Twins due in April

Hi, I’m due with twin girls in April! I’m wondering peoples reactions to Mary and Jane 1) as a twin set and 2) with regards to popularity? 

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January 14, 2019 7:02 PM

Hi

Mary and Jane wouldnt be popular but for me when I think of Mary and Jane I think of a school shoe

other names

Louise, Rose, Grace, Faith, Joy, Hope, Kate, Anne, Beth, Ruby, Claire, Anna, Alice, Lucy, Clara, May, June, Jean, Bonnie, Bridget, Susan, Esme, Phoebe, Penelope, Sadie, Milly, Molly, Ida, Ivy, Cora, Elsie, Josie, Hazel, Nora, Pearl, Olive, Rosa, Nell, Violet, Maisie, Audrey, Evelyn, Elizabeth, Katherine, Margaret, Martha, Lauren

 

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January 14, 2019 4:17 AM

1st- they are lovely classic names separately 

2nd- If you never knew MaryJane is a very common and decades old slang for Marijuana at least in the U.S.  so common in fact that my grandparents even know this term.

So 3rd- some other names that I put with Mary and Jane...

Jill, June, Jean, Lynn, Anne, Kate, Joan

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January 14, 2019 3:45 PM

I agree with all of this! Eigther Mary or Jane with a different name would be great, but not Mary and Jane together.

Some other ideas: Alice, Louise, Margaret, Anne, Lucy, Elizabeth, Rose, Claire, Sarah, Ellen, Susan

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January 14, 2019 4:59 PM

Agree as well. I really like Mary on its own. Maybe you could go for something like Jade. Or I love the sound of  Mary and Adele? 

I also love Alice, Elizabeth, Rose, Claire and Sarah.

On another note. As someone who has been given my birth operation date (11 days!)  also for twin girls, I would be intrested to see what you chose as I am still struggling!

Maisie

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January 14, 2019 6:22 PM

I have to agree that Mary and Jane do not work in the same sib set because of the shoe/drug association. On different aged sisters would be bad enough (although arguably workable if you had a large age gap and multiple other siblings in-between), for twins it's even worse as their names will be said as a set far more often. I would advise picking your favourite between them and finding a different name to go with that one.

Some names that have the same simple, homespun vibe to me and I think would go with either Mary or Jane: Sarah, Ruth, Alice, Lucy

Ones I would pair only with Jane: Kate and Anna 

Ones I would pair only with Mary: Julia and June

Popularity it's hard to comment on as I don't know where your personal line for "too popular/not popular enough" is, and you also haven't said where you live? In the US neither Mary or Jane is super popular; both are outside the top 100 names currently.

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January 14, 2019 7:07 PM

Jane and Mary are really lovely together as sister names.  Mary and Jane, though....  The references (shoes, pot) are awfully strong, even though they're kind of outdated.

Anne, June, Catherine, Margaret, Helen

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January 15, 2019 9:54 AM

Thank you all for the feedback. would the fact that these are honor names for our moms diminish the bad associations? They’re really all we can agree on too. 

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January 15, 2019 9:57 AM

Sadly, no. The general public won't know that the girls are named for their grandmothers. They'll just snicker and think of the marijuana twins. Mary Ellen and Janelle? Fine. But Mary and Jane together, especially as twins, just begs for rude comments (or at the very least, thoughts).

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January 15, 2019 10:43 AM

How do you feel about Mary and Janet? Or June? Or Maria and Jane? I don't think you have to tweak very far to get away from the matchiness and undesirable references, especially because they are both classic names. Alternatively, Mary and Jane in the middle spots would be fine.

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January 15, 2019 5:33 PM

I unfortunately have to agree with Elizabeth and Emily; while it's lovely that they would be honour names it doesn't take away the associations and most people they meet won't even know that it's an honour name.

Are there no variants you'd be happy with (both have loads)? Have you considered your moms' middle names or names of grandmothers? 

Otherwise if you explain why you're having trouble agreeing on anything (different styles? one person vetoing every suggestion but not making any of their own?) we can offer advice on how you could work that out. 

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January 15, 2019 6:15 PM

people wouldnt know that and that would still be an issue

what about Rosemary and Jane

or Maryellen and Jane

Maryanne and Jane

Maryanna, MaryBeth, MaryGrace, Maryn, Maryssa, Marylou, Maryrose, Marysue, Maryjo, Maryell, Marylyn, Maryam, Marybel, Maryella, Marylin, Maryk, Marysol

Janelle, Janene, Janette, Janella, Janessa, Janea, Janet, SaraJane, Marjaney

 

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January 17, 2019 9:39 AM

I'll be the voice of dissent.  Knowing they are honor names makes it more acceptable.  My main objection was not the pot reference, but the fact that Maryjane is already a name.  It felt like you were splitting up one name for two little girls.  You have two honor names that stylistically fit together nicely.  While twins start their lives as a pair, for most of their time on earth they will interact with people who have no idea that they even have a twin. 

 

For reference, I went to high school with a girl whose first and middle names were Mary Jane who went exclusively by Janie.  I don't recall any pot related teasing (though that may well have happened when she was younger). 

I have been teaching elementary school music for 12 years.  In that time, I've had one Mary, a few Marias, and no Janes.  I would welcome hearing more of these old-fashioned, plain names.

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January 17, 2019 10:46 AM

I have a friend named Mary Jane and would be perfectly supportive of someone wanting to name single baby that name combination. Twins, however, are a different story. Twins named Mary and Jane would feel cutesy and almost like a gag. I can imagine that this conversation happening over the course of a lifetime would get old:

"Oh wow, you're a twin? What's her name?"

(Mumbles) "Jane."

"Seriously? You and your twin are Mary and Jane? (Insert corny joke here.)"

People are fascinated by twins and, in my limited experience, ask for a twin's name much more frequently than they ask about other siblings' names (assuming they aren't name enthusiasts, of course.) 

I agree that either variants of both or putting those names in the middle is the way to go here.

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January 17, 2019 6:05 PM

I had the same thought about Mary Jane being a "single" established name... except that would be true of Mary and Ellen/Anne/Beth too and you can't rule out every traditional name as a sister to Mary!

I'm conflicted on Mary and Jane as sister names.  I love them both, they go well together (exceedingly well!) stylistically, they don't repeat sounds, they both fit into that sweet spot of well-known but uncommon.  Add in that each honors a different grandmother, and it's hard to argue that the pairing could be anything other than perfect.  Actually, I think I stated the same thing earlier by saying that "Jane and Mary" is great.

And yet... pretty much everyone who heard their names together would notice the connection.  And loads of them would comment.  I'm sure this would get old fast, for you and the girls.

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January 15, 2019 10:20 PM

I agree Mary & Jane aren't a good fit for siblings, and especially twins.  In theory, using the grandmother names is a wonderful idea, I just don't think it's practical in this case.

I think tweaking the names is a good idea.  If it were me, I would tweak both of them to avoid any hurt feelings about the tweaked name being less of a namesake.  I would also try to tweak in the same/similar manner-for example, you could do other language variants like Maria & Gianna or Moira & Jean.  Or take a mashup approach and do something like Sarajane & Rosemary.  You could also look at diminutives like Molly & Jenny.

What are the grandfather names?  Could you possibly move Mary & Jane to the middle positions and use feminized variants of the grandfathers' names in the first position?  Looking at the grandmother's middle names also seems like it could work.

I also agree with the previous suggestion of letting us know why these are the only two names you can agree on.  With more information we can offer suggestions to help move past the stalemate.  Or perhaps better suggestions for ways to use the names but avoid the maryjane problem.

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By rooo
January 17, 2019 5:02 AM

I would either use as middle names or alter the names slightly to something like Mara and Jana. It's not worth the lifetime of 420 jokes.