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As a former teacher, if I saw it on a roster, I would pronounce to to rhyme with Hannah.
I'm generally not a fan of boys names on girls, but I will make an exception for namesakes. I think it is really special for a girl to be named after her dad (and a boy to be named after mom, for that matter).
That said, I don't love Wesley for a girl. Doing a quick name finder search, Wesleigh and Weslyn both showed up. They hit the unique factor and eases the "my parents wished I was a boy" issue.
I also found Welles, which really intrigued me. If your username is actually your name, your daughter would combine hubby's Wesley with your Danielle. Its definitely not a common name and it would be so personal to your family.
I completely love the tribute to your mom and grandmother!
If Marigold isn't serious enough for her, she can always just go by Mary, or you could pick a middle name as an option.
My only concern is that if you named your daughter Marigold, would you feel pressure to name a 3rd baby with an M? Would it bother you to have all Ms or to have 2 Ms and another letter? It's not a problem either way, but it's definitely worth thinking it through.
I think it has potential for the reasons you mentioned, but I would skip any name that sounds like "ill".
Honestly, I dont think it's a deal breaker. i really don't think most people will make the connection.
Just skip Helen as a potential girl's name.
I am very much drawn to formal names with less common nicknames, so I completely understand the appeal of Penelope to Pippa. maybe to take some pressure off, you and hubby can agree to wait to meet her. If she looks like a Penelope, so be it. If you know she's just Pippa when you meet her, that's ok too.
As for middle names, perhaps the grandmother who doesn't care for Marianne can wait for the next baby, and you can honor just one of them with this baby. If Marie is the grandma in love with the namesake, perhaps the middle name could be Rosemary, or even just May? Both have the vintage appeal that June has. If Ann is the grandmother to honor, how about Annette (which does sound better with Penelope because of the double a sound), Julianne, or Diane?
Your boy names have a superhero cowboy feeling to me. I'm personally not a huge fan of Remington--it just sounds like a product to me (whether guns or hair dryers). I ADORE Beau--masculine while being a gentleman all the way.
Your other boy names are good (I echo the issue with Ace Ryder). I would combine Jameson Beau.
Another boy name you might like is Everett.
On the girls side, you seem to like both vintage names and modern names. Paisley has never been a favorite of mine-neither the name or the pattern. I like Hazel, but not withe Emma. Hazel Ann? Hazel Mae?
Elsa is a great name, but so very tied to Frozen. Are you ok with that? I love Piper Quinn, but stongly dislike Quincee. (I feel like it would be pronounced like quincenera.) Piper Quinn is my favorite of your list, but just by a hair.
Some other names that might strike your fancy: Georgia, Cora, or Tessa.
Definitely Anastasia IMO. It's probably the one you'll most often get.
I know a woman named Stasia, so that's an option. There's a gymnast named Nastia, which is short for Anastasia.
Other ideas: Tacy, Tasia, and potentially Asia.
Honestly, I think it's a little weird that she is using Max, but I think the sentimentality of the name FAR outweighs the weirdness. You'll seriously regret it if you give up the name that means so much to you.
Max is common enough that your Max would pretty much be guaranteed to meet another Max by the time he is 5.
I love that combo!
Another plucky heroine to consider is Harriet.
Theres a new baby at my church named Javelin. It's certainly unusual as a name, but a familiar word, so it's not difficult to spell.
Jagger might also work for you.
I've been thinking over the idea of a "taken" name.
In the case of Arthur, it's an established name with a long history. Your acquaintance certainly does not own it. (Small tangent, I personally believe that kids who share grandparents, no matter how often they see each other, should not have the same name. That's not a universal opinion, though.) Definitely compliment your acquaintance on her fabulous taste in names.
My three best friends are married to men named Mike. Our conversations always include "My Mike", "Megan's Mike", etc. and it's all fine. Just be prepared to occasionally say "my Arthur" in conversation and "Arthur LASTNAME, it's time to go" on the playground.
As I was thinking about this, it occurred to me that the name in question really makes a difference in how I would respond. A little boy at my church was just named Javelin. The intent of a name like that is to be unique, so I would suggest it is off limits because it ruins the selling point of uniqueness. But in the case of a name with history that everyone has heard of, go for it.
Like other posters have mentioned, Nohlyn is confusing. Nolyn is a bit better, but I think Nolan is he best spelling if that's the name youve decided on. I would try it out at Starbucks for a few weeks to get a real world idea of what your daughter will experience.
Another option to girlify a traditionally masculine name is to give a middle name that could be used as a double barrel name if she chooses. Nolan Grace (a la The Fault in Our Stars), Nolan Joy, Nolan Belle, etc.
I agree with you about the lisp with Iris and your last name. What about simply switching the order? Jay Iris fixes the problem without losing the sentimentality.
Personally I would go for a feminized version of Jay (Like Jayne or Jane, Jayda, Jamie, Jaelyn, etc.)
For what it's worth, I would assume different things about the person based on the spelling. I would assume that Zara was a Western European caucasian (a la Zara Phillips) and that Zahra was of middle Eastern decent. I had a student named Zahra, and it was certainly not pronounced the same way as Zara. She pronounced her name with the h voiced in the back of the throat (kind of like Chanukah). She went by "Za" because English speakers couldnt pronounce it right.
It's definitely not my style, and honestly looks made up. It makes me wonder if there's a reason for the name. To honor Jason and Jessica, maybe? (If that's the case, I think there are better ways to do honor names.)
As someone with an often mispronounced name (so much so that I've thought about changing the spelling to see if that would help), I would recommend thinking about which mispronunciation would bother you most, and which would bother you least. Here's how I predict the following spellings to be the most often mispronounced:
Nalia/Nahlia - NAHL-yah (However, that might be a regional thing. I pronounce the flower Dahlia as DAHL-yah and the name Talia as TAHL-yah. Depending on where you live, if Dahlia and Talia both have 3 syllables, these spellings might be your best bet. At the same time, the presidents daughter Malia is pronounced like Mah-LEE-uh.)
Naleah - nah-LEE-uh (I agree with the previous poster that the h on the end looks like it should change the stress)
Nalea - nah-LAY-uh (because it looks kind of Hawaiian)
Nallia - NAL-ee-uh (to rhyme with "gal")
Which mispronunciation would bother you least? That's the spelling I would recommend.
I looked at the name voyager of all the names, and it looks like most of her kids were named right as the names began to take off. Basically, she was an early adopter of name trends, not a trend setter. Its interesting to me how she was trying to justify how uncommon all of the names were, even though I'm sure she knows how popular they've become.
An example of this in my daily life as a bridal consultant: I can't tell you how many girls tell me that their colors are rose gold and gray. They've never been to a wedding with that yet, but oh my the rose gold and gray tide is coming, and it's going to be huge! Nevertheless they're all so excited for how "different" it's going to be.
The danger of chasing an uncommon name is that there's no way to control that status. If I had had a baby girl when I started my fascination with names, I would have had a Charlotte, and we all know how that turned out....
How about Bruno? Its not common, the pronunciation is basically the same in English and Spanish, and it has a "guys guy" feeling to it.
I 100% agree.
One thing to add: August S. also has a bit of a hiccup to it. Perhaps you would consider Augusta Grace S.? It has a beautiful flow to it, takes cares of the concerns, and you could still use August as a nickname if you want to.