Triplets...

Turns out that I am due to have triplets in Setember 2016, and there is one girl and two boys. The middle names are all family names and have been decided: Grace, Thomas, and Louis. My husband is french, and wants at least one to have a french first name. I really like the names Rowan, Finley, Sage, and Skye for the girl, but he doesn't like Finley and Skye, and isn't really into Rowan and Sage, perfering Victoire. For boys I like Caleb, Boston, and Nash, and he likes those too, along with dominique. It's an extremley difficult job trying to turn him over, being that he is the most stubborn human being I've ever met. Please send compromises before my brain lows up from hearing so much about dominique!

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December 11, 2015 12:22 PM

Twins and triplets expected at the same time & in the same family, wow!  That's a lot of babies on the way.

FIrst, I'd say stop trying to turn him over.  Both parents need to like the names and that sometimes means a lot of compromise & giving up of favorite names for both parties.

Your list makes me think you might like nature names for girls.  So perhaps looking at some French or French-friendly nature-related names? Luna, Ciel, Ambre, Iris, Fleur, Flora, Lili, Marguerite.  

Your girl list also makes me think you prefer boys names for girls or names that are unisex.  You could also try looking for longer French names with nicknames that are boyish or unisex. Charlotte/Charlie, Nicolette/Cole, etc.  Or reverse it and use a traditional/longer English name with a French nickname.

I think Dominique on a boy will be a hard sell if you are in an English speaking location.  However, perhaps you could use Dominic or convince him to consider Dominique for a girl?  Boston & Nash as given first names are a very modern, American name style and I doubt you'll find a suitable equivalent in French.  Caleb is Biblical, so you could try looking at the French versions of other Biblical names.  Mateo, Matthius, Jacques, Luc, etc.

Again, I think a longer French name with an English nickname you like, or a longer English name with a French nickname he likes could also work for boys.

Another option would be to make a "rule" that all first names are English, but must work in French and all middle names are Very French.  Or all first names are Very French, but must have English nicknames and all middle names must be nature names.  Or some other combination that you can both agree on.

 

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December 11, 2015 12:40 PM

Thanks for the advice! I really like the idea of Charlotte/Charlie, and Ambre too. My husband says that he likes Ambre more than he likes Victoire, and Charlotte/Charlie almost as much. His grandmother was named Charlottte, while my grandmother was named Grace- which would add a middle and first name conection. we also both like the idea of having the "rule" that all first names must be french but have english nn. Now our top runners are Charlotte/Charlie Grace, Caleb Louis, and Dominique Thomas. but now I'm thinking that maybe we should switch Caleb and louis, so it's not so many C's and make it Louis Caleb(nn louie)

P.S. you were right about the boy/unisex names for girls. I always have a much easier time finding boy names that i like then finding girls.

 

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December 11, 2015 12:44 PM

I talked with my husband for a few minutes, and We decided that we both like the spelling Charley better than Charlie for a girl.

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December 11, 2015 5:28 PM

i have a new idea for our girl, and my husband aproves of it also: Riley. Yes it is common, but I love the name as much as I love Charlotte/Charley! Do you guys think that we should switch Caleb and louis around if baby girl is Charlotte, or keep it? If we don't name her Charlotte then we won't have to. We also found a name for one of the boys: Elias. He likes the classicness, and I love that it just rolls of your tongue, and also that it is Hebrew(Although my husband is Catholic, I am a Jew).Thanks!

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December 11, 2015 6:28 PM

Since you are a Jew, your child will be a Jew, and Elias will give him the proper Hebrew name of Eliyahu.  Elias is the form used in the Greek and Latin biblical translations, as Elijah is used in the English translations.

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December 11, 2015 6:49 PM

yes, my child will be a jew, but also christian, we are splitting it up, christmas and Hannukah, but more hannukah, christmas will be the only christian holiday, with all the Jewish holidays, and they will go to hebrew school when they are old enough. My husband has agreed to this name AS LONG AS one of them has a french name (probably the other boy).

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December 11, 2015 7:21 PM

We also do Chrismukkah.  This is an actual thing with suitable Chrismukkah cards.  The one I sent this year has three cats sitting in front of a window watching mice put on a holiday pageant (window sill is the stage and window shade the curtain).  The mice are dressed as Santa, Rudolph, an elf, a dreidel, and a chasid dancing with a hanukkiah, and the stage is decorated with a tree, a wreath and a mogen dovid.  Very cute!  My grandson loves Hanukkah (yesterday I got a beautiful picture of him lighting the candles himself) and Christmas and his birthday (December 28 he turns six) and every other time he gets presents.  At school he just learned of the custom of putting out shoes to get gifts for St. Nicholas Day and the Day of the Three Kings in January, and he wants to do that too.  A real December present orgy!  BTW his name is Elliott after his great-grandfather Eliyahu (also my son's name).  Elliott is the French diminutive for Elie, the French form of Eliyahu/Elias/Elijah.  It seems as if half the fashion designers are named Elie (Elie Saab, Elie Tahari, Elie Balleh).  So maybe you and your husband might like Elliott--it's French.

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December 11, 2015 9:35 PM

Chrismukkah cards sound so adorable! And I love Eliott, the way it ties i both Jewish and French cultures! I also like Elijah. Elias, Elijah, and Eliott all have the nn Eli, whitch is a great name.

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December 11, 2015 10:06 PM

Eliot, Elliot, Elliott are the most common spellings, Eliott less so.  We chose Elliott because somehow it looks more balanced and complete on paper.  Our Elliott loves his name, and he especially loves the spelling we chose because it has two pairs of double letters.  As he has pointed out, his bff Cooper just has only one set of double letters. :-)

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December 11, 2015 10:22 PM

That is true, I didn't notice my spelling. I like Elliot and Elliott.

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December 12, 2015 1:46 PM

I'm kind of torn.  On one hand, I like the idea of every child getting their own initial.  Perhaps baby #3 would even feel left out if he were the only non-C sibling in the set?  I also really like the idea of Very French first name followed by English middle, and Louis Caleb would allow you to keep that pattern.  Though, that would mean finding a Very French first name for Elias. 

On the other hand, I don't think Charlotte/Charley would require you to switch up Louis & Caleb.  The starting sounds are different, so I don't see a huge potential for Charley & Caleb to become too tongue-twisterish.  If you kept it Caleb Louis and go with Elias as a first name, perhaps the pattern for boys becomes Biblical fist + Very French middle.  If you happen to have another girl later, you could keep the French first + English middle pattern for girls if you wanted.

FWIW, I prefer Charlotte to Riley.  You both seem to like it & I think it would be a great way to honor both sides of the family.

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December 11, 2015 7:05 PM

Another name for a boy has come up, Nicolas, going by Nico. 

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December 11, 2015 9:47 PM

top names right now:

boy #1:Eliott Thomas

boy#2:Olivier Louis

Girl: Charley/Riley Grace

please tell me if you perfer Charley or Riley for a girl,and why, also what you think about the other names.

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December 12, 2015 6:19 AM

I'm just intrigued you know the genders already. The wonders of modern medicine, I guess.

I like your boy choices very much. Of the girls, I've always strongly disliked Riley, so I guess I prefer Charley. If you did want to humour your husband with his French preference, Charlotte, Caroline or Carine, with Charley as a nickname, could give your daughter the flexibility to decide how Masculine or feminine she wants her name to be.

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December 12, 2015 8:42 AM

If we do go with Charley, then Her First name would be Charlotte, but her fulltime nn would be Charley.

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December 12, 2015 3:15 PM

I'm going to be pedantic and ellucidate the wonders of modern medicine, because this is related to what I have been teaching.

First off, you get to know the gender of your child sometime from age 2-5. What you find out at birth is the biological sex, which is usually but not always a predictor of gender (as in the case of transgender). Biological sex has three components: the chromosomal sex (XX or XY) which determines the gonadal sex (ovaries or testes) and then the hormones produced by the gonads determine the external genital sex. The links in this chain can be broken by a variety of circumstances, leading to intersexuality.

Traditionally you wait to look at the anatomical external sex during an ultrasound midway through pregnancy (or look at it in the delivery room, very traditionally).

What you can find out with the wonders of modern medicine is the chromosomal sex -- which again, is not the whole picture, but the first step in the process. There are two ways to do this (at least really early on): sometime around week 6-8 you can do a maternal blood draw and look for cell-free fetal DNA, and you can use that to assess chromosomal abnormalities and whether or not a y chromosome is detected. It would be useless in the case of triplets, or at least, it  would not lead you to be able to say "two boys and one girl" because you would just get the information that there's a y chromosome aboard.

The other way people find out the chromosomal sex early is if the couple utilized IVF and had the chromosomes of the embryos checked (to make sure the embryo got a viable complement of chromosomes, as that process going askew so is a major cause of miscarriage). When you're checking the chromosome count, you also get information about the sex chromosomes. However, this testing is usually done with the aim of putting ONE embryo back in the uterus -- it enables you to have a higher pregnancy success rate (regardless of maternal age). Transferring more than one chromosomally normal embryo is absolutely foolish, because you end up with the exact same pregnancy rate, just a much higher rate of multiples, which most reproductive endocrinologists are trying to avoid. It is true that some (frankly very questionable) clinics still transfer two embryos when chromosomal testing has been done, but I cannot believe that anyone in their right mind would transfer three chromosomally screened embryos, as it would be deliberately courting a very high-risk pregnancy.

If one had transferred embryos five days ago, one would just be getting a pregnancy test back, you still wouldn't be able to know on ultrasound how many embryos had taken yet. Your "due date" for triplets would be July 6th (August 24th for a singleton). There's no way that you would be talking about August vs September for triplets that had already been conceived, unless you're an elephant or blue whale or another animal that has a longer gestation time, so I would suggest getting a more competent doctor, as well as selecting a more ethical reproductive endocrinologist next time.

(Bottom line, I agree with Eko here - this is a playing around with name scenarios game that should better be moved to name games.)

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December 12, 2015 4:54 PM

Actually, my whole family has always been born late and the doctor just added more time, based on the family. 

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By Eko
December 12, 2015 5:13 PM

That is not how it works.

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December 12, 2015 7:39 PM

Unless you are a family of blue whales or elephants. :)

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December 22, 2015 10:36 AM

They would never do that for twins or triplets as frequently (as in the vast majority of the time) they are born early.

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December 12, 2015 9:38 AM

I just got back from the doctor, and he now says that it is more likely that the trips will be born in august rather than september. When I told my four year old nephew(my brother and his family are staying with us) he peed his pants, it was hilarious.

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December 12, 2015 10:52 AM

while we thought we were set on the middle names, We are now going to change one og the boys. My husband uncle passed away, he was nicest and funniest guy I've ever met. we want to honor him by giving his first name, York, to one of our boys.

Elias/Elijah/Elliot York

Olivier York

tell me your preference.

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By Eko
December 12, 2015 1:07 PM

This thread doesn't add up. Are you just playing with names and scenarios?

 

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December 12, 2015 4:52 PM

No! if you guys won't help me I'll ask someone else!

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December 12, 2015 8:51 PM

You sound rather like you are a young person who is enjoying an active imagination and a penchant for making up scenarios.

You'll find people here much more happy to play along with name inquiries if you're not making up completely implausible stories left and right. Post fantasy triplet scenarios to the name games board, and post discussions of names you like (without any fabricated cover story) to the main forum.

I also want to point out that the terms of service on this site indicate that one has to be 14 years old. If you are under that age cutoff you may be better served with the forums on nameberry, or other corners of the internet with more protections in place for younger users. You've given out your full name on this forum, and to me that demonstrates that you might be falling into this category of overly young, naive internet users.

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January 25, 2019 9:40 AM

I’m well aware that buns would be born and probablynearly 4 by now but just doing this for the fun of it xoxo

For baby girl:

riley grace

ramona grace

victoria grace

valerie grace

valentina grace

vivienne grace

solange grace

selena grace

sabrina grace

 

for baby boys 

Nate Louis/thomas

Callan Louis/Thomas

bentley Louis/thomas