Same middle name for brothers

We have a son Jack Frederick and are expecting number 2. We are keeping the gender a surprise. We are sorted for a girl's name. We are fairly settled on a first name if it's a boy. Frederick is an important family name on my side and we don't have any other male family names we want to use. Do you think it is strange for brothers to have the same middle name?

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July 19, 2016 10:22 PM

I don't think it's that strange. I know a couple sib-sets with the same middle name, although in both cases it's the mother's maiden name. I think it would be fine if you feel really strongly about it, but if it's just becuase you can't think of another name, maybe not? I don't think the middle name has to be a family name just because it is for the first son.

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July 19, 2016 10:38 PM

I'm immediately thinking of the old-school Latin "us" names, which have become so hot lately. Some picks I love: Augustus, Atticus, Darius and Magnus, which are up-and-comers, but not yet everywhere. (I especially love Augustus, which may eventually be on an upswing thanks to the book/movie The Fault in Our Stars, but is currently just inside the top 700.)

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July 20, 2016 12:45 AM

I agree except for last sentence - don't quite understand. This would be second son and older brother has a family middle name, so if they truly can't find another family name and Frederick is prominent, then it's fine. And it is something like mother's maiden or other family name I think.

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July 21, 2016 2:22 PM

Sorry, it wasn't very clearly written! I meant, just because the first son has a family name for a middle name, doesn't mean that the second son has to also have a family name for the middle name. I think it's OK to have a family name for one and not the other. 

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July 20, 2016 1:27 PM

If Frederick is an important family name, I think you can absolutely use it twice for siblings to carry on the tradition for both of them. I vastly prefer sharing a sentimental important middle name over giving a second child a filler middle name that doesn't have any important meaning, because *that* seems unfair and resentment-breeding.

Another option that I'd consider first, though, is that if you are having some female family members who are honor-worthy, I always think it's extra lovely to see little boys namesaked after some of the women in their families, because that doesn't happen very often (girls named after men in the family is much more common). You could consider surnames as well as masculine versions of their feminine given names. Even if there isn't a clearcut male form that's immediately obvious, this board has some very creative minds who are good at coming up with suggestions, so if you give us the list of all the fabulous women in your family, I bet we could turn out some middle names that would be very suitable and honoring. And in your case, I think it might be really sweet to pick the namesake for your child and then use that namesake regardless of what the gender of your child ends up being.

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July 20, 2016 2:16 PM

I don't see anything wrong with the same middle name for brothers, especially if it is a name with strong family connections.  However, I think you would need to do it for All boys in a family.  You may want to consider if you'd want to pass this on if you ever have a 3rd son.

All that said, I'd suggest you consider thinking out of the box.  Why do you have to use a male family name?  Are there any females in your family you'd want to honor?  If so, I'd encourage you to think about possible maiden names or look for masculine versions of female names in your family.  If you aren't sure about this, I'd suggest posting some feminine names. The regular on this site tend to be really good and ideas for cross-gender namesakes.

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July 20, 2016 11:15 PM

Thanks for the comments. We only plan to have 2 children so i won't have to think about whether i'd want to bestow it a third time. I have no siblings and no cousins on my dad's side so i was the last in the line with my maiden name. However Frederick has been in the family hundreds of years since a Kate Frederick married into the family about 7 generations ago and most males (at least one in each generation) since then have had Frderick as a first or second name. I figure if I can pass it on twice i double the chances of it being continued. Also as it stems from Kate Frederick it does honour a woman in the family, as well as being my dad's name.

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July 21, 2016 10:42 AM

That's a great tradtition, excellent reasoning, and I got goosebumps, so... I think you're good to go :)

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August 9, 2016 12:23 PM

My nephews (who are brothers) both have the same middle name.

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By mk
August 9, 2016 12:55 PM

Not strange at all. I know lots of families that have children with the same middle name, usually because it's a family name.

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August 10, 2016 9:36 AM

My brothers' middle names are 1) my dad's middle name and 2) my mother's maiden name. When I was 36 I had my name legally changed to add my mother's maiden name as a second middle name.