Third girl... due any day!

We are having SO much trouble deciding on a name for our third daughter, who will be here before we know it. To start, our other two daughters are Mia and Claire, and our last name begins with an N and ends in a long-e sound.

Our favorites are:
Nora -- though an acquaintance just named her daughter Nora, and I don't like that it's supposedly on the upswing popularity-wise
Lainey -- I love it, but I know it's more of a nickname, however neither of our other girls go by nicknames so I like it by itself
Delaney -- a more "real" name version of Lainey
Laina/Layna -- along the same lines, but not on any lists; is it that out there?
Layla/Laila -- pretty, and along the same lines. I prefer the "ai" spelling because it goes with my girls names and our last name better than the y, but I also don't want to pick a strange spelling just because



May 5, 2013 8:09 PM

I like Norah followed by Layla. I have a niece named Lainey its just not one I personally have like I think it's maybe a little too youthful for an adult but that's just my opinion and it is a pretty name. I definitely think Norah is a winner though. 

May 5, 2013 8:24 PM

I know a 28-year-old girl named Layna, so no, it doesn't strike me as out-there at all. In fact, before I got to it on your list, after reading your commentary on Lainey, I was going to suggest it. To me, Delaney feels too surnamey with your other two daughters' names.

Layla is pretty but especially with all the combined spellings is definitely on the upswing, so if that was a concern for Nora, you might like to know that. I also know that Laila is being used to be both LYE-la and LAY-la, so there is that ambiguity to consider, too.

I do think that Nora goes wonderfully with your other two girls, though. Short and sweet, classically feminine. There is also the option of giving a name like Lenora or Eleanor(a), which feels to me like it bridges Mia and Claire nicely.

May 5, 2013 10:20 PM

My favorite is Nora.  

Lainey is hard to see on an adult, though I do like it for a little one.  Delaney does seem too surnamey next to Mia & Claire.  I'd actually prefer just Lane with Lainey as the nickname.

Laina/Layna is nice, though I prefer the spelling Lena.  

Layla/Laila is also nice, though I don't like it as much as Lena or Nora.  I think I prefer the Layla spelling.

Nora + all your L names made me think of Lana (Lah-nah) and Lora, do you care for either of them?

May 5, 2013 10:52 PM

Have you considered Laura or Lara? Sort of a cross between Nora and all your La- names.

I went to high school with a Laina, so it doesn't seem "out there" at all. She had a very Scandinavian surname, so Laina has the same sort of vibe to me as Astrid and Soren.

May 7, 2013 11:52 AM

Just in the interest of full disclosure, I'll note that Laina hated her name growing up. I remember thinking it was different, but I liked it.

This perhaps tells you more about the naming climate of mid-80s southern California suburbs than it does about the current usability of the name, but there you have it.

May 7, 2013 12:21 PM

You make a good point. I also grew up in the 70s/80s southern California burbs.  Most everyone I knew had the following names: Lisa, Jennifer, Lori, Kelly, Michelle, and Julie.  I went to a party once with 3 Lisas and 3 Loris.  Megan and Heather were the rare, unique names that we all wanted.  Of course, this may have been the same in other parts of the country.

May 5, 2013 11:00 PM

You may also like Linnea or Eleni. It's pronounced eh-lay-nee. yelena is also nice and soft of different pronounced yeh-lay-na

May 5, 2013 11:05 PM

How do you feel about Magdalena, Helena, or Elena? Laney would be a great nickname for any. And I've definitely seen Lena as a nickname for those names or a name on its own, if you were wondering about 'Laina.'

May 6, 2013 12:16 AM

I love Lainey for a little girl!  I can see your issue with the nickname, but there are so many acceptable names today that are really nicknames.  But, if you are still concerned I would use Delaney and call her Laney.

Nora is a pretty name but it has always seemed very serious to me.  Obviously I am in the minority on this one!  

May 6, 2013 1:25 AM

Love, Love, Love Nora

Darling name on a little girl and nice on a grown-up, too!

I know of one baby Nora, and I have heard it's getting more popular, but to be honest, I know more Claires and Mias.

I think Lainey is fine on its own if you love it.

I'm really just neutral on the whole group apart from Nora, so it's hard for me to vote one way or the other on them. I think if I had to pick, I'd probably go with Laila/Delaney/Laina or Layna in that order.

You could also do some form of Helena (Helaina) with Lainey as a nn if you wanted.

May 6, 2013 7:18 AM

There's also the name Elaine you could call her Lainey or Ellie for a nick name 

By amar
May 6, 2013 9:41 PM

Lana also gives you the sound 'Layna' - there are several in my family stretching over multiple generations and I've always thought it simple and lovely. Also like the recommendation of Magdelena and Helena for you to get the nick-name Lainey. I once new a Lainey whose real name was Laine, struck me as odd 10 years ago but today I think it would be right on trend for a girl. Nora is very lovely and a great name despite being popular.

May 9, 2013 8:36 AM

Thanks everyone!  I haven't had her yet so it's not 100% decided, but I think we're going to go with Nora.  I like all of the L names I listed, but DH isn't as in love with them, and I kind of think the long-a sound is a bit harsh with our last name.


This would be a much easier decision -- and a done deal -- if my sister-in-law's best friend (who I am friends with through her and on Facebook) hadn't JUST had an Elinor that they are going to be calling Nora. :/  It bugs me so much to be naming my baby the EXACT same name just a few weeks later, but she's such a peripheral friend that the only people who will know both Noras are my parents and my brother and sister-in-law.  Not enough to not use it, but enough to bug me and to probably have to deal with the "YOUR Nora" and "Linda's Nora" comments from SIL.  


Another question... do I email the other Nora's mom and let her know it's our top choice before we have the baby?

May 11, 2013 10:27 PM

I would email her; some people get really weird and possessive about "their" baby names. Not that she would, but just to be up-front and let her know that you didn't use it because they did, but that it was already your baby's chosen name before their baby was born. I would not phrase it as though you are asking permission though, bc there is always a chance she would ask you not to use it. 

A dear friend of mine has two girls, Arden and Nora. Nora is 8 now, and, other than her, I have only heard the name once or twice in eight years. I think it's a great name; feminine, classic, cute, and still strong. 

May 12, 2013 12:18 AM

If she's just a person you, "See," on Facebook and the occasional get-together with the sil, I wouldn't worry.

If you consider her a close friend and value her opinion, then maybe....but I wouldn't phrase it as if you're seeking approval. Have you sent a gift yet?

You could sign the card, "Congrats on baby Nora!! So funny-we had decided ours would be a Nora, too! Hope they can meet up some time at Sally's house!"


May 12, 2013 2:09 AM

I think you are safe on this one.  It isn't close friends or family, and Nora isn't her name.  They may decide in a year to call her Ellie.  I know a couple who named their daughter Coco and then got upset that friends had a baby, named her Colette, then decided to call her Coco.  Their situation is reversed; in your case your daughter's name will be Nora.  They get dibs on Elinor but not Nora too! :)

I would just do whatever announcement you planned and not even raise the issue.  If she says anything, you can say that you guys had decided on that name, and if she had actually named her daughter Nora you probably would have thought twice about using it.  To me, it s no different than someone naming their son John and then deciding to use nn Jack.  So does that mean nobody can use Jack or Jackson?

May 13, 2013 12:12 AM

I have a 2 year old Nora, and I do love it! I was in a similar situation - 2 months before her birth my sister gave birth to her Eleanor! Luckily they always intended to call her Ellie for short. I did ask her if she minded, but it was fine.

I think with a sister-in-law's friend, you're safe.