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December 12, 2017 11:57 AM
In Response to Vivienne Lee?

Yes! This is exactly what I was trying to formulate none-too-articulately over coffee this morning. I feel that on days when I have a cold sore or generally feel rumpled, I wouldn't appreciate strangers coming into contact with my name and saying "like the actress!"

December 12, 2017 02:09 AM
In Response to Vivienne Lee?

A quick google does show a fair number of other people (not famous) with the name Vivienne or Vivian Lee, so I suppose it's liveable-with.

I wouldn't personally want it to be my name though -- my own name is not exactly unique, but at least I don't have to share it with a famous actress and great beauty.

December 11, 2017 10:03 AM

I saw this blog post today and thought of you. Of course, a lot of these actual names likely won't work with your cultural heritage or personal preferences, but others are thinking along similar lines to you!


(P.S. I would be a bit nonplussed by having a boy myself. It's good to remember though that every son raised by a conscientious feminist family is probably a big win for society).

On the subject of first names, I consider that any male name that is not super macho (of the Gunner and Maverick variety) is fair game for a (hopefully) feminist son. Names like John or Eugene or Frederick, just to give some obvious examples, aren't liquid or feminine sounding, but they've been worn by so many diverse men throughout history that I don't see why the patriarchy should have possession of them. I do kind of share your taste for more gentle sounding names like Julian, however.

December 8, 2017 02:06 AM

Ara in Catalan means "now."

December 7, 2017 02:20 AM
In Response to Girl name!!

You really give us extremely little to work with.

Disclaimer: I'm not American so I don't know what "goes along with" African-American very well, but I plugged Audrey into the Name Matchmaker (I originally put both Thomas and Audrey but just got a lot of extremely traditional responses like Mary, Elizabeth and Catherine) and got some of the following:

Naomi, Vivian, Avery, Aurora, Simone (has been discussed on this forum before as possibly leaning African-American) Ivy, Amelia, Angelina.

Specifying a preference for African American I got Simone at the top, and also names like Ariana, Aaliyah and a number of similar names starting in A and ending in ah, Kiera, Janiya, Nia, Kimora, Asia, Jada, Lyric and a whole host of names like Taniya. Browsing through a list of African American female celebrities, however, I noticed that most of them had completely standard names (Robin, Jennifer, Michelle, or more exotically Viola or Octavia) that don't signal race one way or the other to me.

I don't know if any of these move in directions you like? But since you don't seem to have strong opinions, and since your boyfriend seems totally unbothered, I might just go with Audrey. It goes really nicely with Thomas John, if you ever have one, as mentioned above it does have a notable tie to the African American community. How does your boyfriend feel about Audrey?

December 7, 2017 02:04 AM

I don't know much Italian, and the dictionary does confirm that "cara" means dear as in darling, but given that it also means dear as in "expensive", I might steer clear of that particular combination.

December 5, 2017 03:40 AM
In Response to Here comes #4!

Haha, I love this story! And between the name Charger and the "black with sparkles" thing, I feel like your daughter might think her father is an Australian horse!

December 4, 2017 02:57 AM

I also immediately jumped to Stellaluna, Novaluna or even Claraluna as a take on Claire de Lune.

December 4, 2017 02:46 AM

If dad is Marco, I kind of like the idea of Marcel, as it has the same first four letters but a different sound, so it wouldn't get confusing. Alternatively, Matheo ends with the same sound, so that's another nice connection.

I really like both Daphne and Daisy. Daisy does sound very floral with Primrose and Heather, but since Daphne is botanical in its own right, it's kind of six of one, half a dozen of another. 

Heather is one of my favourite floral names, so I vote for that whichever first name they choose. :-)

December 4, 2017 02:32 AM
In Response to Sister for Josephine

I don't think they are too close. I put the word stress in different places, JO-se-phine and Fran-CINE, so I find that the rhyming it mostly visual for me, and I'm not sure how much it would be noticed in real life. 

December 1, 2017 01:51 PM


November 29, 2017 01:41 AM
In Response to Mamie

I know they are different names, and seen in isolation it would never occur to me to see Mamie as racist. I have to admit though, that within minutes of reading the post, I was humming a song that I thought was called "Mamie," (an Al Jolson track from a CD I had of music in old movies) and which turns out, very unfortunately, to be called "Mammy" and sung in black face. Oof.

I did find a nice Muddy Waters song called "Mamie" in the process however, suggesting again that the problem is not in the name but in our interpretation of it.

November 28, 2017 02:33 AM

I like Primrose a lot. I think the rhythm flows really well with Meredith.

Rose is lovely but I agree that in the middle spot it is extremely overused... I would only go for it if you have a personal connection to the flower or the name that elevates it to something more special. Or how about Rosemary?

Other more out-there options: Zinnia, Azalea, Trillium, Aster, Lilac (I knew a girl with this as a first name; unexpectedly lovely), Lavendar, Bryony.

However, given that your other daughters have easily recognizable floral middles, I would probably stick with something in hte same vein. Another related options could be Flora.

November 28, 2017 02:27 AM

I'm one who has always been a bit doubtful of the pronunciation of Asa. I imagined it had to be AY-suh, because I couldn't believe so many people would be considering it if it were ASS-uh, but that is what my brain wants to do with those letters. 

I read a Swedish mystery a few years ago which featured a couple named Asa and Ake (with an accent I can't find on the A), and it confused me mightily, especially as Asa was the woman.

November 27, 2017 02:45 AM

I've most often heard it pronounced MILL-an, as opposed to Mill-AN like the city. Usually by people of Czech origin.

November 26, 2017 01:00 PM

Honestly, I would imagine that the people who in general don't like Wilder are the same people who don't generally like Hunter, so if you don't get negative feedback on your elder son's name from these same family members, it's likely either because it has grown on them (as will Wilder) or they are diplomatic because he already exists (as they will be once this boy is born). If it is your favourite name and makes you feel happy, I absolutely think you should use it -- and it's kind of a nice connection to his off-grid lifestyle, even if he does go live in corporate America one day.

I also really like the suggestion of Xavier (or Zavier), which to me kind of straddles the style of Gavin and even Jolene a bit more.

November 23, 2017 01:50 PM
In Response to Help With Quads!

I had no idea that was the story. What a stressful and sad experience. 

November 23, 2017 12:17 PM

I think Eamonn is a great choice. I didn't think Callan went particularly well with your other children's names, but I agree with the others that Eamonn makes for a great, diverse but coherent set of siblings.

If James also works as an honour name... I think you have a winner all around. And a use for all those monogrammed towels!

November 22, 2017 01:32 AM

I really like Alba and Astrid, and also Elowa (as a big fan of Elowen and Eilonwy, it hits all the right notes for me). Alba was 112 on the Scottish girls list in 2016, although it's worth noting that this only translates into 42 baby girls, so it is certainly not common. I think it's a lovely choice for a Scot.

The longer names on your list are not my style, just because I tend not to like elaborately feminine liquid names, but I don't have a strong problem with the extra ys. I would probably assume a different ethnic background if I saw them, but it's not a big deal. Micah I personally see as a boys' name.

I do find the Niyle spelling more annoying than Aureliya. I think when you said that Aureliya is lovely but Ameliye isn't you may have hit the nail on the head. Ending in an -a, Aureliya has that extra syllable which creates a natural "ya" sound, whereas with Ameliye you're inserting an extra letter that seems to imply a new sound, but there isn't one. The same thing happens with Niyle. I see the y, my brain wants to do something with it, but then the cluster of letters doesn't suggest anything obvious. I find it confusing for no particular purpose. However, I also don't think it's the end of the world, if that's the only spelling you like.

November 20, 2017 01:41 PM

Your first name choices are all classics, well-love and with a long history of use. They are the kind of names you can't go wrong with. It's worth considering though, that any of them has the potential to seem "bland," or at least anonymous, with a surname like Brown. There have been many, many Matthew Browns, Thomas Browns and Andrew Browns throughout history.

This doesn't make them bad choices at all, but it means that I find there isn't much to choose between them based purely on first and (very common) last name. My personal favourite name is Thomas, then Andrew, then Matthew (wayyyy too many Matthews in my school growing up). 

The middle name can be an opportunity to give your son a more distinctive option if he wants to stand out one day. For this reason, my top choice is probably Zachary, because Zak Brown could make a great stage name, or Matthew Z. Brown makes him stand out a little when he's an academic and submitting to journals! Dalton and Hunter also stand out reasonably, though I don't like that they sound like surnames (unless they are surnames for people you deliberately want to honour). On a personal favourite front, I really like Samuel too.