What kind of person do you think of when you hear the name Lucinda?

I am still loving the name Lucinda and I am wondering what you think of when you hear the name.

My aunt has said it reminds her of a posh girl who lives in London and shops at harrods. She also said it reminds her of a snobby girl. 

So what do you think of when you hear the name?

Thanks for any help.

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June 12, 2017 9:08 AM

I can see where your aunt is coming from, but I think that impression would change quickly if she met a real-life person who was not like that. Keep in mind that people are apt to say all sorts of negative things about a name before it is connected to someone they know; afterwards, that person becomes the dominant reference.

I don't know any Lucindas, so the only connotation for me is the porcelaine doll in the Beatrix Potter book.

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June 12, 2017 11:32 AM

I've never met a Lucinda IRL and can't think of any pop-culture associations for the name off the top of my head, so the name is more or less a blank slate.  I think it feels a bit spunky, and girly in a non-frilly way.  

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By mk
June 12, 2017 12:53 PM

I picture someone like singer Lucinda Williams.

I like the name a lot.

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June 12, 2017 1:22 PM

I only hear it as one of Cinderella's wicked stepsisters. Or a mash-up of Lucy and Linda, so very dated. (But maybe dated enough that teenagers would find it fresh and exciting.)

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June 15, 2017 9:15 AM

As a teenager, I do not find it fresh and exciting. I had a grumpy older teacher named Lucinda who kind of ruined the name for me.

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June 12, 2017 5:46 PM

Lucinda Williams. Awsome singer songwriter.

I would guess that's where the name came from.

I know several people who have known her personally; they are mixed on her likeability, but never her talant.

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June 12, 2017 5:50 PM

I envisioned Lucinda as someone with very rigid ideas--uptight, sour, and too thin.

I knew a young Lucinda awhile back, and rather than adjusting my impression of the name, i just felt sorry for her that her parents had chosen it.

However! if *you* love Lucinda, who cares what i think about it?  It's not a name that i think of as being almost universally disliked, like Hortense or Mildred.  Go ahead and use it with confidence.

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June 13, 2017 11:29 AM

I love Lucinda. I know a friend of a friend with this name and she is sometimes called "Luce." She's also a lovely person, so - good associations there. Pretty and not over-used. 

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June 15, 2017 6:38 AM

I actually don't know anyone named Lucinda and don't have any associations with the name (leaving it open to be 'filled in' by the person carrying the name/if I'd ever meet one= the nice thing about less common names). It doens't sound particularly posh to me anyway (especially not if you shorten it to Lucy in daily life)..!

(Maybe be careful not to let your own positive feel for/with the name to get spoiled. There will always be someone who doesn't like the name as much as you do (and that's okay, think about it, what are your auntie's children named? Maybe those names wouldn't be your cup of tea either?) (but you probably got used to them eitherway :).

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June 15, 2017 11:10 PM

I agree with the above poster.  Find the name YOU love, that speaks to your heart, for whatever reason.  This is not a branding excercise, and it's not about what other people like in a name. (And for the record, I think Lucinda is lovely, but dislike the potential nickname Cindy.)

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By Lolu
June 17, 2017 6:09 PM

Thank you everyone. We so love the name Lucinda very much. We think we have found our name for a future daughter though we will still look at names just to be sure. 

Can anyone think of any names that pair well with Lucinda? We don't have anyone to honour as my family never done or never have done honour names.

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June 17, 2017 6:40 PM

what about your name or your middle name  or a feminine form of your husbands

 

others

 

Amy  Mae  Grace  Rose  Kate  Pearl  Neve  Ruth

Ruby  Faith  Joy  Jean  Jade  Faye  Kaye 

Claire  Marie  Renee  Nicole  Eve  Chloe  Zoe

Chelsea Celeste  Bridget Katelyn  Kathryn

Kaelyn  Daphne  Phoebe  Ashlyn  Jasmine

Giselle  Lauren  Sophie  Candice  Bronte

Odette  Shanae  Tamsyn  Yvette  Soleil Solange

April  Avril   Coral Emlyn  Heidi  Sylvie   Alice

Daphne  Anne  Adele  Elise  Elsie  Estelle

Michelle  Patrice  Jane  Hayley  Holly 

 

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June 17, 2017 8:21 PM

Please don't go with Lucinda. I second your aunt heart and soul. [Mod edit: content removed] 

Just go with plain Lucy.

[Mod ETA: We’ve redacted this comment because we agreed that it crossed the line from critical to hurtful and offensive. Please see the recent post A Note from the Mods on Comment Practices in the Name Games forum for our position on comment deletion]

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June 17, 2017 9:51 PM

Huh?! Lolu, don't listen to this. Lucinda is a lovely name.  

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June 18, 2017 1:02 AM

Wow--that's incredibly specific.  I admire your imagination.

However, i think it very unlikely that many other people will envision Lucinda this way, and OP and her husband both have positive feelings for the name.  You should definitely not allow your partner to talk you into naming your own kid Lucinda, and you might explain your aversion to the name if your sibling or close friend mentions that Lucinda is a top contender for your niece.  But it's unreasonable to forbid strangers to use the name.  If they like it, that makes it a good choice for their child.

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By Lolu
June 18, 2017 4:23 AM

I think your perception of Lucinda is way over the top. However thanks for giving your opinion but we are not going to listen to it.

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June 18, 2017 8:28 AM

Just want to let you know that Lucinda sounds very new money, and I do believe this is a pretty commonly held perception. You seem nice and I wouldn't want you to get immediately judged as being trashy because of your kid's name.

Also fair warning that it is an occasionally used name for one of Cinderella's wicked stepsisters (the musical Into the Woods most notably.)

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By Lolu
June 18, 2017 8:58 AM

Thank you for thinking of us. We do love the name Lucia but spelled Luciah as well. We will have a rethink and try to find a UK site to ask for opinions. US and UK opinions may differ.

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June 18, 2017 10:00 AM

Very true. I think it's way too new money and posh for the States, but I think it would be an easier name to pull off in the UK.

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June 18, 2017 10:28 AM

I don't have that impression of Lucinda at all, and I live in the U.S. It is the sort of name many of my friends are giving their children: old-fashioned and off beat.

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June 18, 2017 10:42 AM

I don't have that impression of Lucinda either, and based on some of your previous posts, "new money," is something that seems to preoccupy you more than it maybe preoccupies the rest of the population? This isn't a dig; just that I honestly can't think of a name that screams "new money!" to me... possibly I don't know any people who fall into this category, lol.

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June 19, 2017 4:12 AM

I do actually think I know what is meant by "new money" sorts of names (and I think it's worth pointing out that the UK has a more rigid class system than the US does, so in some countries the class implications of a name are a more important consideration) but to my American ears I wouldn't think of Lucinda as being an example of aspirational/nouveau riche naming. I'd characterize Lucinda as a somewhat countrified classic at a current ebb.  I'd group it with Phyllida as being a more exotic form of a boomer-era hit. I like Lucinda -- but if I didn't, fusty and dated and heavy/clunky would be the criticisms that I'd expect.

While a post that is asking something like "what is the sort of person you'd expect to have a name?" is kind of inviting flights of fancy (because generally people aren't responsible for their names, their parents are), I think that we might strive to word our critical opinions in a way that recognizes that we're not submitting definitions for urban dictionary, here.

On to a tangent: is there a reason the name Lucasta hasn't caught on at all? It never even shows up in the SSA data, and Lucinda at its current ebb is still being bestowed to over a hundred girls.  I've liked the name Lucasta ever since I encountered the poem "To Lucasta, Going to the Wars" in English class. It turns out that Lucasta was maybe coined from "lux casta", which the poet used as a term of endearment for a woman named Lucy... so if I wanted to nickname my daughter Lucy, Lucasta would be my immediate and obvious first choice, the meaning of "chaste light" notwithstanding.

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June 19, 2017 6:07 AM

It's a pity they don't collect name data on social class in the UK (possibly an impossible task anyway), but from a fairly frequent observer of British names, I would put both Lucinda and Phyllida, particularly Phyllida, in the "posh" category (agreeing somewhat with the original poster's aunt, I guess, and neither of them in the nouveau riche category).

It's worth nothing that names that are popular in posh circles in the UK do often trickle down to middle class naming. Given the popularity of Lucy, I don't think Lucinda is irredeemably posh.

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June 19, 2017 11:43 AM

I take "new money" to mean pretentious -- someone trying too hard to appear posh instead of just being posh. But I do not get that vibe from Lucinda at all. To me, it feels more like a name that would have been passed down from a great grandmother than a name chosen to give off the appearance of being classy. It's an old name, it has history, and I disagree whole-heartedly with that cruel depiction of someone who was given the name Lucinda. It would have sufficed to say that the name felt like it was pretentious or trying too hard, because really, other than satisfying a personal desire to engage in some creative writing, what does a comment like that serve to accomplish? It's unkind (there are real people named Lucinda who might come across that description) and too idiosyncratic to be helpful.

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By EVie
June 19, 2017 12:37 PM

I agree that Lucinda is not a nouveau riche name in the U.S. I actually have an unusual perspective on this, as I've spent time reading college applications, which are chock full of information on parents' educations, occupations and financial status, as well as the applicant's name and those of their siblings. I also used to live in Silicon Valley, the epicenter of brand-new money, and now live in an area that has more than its fair share of money both old and new. Honestly, there isn't one cohesive nouveau riche style. It seems to follow general geographic trends, with urban parents pushing style boundaries more often than their suburban counterparts. I would expect to see a mix of surnames, bell-tones, Emmas and Graces, names from the parents' heritages (lots of newly affluent people in the U.S. aren't white!), and the occasional more adventurous literary name, depending on what's popular in the area at large. I think the thing is, most people start to form their name preferences before they have had a chance to become wealthy, so will gravitate toward the same names they would have chosen before they got their new money.

Lucinda strikes me as a more urban name, as it pushes the stylistic boundaries further than I would expect from the suburbs. I would expect a little Lucinda to have more hipster-oriented parents--maybe creative types in Brooklyn, or  maybe a young family that owns an organic farm somewhere outside a college town. They may be affluent, but they aren't the splashy-spending McMansion stereotype that I think we are describing. I don't know any Lucindas, but I do know a little Melinda, which I feel has a similar vibe. Her parents are academics (and very awesome, thoughtful and brilliant people whom I really admire). 

That said, I think Lucinda probably carries different associations in the U.K., as "posh" culture there is very different than in the U.S. Is the problem that using a posh name when you aren't actually posh is seen as pretentious? What about a Lucinda who really is from a posh background? Is there something wrong with living in London and shopping at Harrod's, aside from the fact that yes, it's expensive and not everyone can afford to do so?

Just buying nice things doesn't make someone a snob... it's in how you treat other people, like not disparaging those that come from a different background than yourself. 

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June 19, 2017 1:44 PM

I think the Telegraph does a good job of featuring the baby names of the posh, so I think the best way to mine the data about poshness is to look at the names overrepresented in the Telegraph birth announcements vs the rest of the country. The Telegraph itself did a not-so-great analysis of the disparity here: http://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/society/12076646/If-your-children-are-called-Arthur-and-Beatrice-you-must-be-a-Telegraph-reader.html

For DIY analysis:
http://www.britishbabynames.com/blog/2017/01/telegraph-births-2016.html vs http://www.britishbabynames.com/blog/2016/09/top-100-most-popular-names-in-england-and-wales-2015.html

My eldest, who has a super-duper obnoxiously posh (in UK) and pretentious (in US and UK both) name, is currently going through a very chavvy aesthetic and prefers to only wear tracksuits. Everytime I see him in athleisure and bling (pretty much every day), not only do I have a good laugh on the inside, but I am grateful to the greater latitude of naming that our home on this side of the Atlantic affords us. Germany, too, has very stringent attitude about foreign names being downmarket (the phenomenon is called Kevinismus or Chantalismus there).

So, I guess the short story here is I named my children obnoxiously posh British names that show up in those Telegraph analyses (#8 and #28 vs ~rank 250)...and I lived to tell the tale. I regret nothing; my kids have names that I love and in my current context they are distinctive enough that they come without too many preconceptions applied. 

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June 19, 2017 5:27 PM

OK, I'm going to have to link this video on the pronunciation of the "poshest names" list that Tatler put out:

http://www.tatler.com/news/articles/january-2017/video-posh-baby-names-pronunciation

The deadpan of their editor Sophia (So-FYE-ah) as she works through this is masterful although the names themselves are total fancy rather than generated in some sensible algorithmic way. 

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June 20, 2017 3:49 AM

Ayy, I had forgotten this article on posh baby names. Lucinda is indeed on there. ;)

https://nameberry.com/blog/the-100-poshest-names-in-britain

As someone with un-posh (and Northern!) recent British heritage, I absolutely understand the wish not to appear posh; not because it is pretentious, but because you wouldn't want to be associated with wanting to seem posh. Imagine if the American "1 percent" were immediately identifiable by their names -- in much the way that politicians' names seem to be out of favour I predict that 1 percenter names would be avoided by the rest of the population. I think it's no accident that the royal family opts for mainstream choices like George rather than overtly posh ones like Algernon... they want to maintain the fiction that they are like the rest of the populace in many ways.

(I love your children's names Lucubratrix and absolutely find none of them an issue in the US -- in fact, the only one I think might be an issue in the UK is the first one. 2 and 4 in particular don't strike me as overly posh).

Anyway, I still don't think Lucinda has to be an issue on either side of the Atlantic. This is, again, due to its similarity to Lucy, which is the 32nd most popular girls name in England and Wales. Luna is at 130 and Lucia at 183. The Lu- beginning is firmly established in popularity throughout the country and Lucinda will soon, I predict, sound like an alternate way to get there.

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June 19, 2017 12:08 PM

I think, along with Lucubratrix, that Lucinda has a bit of a country vibe,perhaps because it brings to mind Cindy Lou. Otherwise it seems pleasantly old-fashioned like Belinda and Melinda.

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June 19, 2017 12:18 PM

I'd group it with Belinda and Melinda, personally. I get a bit of Millicent, too.

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By mk
June 19, 2017 5:22 PM

I disagree. I don't have that impression of Lucinda at all, and I've known plenty of rich, preppy families in my lifetime.

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June 18, 2017 1:38 AM

I think Lucinda + another name ending in -a tends to sound overly flowery, if that makes sense.  I prefer the middle name to have a contrasting ending.  Also, i think it helps if the middle name starts with a consonant, so you don't have to have a glottal stop between first and middle.

From your own list on another post, these are the names i think work best as middles for Lucinda (roughly in order of how much i like them).

Lucinda Selene, Lucinda Soleil, Lucinda Caitlin, Lucinda Jasmine, Lucinda Yasmin, Lucinda Sarai, Lucinda Maris, Lucinda Carys, Lucinda Karen, Lucinda Phoebe, Lucinda Ruby, Lucinda Sophie

I also like Lucinda Charlotte.

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By Lolu
June 18, 2017 4:24 AM

We love Lucinda Phoebe and Lucinda Caitlin. We are also thinking Lucinda Katherine, Lucinda Rose, Lucinda Faye?

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June 18, 2017 3:19 AM

I think of Lucinda as a Victorian name that will fit in well now. It doesn't ever come to mind IRL except for the movie "Oscar and Lucinda" which is  a Victorian-ish melodrama. Lucinda is played by Cate Blanchett and is an interesting, multi-faceted character.

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June 20, 2017 12:48 AM

Lucinda (along with a slew of late Victorian names) always makes me picure a romanticised WWI nurse - sweet, kind and spirited, but tough as hell when needs must. I do hope you use it - it's lovely!

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By Lolu
June 20, 2017 6:56 PM

Thank you everyone for all your responses. You have put our minds at ease about using the name Lucinda.