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I agree that the H seems to serve no purpose and honestly, it confused me as I had no idea how to say this name. My first guess was more like No-helen.
If you like Nohl for a girl, I don't see why it would need more too it. Though again, I think that H is rather confusing and/or pointless for the purposes of clarifying how you want the name said.
I'm honestly not a fan of boy-names-on-girls, and I like them even less when people attempt to feminize the names with extra letters to make them more girly (Y does seem popular for this purpose). When the name is said, those additional letters aren't going to help it sound more girly-people will still hear the boy's name Nolan on the playground.
I also grew up with a unique name (technically, a less common spelling of a name that was unique at the time). Unlike you, I hated it and wished for something that required less explanation. I didn't necassarily want to be a Jennifer, but at least something people knew how to spell & say correctly. I guess we are all different & there is really no way to predict if your daughter will like having a unique name as much as you did.
I will add that I love Karyn's suggestion of Nola for you. Same sounds as Nolan, feminine without needing any help, and certainly not common and without ambiguous pronounciation concerns.
I'm not really certain what you mean by Montgomery being a "big" name. Do you mean size? Number of syllables? It's only 1 letter more than Josephine and the same # of syllables (in my accent, mont-gom-ree, I realize some people might say it as mont-gom-er-ee). Mo is certainly not "too big" by any means.
I don't think Cosmo is too out there, though I'm not crazy about the alliteration of Cosmo Christian.
Milo is nice and I don't find it too trendy with Josephine
From your list, my favorite is Montgomery Christian, with Milo Christian being a fairly close 2nd.
Other names that seem like Mo would be a reasonable nickname for: Morris, Moses, Maximo
All that said, I did notice that Mo & Posey sound really similar, I could see myself ending up saying things like Mosey & Po fairly often. However, I am easily tongue tied and this may not be an issue for you at all. However, thought I'd mention it in case it's not something you had already considered.
I'd say Iris is only slighty problematic with the last name, and only when I say it the name really fast. Making sure to place a small pause between them clears up the problem & seems worth it for the sentimental meaning of the name. The last name is unusual enough that I suspect clarification would be needed sometimes anyway, regardless of what the 1st name is.
I would encourage you to think less about how the names sound together. They won't be a set forever. I also think "sounds good with Emilia" is really subjective. Personally, I might avoid M sounds since Emilia has a fairly prominent M sound. I would for sure avoid that "ee" ending as being too similar to the "ee-ah" ending of Emilia. But, to each her own.
M & "ee" together made me think of Mia, though that seems so similar to Emilia that it could work as a nickname.
Similar to Maureen but perhaps not so grandmother/diner'ish sounding to modern ears would be Maura. Or perhaps something like Marina? It's got the M you like and a nice internal "ee" sound.
Instead of Loretta, I might look at something like Lorelei. Or perhaps just Etta? If it's too cartoonish will probably depend on the actual last name, and again, that's another thing that's really subjective. It certainly hasn't hurt Loretta Lynn any. I'd personally avoid something like Loretta Lawrence or Loretta Lohan because the shared internal sounds + the start L sounds cartoonish to me. However, something like Loretta Lambert or Loretta Lewis would probably be fine.
Based on Loretta & Maureen, I'd suggest names like Paulette, Lorraine, Charlene, Glenda, Roberta & Dolores-all of which will likely strike most people as very dated & not ready for a comeback.
Based on Emilia, I'd look for names that were softer, more "frilly" and less dated sounding-Marina, Alessandra, Isabella, Julianna, Sophia, Alyssa, Malina, Lucia
If I split the difference, I'd try for something more current but less soft and/or "frilly" maybe something like Lucy, Audrey, Molly, Beatrice, Violet, Claire, Clara, Juliet, Abigail.
Blake is nice, but I actually think it meshes too well with Barrett & Tucker. I suspect I'd end up saying things like Blakett/Blaker, but I'm easily tongue tied. I also agree it's not great with the last name. Another opportunity for me to be tongue tied-Blark Clake? I wouldn't worry too much about it not going with the sibling names. They won't be a set forever.
Hudson is nice, but it oes strike me as trendy. However, Barrett and Tucker also strike me as trendy. If the only thing really stopping you is popularity, I say use it anyway.
Beckett is way too similar to Barrett. Not crazy about Camden at all. If you love Grayson, use it! I'd rather know I was given a name my parents loved and were excited about than know I was given a runner-up name simply because their first pick was "too popular." All that means is a lot of people will like his name. Carson Clark has too many repeated sounds for my taste. And Keaton is in my family tree, so it sounds incredibly wrong as a first name to me.
Other ideas-Archer, Kieran, Alton, Harris, Harrison, Sutton, Sullivan, Weston, Coleman
OK, so my husband has just corrected me. The E ending in German is not a true schwa sound. He said Charlotte in German is not the same as Charlotta in English. However, my American Engish speaking self cannot really hear a difference. So I guess it depends on how picky you want to be and/or the specific English accent you'll most likely be working with.
First, I'll suggest that you consider loosening some of your constraints. I suspect some are hard and fast rules, while others are probably more along the lines of "it would be nice to have, but I could overlook it for the right name." Something like simply loosening the restriction on the "a" would open you up to a lot of German names that end in "e" but have the "ah" ending sound. Something like Charlotte could be spelled Charlotta and you should get the same pronounciation in both languages, while Charlotte will be Charlotta in German & Char-lot in English.
Second, I'll suggest you look at the blog post Laura did on international names. Perhaps you'll find some inspiration there.
Names from my husband's German family that (to me at least) sound the same in German & English: Cora, Carmen, Heidi, Renata.
Looking at your list, I don't find Katja too German for English speakers to figure out. The "ja" is also seen in names like Sonja (Sonja/Sonia could also be something to consider), so you've got a well-known example to give if you do encounter the occassional problem. You could also use the spelling Katya if you wanted to make it more obvious for the English speakers.
If you absoluately want it said the same in both languages, I would suggest Annelies instead of the spellings you have listed, which should both get you Anna-lees in English & Anna-lees-ah in German.
Gretchen also come to mind.
I think with names that don't have an established spelling, the more simple option is probably best. However, simply because the name you want is soo uncommon, you likely won't be able to avoid ever having to correct or explain things.
Visually, I think Nalia is prettiest. However, I also suspect it'd be the spelling most likely to get nahl-ya. Nalya/Naliyah or anything else with an unnecassary "Y" will probably also cause problems.
Something that incorporates accepted spellings of the name Leah seem like they'd be the most intuitive, Nalea or Naleah
I don't really care for Breccan or Sayer much (though I suppose Sayer would be fine in the middle position).
I really, really like Rupert! Callum & Eamon are also both very nice. I've never been a fan of Blane for no particular reason. Finnian isn't bad, but it does strike me as currenty very trendy.
Please do not use Coen as a first name. There have been a ton of discussions on this board about how the use of this name is offensive to some Jewish people. I'd encourage you to search the forum for Coen (be sure to include other spellings) in order to get a better understanding of the potential problems with this as a first name, especially for a non-Jewish child
I think we have very different tastes when it comes to girl names!
I really dislike Payson, sorry.
I am also not a fan of boys-names-on-girls, so I don't care for Elliot or August. However, I would love something like Ellen/Ella or Augusta (I actually adore Augusta).
Arden is nice, it's my favorite from your girl's list.
Not sure what I think about Ashby. It's not really my style, but I like it more than I would have guessed. My biggest concern is that I suspect it may get misheard frequently as the more common Ashley. You may want to consider how annoyed you'd feel about having to correct people.
Emerson/Emery are both kind of meh for me. Though I know it's gone girl, Emerson still feels off as a feminine name for me. Emery is better in this regard, but I just can't seem to shake the emery board association.
I really like Eamon & August.
I suspect a lot of peope will assume girl for Ellis & Casey. You may want to consider if this will bother you or not. I'm pretty neutral about them both, I don't dislike them, but they don't really excite me the way some of your other choices do.
I like Aaron, Brooks & Jonas, just not as much as Eamon & August. These would be my 2nd tier names for you.
Desmond is a fun & exciting choice, and I love the idea of Desi as a nickname. It does strike me as very different from your other choices. I'm not sure it really matters, but if you prefer for sibling names to coordinate, you may want to consider if there are other names similar to Desmond that you'd want to use. If you like for sibling names to coordiante & Desmond is an outlier from your usual style, it may be reason to eliminate it.
If you are open to new suggestions, Ellis & Jonas together made me think of Tobias.
I'm not generally a fan of 2 middle names, but Francesca Viola Sophie is so much fun to say! I love it.
How do you say Lucia? Loo-sha or Loo-see-ah? I like Francesca Loo-see-ah, and would make it my 2nd favorite pick. However, Francesca Loo-sha sounds/feels a bit slurry when I say it, so I don't care for it as much.
Is Dawson the last name or the middle name?
Dom Dawson sounds a bit off as first/last for me (I don't really care for alliteration), but if Dawson is the middle I don't see an issue since he won't regularly be called that.
Tobias Dawson is great, and I love Tobias! I hesitate a bit at the nickname Tobe, I suspect people will want to do Toby more often. You may want to consider if that will bother you.
Bastian Dawson is bit sing/song to me. Both 2 syllable and ending in "en." Again, this won't matter unless Dawson is the surname.
I love Nathaniel/Nate Dawson. I think this & Tobias are my favorites.
Oliver/Ollie is nice, I just don't quite love it as much as Nathaniel or Tobias.
For question 1, I 2nd the idea of somehow incorporating part of your husband's name into this baby's name. Not technically a 3rd, but still a nice nod to tradition. Perhaps your husband's first name (or a variation) could be used as the baby's middle? Or maybe they could simply share the same middle name? Or perhaps there is a family name from your side of the family that you'd like to incorporate somehow.
For question 2, No, you do not need to name all of your kids an L name if you use one for this baby.
From your list, I'm not a huge fan of Lincoln & Landon, just NMS. Connor is kind of meh for me, but that may be because I know several. FWIW, the Connors I know all skew middle school/early high school age.
I like Brodie, though I slightly prefer the spelling Brody. Jake is nice, though it seems a bit incomplete. I think I'd prefer something like Jacob with Jake as the nickname. Brody & Jack together remind me of Jacoby, so perhaps you'd also like that?
I don't mind Casey, but I know a male Casey who complains that people assume girl a lot. You might want to consider if this will bother you or not.
Reid is my favorite. I think it would fit well with current naming trends, but is uncommon enough that he'd still stand out a bit.
Xanthe should not get an accent mark of any kind, I agree with the previous comments on this.
I prefer Wren. Renn isn't really the same name at all, and if you liked Wren because of the W, a creative spelling seems to defeat the purpose.
Goes with Dallas isn't much to go on. Could you give us some examples of names you like? Even if they aren't quite right, or you can't use them for some reason, it'd give us some idea of your taste in names.
I don't care for Roxelana at all, sorry.
Many of your middles have a very sing/song quality when paried with Breanna. This may be what you are going for, but it's not something I personally care for. With this in mind, I would eliminate Rowenna, Rossana, Roseanna & Rubina. I'd suggest avoiding names with the same # of syllables, especially if they also end in the "ah" sound.
I'm not a fan of Rylin. Roe makes me think of fish eggs.
Rain is OK, but not my favorite. My favorite would be Breanna Renea.
Other R names you could consider; Ruth, Rose, Riley, Rae, Rosemary, Ruby, Rosalind
Both of your names are lovely, and I think they both feel classic and not too trendy.
Annamarie could be called Ann, Anna, Annie, or Mia. A bit more of a stretch, but still reasonable nicknames also include Mamie & Mimi.
Juliana would not have to be called Julie. You could also do Ann, Anna or Annie, Jules could also work (though it may be too close to Julie).
I'll add that either of your names would not need to have a nickname. If you love the full name, then why not call her that? I know lots of kids these days who go by only their given names. People just don't automatically assume a default nickname they way they used to.
Aggie & Dora don't seem too far off from your style, so perhaps looking at longer Greek names with nicknames you like could work? Or a non-Greek name that is somehow meaningful to your husband? For example, you could consider Biblical, historical, literary or place names.
I like the suggestions of Ariadne & Xanthe. I'll add Eleni, Selene, Seraphina (Sera/Sadie, Fi), Ionia, Helen
For boys, perhaps August/Augustus, Leonidas (Leo), Gideon, Theodore, Aristotle (Ari), Darius, Lysander
From your list, I could see Lux being the best option-maybe a compromise of Loukios with Lux as the nickname? Though Loukios is technically masculine. From his list, I think Anastasia would be your best bet because of the nickname potential. How would you feel about Tasia or Sasha? Ambrosia also isn't bad, I think it fits well with your kids names, though it would mean giving up on your preference for no ia or a endings.
I like Dexter & agree that the association with the TV show will pass.
My first thought for you was Felix. Milo, Hugo, Julian, Oscar, Pax & Rex