Why don't I like my name?

My name is Angela. I was born in the 60's. I always ask people to call me Angie, as I much prefer that for me. I don't mind hearing my name for other people, but I don't like it for myself. My mother refuses to call me Angie, which really irks me.

I'm not much of a girlie girl, so I've always thought Angela was much too prissy for me. I also grew up in an abusive home. Maybe I just don't like my name because of who named me. My mn is Kay, which I like.

I would like to get past my feelings about my name, but I'm not sure how to do this. Our names a huge part of our identity. How can I feel better about my name? Any ideas would be helpful.

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By Guest (not verified)
May 24, 2012 9:55 PM

(Aw, that's my name!)

I think having a preferred nickname can help. Perhaps there are other versions of the name you like: Angeline, Angelica, Angel.

Would you want to your name? Or go by your middle name?

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By Guest (not verified)
May 25, 2012 9:18 AM

I like my name for other people....so you are okay. :)

 

I like Angeline. That is pretty. I'm thinking that I am probably too old to change my name. But perhaps I could just change it to Angie. That still wouldn't stop my mother from calling me Angela, I would guess. Thanks for your post.

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By mk
May 25, 2012 1:11 PM

I know someone in her 30s who change her first and last name to something completely different, so it's always a possibilty, especially if you are changing to something similar. Angeline has the option of being nicknamed to Lina as well. Your mother will probably always call you Angela no matter what, since that is the name she chose for you. While I think people should call someone what they prefer, you may have to accept that.

 

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May 26, 2012 6:59 PM

I think that's a hard one, especially as you can't get your mom to call you by the version you prefer.  (Is it possible to take a hard line with her? Like refusing to answer to "Angela" at all, only to "Angie"?)

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June 1, 2012 9:03 AM

Hi Angie,

My husband hated his name so he changed it. Not legally; he just asked everyone to start calling him Tom, which was his beloved grandfather's name and was completely different from both his legal first name and middle name. Slowly everyone made the switch except for his mom, who still calls him by his legal name. Every once in a while she'll call him Tom, but I can tell it's an effort for her. Even his sisters, father, and best friend from childhood call him Tom (it's been about 25 years since he made the switch). His case is a little different from yours in that his dislike of his original name (K3nneth) had nothing to do with his parents; he just simply didn't like the name.

Since most people know you by Angie, I'd say you can just claim Angie as your own and even change it legally if it will help you to feel better. Just accept the fact that your mom will never make the switch. Good luck!

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July 6, 2012 12:40 AM

My name is Angela! I didn't always like my name, but I love the way it looks in cursive. I love the big low looping g and the big high looping l and finishing with a flourish on the ending a. Maybe that helps?

As for your nickname, I think you should just go by what you like (Angie or Kay) as much as possible as suggested by others. Also maybe therapy, if you had an abusive childhood. It might be that no matter your name, you would still feel bad about yourself until you get help.

 

Good luck to you, fellow Angela.