choose something you like more?  Bryce, Braden, Braxton, Brad, Bradley, Bradford, Brendan, Brett, Broderick, Brent, Bram, Brewster, Brady, Brody, Brennan

Brett in particular would be fitting as kind of a Brian/Scott mash-up.  

February 24, 2017 11:06 PM

I agree with cm, that if you get to have your favourite first name, letting your dh have point on the middle name is fair.

I'd advise using the name the honoree is known by, Scott, rather than his first name Brian, that he doesn't go by. Theodore Scott sounds cool.

My dh and I have agreed this: my favourite first name, which he has grown to love as much as I do. And 2 middles, so we both pick one! Could you perhaps have 2 middles? Scott is so short that there may be room for another, especially if your last name is also short.

Theodore Scott Roy ___ (quite the Scottish Rob Roy theme!)

Theodore Scott Thomas ___ (too dads honoured in one go)