Need name help baby boy coming any day now!

I'm about to have a baby boy and my husband and I can't decide on a name for the life of us! Since my daughter was born 5 weeks early I want to keep the stress down and thought I'd ask some friendly strangers! 

Our daughter, 15 months, is named Dylan Rose (first and middle) and we love it. It's unusual enough and totally suits her and our creative, laid back lifestyle. We went with more unusual first name (for a girl) with the traditional middle and it just was such an easy decision to make. 

We are torn now between the two following names (first and middle):

Wyatt James 

Crosby James

Wyatt has been climbing popularity charts so we aren't sure if that means it's unoriginal or he will be one of 6 in his class, or if those charts are kind of bogus. Crosby is much much lower on those charts so we love that but also don't want to name him something that everyone he encounters thinks is odd.

If you could weigh on what you like, what works well with our daughter's name, anything at all! And sorry if this is too long of a post, this is my first time posting!

Thanks to all. Xo

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June 30, 2017 3:55 PM

I'm a little torn. There's no name I can put next to a girl named Dylan (unless she goes by Dylan Rose as a double barrel) that won't make it sound like two brothers. Dylan and Wyatt in particular sound like two brothers.

Crosby I think sounds a little too posh. It sounds very prep school. As far as other connotations, I think you're probably most likely to hear "Oh, are you a Pittsburg Penguins fan?" as their captain is Sidney Crosby and they just won the Stanley Cup again. As respected as Bing Crosby continues to be, he probably won't come up except from your older relatives.

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June 30, 2017 4:01 PM

That was my same thought. It sounds like two brothers, especially Dylan and Wyatt.

I think my preference is toward Crosby because of this. It also is a more unique name. I think of Bing Crosby first, followed by the character in the show "Parenthood".

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June 30, 2017 4:23 PM

So funny you both brought up the two brothers thing bc that's been a worry of mine. My husband doesn't care at all bc he thinks no matter what name it will sound like that but when people meet them it won't cross their mind. 

 

Our two runner ups were Julian and Henry in case those sounds any more like the boy when paired with Dylan.

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June 30, 2017 5:44 PM

I agree with your husband here. Would I assume Dylan and Wyatt to be brothers if I just read/heard the names? Yes. But would I assume the same with Dylan and Crosby, Dylan and Henry, Dylan and Julian? Yes. The inescapable fact is that the majority of people who read your daughter's name are going to assume she is a boy no matter what you name her sibling(s). I don't think there's any point in worrying about it :) You gave your daughter a name you loved (and still love) and you gave her a very feminine middle name, so if at any point in her life she gets fed up with being assumed to be male she can easily either go by both her first and middle name or switch to just the middle.

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June 30, 2017 5:48 PM

I prefer Wyatt of those two options. Crosby just makes me think of either the word cross (I'm English and we use it as a synonym for angry here-I'm assuming you're American and so in fairness I guess that's not a problem for you lol) or the name Cosby which I really wouldn't want the association with. 

While I agree with the previous replies that said Dylan and Wyatt sound like brothers I think that is going to happen with almost any name (and certainly with any name in the style you seem to like), so I don't think it should be a deciding factor.

As to Wyatt being more popular most people on here will tell you that a popular name now has nothing on the popular names of a generation or two ago. There is really no guarentee that your son won't end up with someone in his class sharing his name whatever you choose so you're better off going with the name you like best. Also while the charts give a sense of overall popularity (if you're reading the official data they are not bogus) they don't show location. Meaning certain names are more popular in certain places; how popular Wyatt seems to you (and the chances of there being 6 in a class) will depend on if you're in a Wyatt "pocket". If it's really important to you then as you have a young daughter I would keep an ear out at any parks/baby classes to see how frequently you hear the name, or ask friends with older children in nursery/pre-school if they hear it a lot.

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By mk
June 30, 2017 5:55 PM

I agree with your husband and wouldn't worry about how they sound together. Go with the one you prefer. I don't think either are too odd or very popular. And popularity doesn't really mean that much; a very popular name can still be the only person in his class.

Dylan and Crosby together is very folk rock to me (Bob Dylan, Crosby, Stills and Nash), though not a bad thing.

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June 30, 2017 6:46 PM

As everyone else has said, there's no way to make Dylan sound unambiguously female, because it's a masculine name. Given that fact, you just need to embrace it and choose your son's name based on what you like, rather than on how it sounds with his big sister's name. Between Wyatt and Crosby, I think I'd go with Wyatt, just because Crosby is so close to Cosby - while I don't believe in convicting someone in the court of public opinion without so much as a chance to defend himself, it's not a battle I'd care to saddle my child with.

That all said, any interest in "reclaiming" a boys-name-gone girl? After all, if you can name a girl Dylan, then you should be able to name a boy Addison, no? :) (Others in the same vein: Ashley, Aubrey, Avery, Bailey, Blair, Cameron, Cassidy, Dana, Gale, Harper, Kimberly, Leslie, Marlow, Meredith, Presley, Reese.)

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July 1, 2017 1:53 AM

Have to cast my vote for Crosby James - it is my nephew's name exactly, and it suits the odd, funny, nonconforming, sassy cuddlebug perfectly. (There's something about the sound of those two names together...two of us independently suggested James to go with Crosby when he was still in utero, and we know of a little girl about his age named Crosbie Jane. Also a friend of a friend (female) named Cozbi Jean, which is starting to get away from it a bit, but I digress...) While I can't guarantee that the Cosby association will never be made with your little one, I can tell you that it has not yet arisen in the 6 years of Crosbying that mine has accomplished so far. I actually think the folk rock theme that mk brought up is pretty cool, but it's definitely something to be aware of. 

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July 1, 2017 9:44 AM

I myself really like Wyatt James out of the two names. 

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July 1, 2017 4:49 PM

I'm torn because I do think Dylan & Wyatt sounds more like 2 brothers than Dylan & Crosby, which really doesn't matter, and may not even bother you.  I suspect it's because I have met boys named Dylan & Wyatt, so I have very strong mental images of what people with these names look like.  

I've never met someone with the first name Crosby, so it doesn't feel particularly masculine or feminine for me.  I do have strong musical associations with both Dylan (Bob Dylan) and Crosby (Crosby, Stills & Nash).  If I met a sibset with those names, I would assume they were meant as a homage to their musical namesakes.  If that's what you intend, then I'd say go ahead and use Crosby.  If that is not your intention, you may want to consider how you'll react when you get comments. I suspect these will be strong associations for anyone my age or older, though the associations won't be so strong for younger generations.  Your children's peers likely won't know or care.

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By EVie
July 1, 2017 7:43 PM

I agree with what others have said about the popularity of Wyatt and how it will vary wildly by locale. Laura recently did a post on which names that are disproportionately popular in each state, and Wyatt showed up in the list for four of them--Maine (it's #6), Vermont (#3), Colorado (#10) and Wyoming (#1) (Compare to the national statistics, in which Wyatt is down at #33). So if you live in one of those states, your fears about popularity are well-founded. You can look up the top 100 names in your state here: https://www.ssa.gov/OACT/babynames/state/

One thing in your post stands out to me, which is that you mention popularity as a concern because he may be one of six in his class, OR his name might sound unoriginal. Those are two different concerns to me. The first isn't as big a deal as you may think because, as others have said, popularity isn't what it used to be, and even the #1 name is less likely to run into others of his name than we were when we were kids. However, if you are worried about your name choice seeming unoriginal, then yes, I do think it's a more valid concern. Wyatt is a totally mainstream name these days. It won't be perceived as particularly original, no matter if he's the only one in his class. I don't think that's a dealbreaker, personally (I gave my kid a totally classic, unoriginal name), but it's up to you how important it is to be seen as original. 

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July 15, 2017 6:18 AM

I think either go well with your daughters names - I'd probably lean towards Crosby though

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July 18, 2017 2:28 AM

I strongly agree that you should pick the name you LOVE - I get the feeling you are over-thinking it in a way that's turning into a branding excercise rather than speaking to your heart. And it doesn't matter which one goes better or worse with your daughter Dylan - they are both fine names.  The question is, which one completes your family?