New surname suggestions for a (grownup) friend
A friend of mine is looking to change her surname, as she has never felt a positive connection to the portion of the family who share the surname, and it was involved in very traumatic bullying throughout her childhood. She will also be changing her very filler-y middle name at the same time, but she'll be deciding on it after she figured out what her new surname will be.
She is NOT interested in picking a different surname from her family tree. The only family members she has a clan-affinity with have a surname that is really terrible with her first name.
What she would like instead is a surname that meets the following criteria:
- It should work well for all areas of her life, including as a writer, so it "should look good on a book jacket". It will not just be a nom-de-plum, though! She'll change her name legally by court-order and then change it officially both professionally and personally.
- It should work well with her first name, Dawn, which she really likes for its positive, bright association.
- The new surname, however, should counter and balance out the name Dawn's cheery optimism. She is specifically looking for a surname that is "darker, but with an essence of resilience."
- The most important thing to her is to get that meaning right - she wants something dark that reflects inner turmoil, to honor some very rough things she's lived through.
- Any origin or language is okay - no preference there.
Traditional surnames are okay, but she's also open to words from other languages that don't have any history of use as a name, so long as works in seeming surnamey without being distracting in the English language.
Names that she has liked but that don't quite work include:
- Ghede (because it would be a "reflection of inner demons and dealing with them")
- Han (which she said is a concept signalling "a deep despair, so deep you can't cry, but there is still hope").
I said I'd query you all for suggestions, even though it's off the usual given-name track for the forum, because we have some awesome linguistics knowledge packed into this forum!
Fri, 02/22/2013 - 2:03am