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Thanks! These are good additional suggestions. And I wasn't aware of namerology so that's great to know! I'll definitely crosspost there.
Thanks! I hadn't thought about the similarity of John and Jane so that's something to consider. We don't have middle names picked out for girls and would possibly just use two of these in combo.
Thanks, everyone! This is VERY helpful!
If we do go with Abraham/Abe, any ideas on a middle name? Same for Esther? And are there any other names that pop into your heads that we should consider?
Oh, and Lucubratrix, my family don't know any of our options so don't tell your sister-in-law! :)
Emmett1126--Good luck with insemination! I love the name Sylvia too, and also the idea of honoring the heritage of the non-gestational mother. In some ways it's tougher to make these decisions in a same-sex couple, but in other ways there are no rules so it's wide open and very fun to decide what's important to you.
Thanks for these replies! I should clarify that the real surname doesn't actually start with "May" (it starts with a W), and doesn't even rhyme with May (it rhymes with "Good"). Sorry for the confusion, and perhaps for picking a bad stand-in last name! But it at least preserves the right number of syllables and the mix of Anglo-Jewish.
Ah, I hadn't thought of that! Good point. Though we will certainly steer clear of Alexandrina et al. (I can't nix Cassiopeia completely as I am an astronomy person! But that probably would be best for the middle spot if anything.)
Update: I showed my wife this wonderful thread and believe it or not, we are both now strongly leaning toward hyphenating! This is kind of amazing because looking back at my original post, I wrote hyphenation was "absolutely" impossible. Ha! Just goes to show how useful getting some outside feedback can be.
We still want to sit on the decision for a while, and I'll keep track to see if more comments come in. Meanwhile, we can now begin the first name decision process! Baby is due in February and we won't find out the sex in advance. So once we have shortlists I'll post another thread to gather opinions. Also, if we do go with hyphenation that's already a lot of name for the baby. Do you think there's still room for a middle name?
Thank you again for your excellent advice!
Both names are beautiful - good choices! With such a common surname, I would personally vote for Maeve Catherine.
Also wanted to add, if it's helpful, here's an approximation of our names that gives you an idea of their flavor:
Ours have a few more letters but sound like those, so certainly if we hyphenated, the ending might get cut off when we fill out some forms, but there are worse things in the world, right?
I also like the suggestion of combing through our family trees for more possibilities, so I will look into that!
And to answer another earlier question, we are planning to use the same donor, and we both have similar coloring so I don't think it'll be a huge issue that they look very different, but of course you really never know in advance :)
Thank you all so much for your comments--you've given me a lot to think about! I appreciate the additional votes for the importance of giving the kids the same last name as each other, so I might prioritize that. And you've made me double-think my stance against hyphenation. Certainly it will be a clunky last name, there's no doubt about that, but in the absence of any ideal solution maybe this one should still be on the table. Aesthetically it is the least appealing, but it has the benefit of presserving both sides of our heritage and making it clear that these kids are one family.
Lucubratrix, thanks for the congrats, and yes, gotta love the internet! I really apprecaite your advice about how the world will try to figure out which kid belongs to which mother--ugh! Not surprising, but still very annoying. I can see how having the last name clearly attest to our joint parentage might be helpful. I will float some of these ideas by the spouse and update the board. In the meantime, please keep the opinions and advice coming!