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It does strike me as a bit P heavy, but this is really a minor thing. Using the name you love combined with a meaningful middle name is more important than a minor flow issue.
It's OK. Not really my style, but I don't dislike it.
Can I ask why the letter Y in Robyn? I don't care for creative spellings, so I'd prefer the more common spelling Robin. I think this would also emphasize the nature connection between Lily & Robin, which is nice.
I really like all of the names on your list. Since you've got so many nice choices, my comments are going to be a little nitpicky, but hopefully they'll help you narrow things down.
I'm not crazy about the repeated "ee" endings of Esme Mary, Sadie Mary and Aubrey Mary, so I'd probably eliminate those. I could get behind Sarah Mary, with Sadie as the nickname.
Tess Mary sounds choppy to my ear, so I'd also eliminate Tess. I do think Tessa Mary has a much nicer flow, if that's something you are willing to consider.
Nora Mary is very pretty and I think the flow of this one is much nicer than your other options.
Aveline made me think of Avalon, but that might also be too modern sounding for you.
I don't really have any new suggestions for you, but my favorites so far are Amalia, Aveline & Adelaide.
I would guess the pronunciation you are looking for. I can see Kah-jeen (like Blue Jeans, not like Asian) being possible, but it wouldn't be my first guess. Kay-jeen wouldn't even occur to me.
I think your husband likely had a very different generational experience of his last name. If it's what I'm thinking, it didn't start charting as a first name for girls until the early 90s. It got some occassional use for boys before that, but overall use was quite low until it took off as a girl's name. For your husband's generation, it was probably seen as surname first and maybe a boy's given name sometimes. For today's generation, it's a surname and very solidly a girl's given name.
I would say that between Miles & Milo, I do see Miles as the more traditional/classic and Milo as a bit trendier. However, Miles actually ranks quite a bit higher on SSA stats. Miles comes in at 115 and Milo is at 314. I suspect Milo might have a bit of a hipster vibe for some people, but that will likely diminish as it continues to rise in popularity.
It's a shame you can't use Alexander or Sebastian! I wonder if you'd like Solomon, Gideon, Thaddeus, Philip, Bennett, Trevor or Cole (perhaps short for Collin or Nicholas)
Perhaps you can use Hartley for the middle name?
I like the nickname Harry, but would avoid Harrison/Harry because of their association with Henry (Harry is a traditional nickname for Henry).
I like Luke, but it doesn't seem quite right with Jack and Andrew/Drew.
Liam is very popular, but I do like it. I think I might lean towards William with Liam as the nickname.
I have a George so I may be a bit biased, but it is a great name. It fits well with Jack I think, but seems not quite right (too fusty perhaps?) next to Andrew/Drew.
Charles is my favorite from your list. Charles Hartley with the nickname Charlie?
Michael is OK, but feels a bit more like a "dad" name and less vintage than some of your other options. Perhaps I just knew too many Michael/Mike's growing up!
I do really like the suggestion of Ryan. I'll suggest Leo, Miles, Samuel/Sam, Nathaniel/Nate,
I agree something with meaning would be nice.
If you don't have a family name or something you can use, I agree another G name would be a great way to create meaning and provide a connection between the siblings.
I like several of HungarianNameGeek's suggestions. I'll add Graham, Gene & Giles.
I think a multi-syllable G name could work too. Gabriel, Gavin, Garrett, Gideon.
I'm curious if your last name is used as a given name for boys or girls? If it's the name I'm imagining, the fact that it's used mainly on girls could work in your favor. If I met a boy and saw the name Munroe K-y, I'd be pretty confident that Munroe was the first name. It'd only become an issue if I saw the name somewhere without knowing the person's gender.
Quinn still strikes me as masculine. When I see it on a girl, it's very much a "that's a boy's name on a girl." I have run across Quinton as a surname though, so you may find it problematic with your last name.
Laine strikes me as much more feminine that Quinn, especially with that spelling. Lane is a little better, but it still strikes me as feminine. Lane is also very much a surname. Lane/Laine could be particularly problematic with what I'm imagining your surname to be, due to the double surnames that both lean feminine.
Maverick & Barren are both too much for me. Especially that spelling of barren (not reproducing), though even Barron is too much IMO.
I like Marcus and the nickname of Mark fits really well with Nate/Nathan I think.
Leo is nice and I think it works well with Nate/Nathan. It's visually short, but it is 2 syllables, so it doesn't sound too short next to your son's name. I do like the suggestion of Leonidas for a less common long form.
Drew is nice, but it does sound like a nickname. I think Andrew/Drew and Nathaniel/Nate work great together. This is actually my favorite pairing.
Noel is just not a name I've ever cared for. I also don't care for repeated initials, so that's another strike against it for me.
I wonder if you like Alexander? It works well with Nathaniel and I think both Alex & Xander work with Nate/Nathan.
Gabriel/Gabe, William/Will/Liam, Charles/Charlie/Chuck, Mitchell/Mitch, Sebastian/Baz, Theodore/Ted/Teddy/Theo, Miles or Milo
Thank you for explaining the periods! I can see how this would be an important point for Native Hawaiian speakers.
I see I was off on most of my pronounciation guesses. I do like Ka.'i'o, but can see how you'd want to avoid it as most mainlanders will turn it into Kaio (which is also nice and would work well for a boy).
Now that I know a little more about how they should be said & the various things affecting translation, I really like Nanea. nah-Nay-ah wasn't my first guess, but I think it'll be easy to remember now that I've had a little guidance. Hala'i is probably my 2nd favorite as far as sound and overall ease of pronunciation.
behind the name.com says that Sheila is the anglicized version of Sile & Sile is Irish form of Cecilia, so it appears you could use Cecil if you wanted.
Between Dale & Odell, I'd probably just go with Dale. It is only a 2nd middle, so it doesn't matter as much if you don't care for it. It sounds like your mom has also been really obvious about her desire for someone to use it, so I suspect Odell isn't going to have the emotional reaction from her that you are looking for.
I agree, I also really like the combination. However, I do prefer Alistair.
If your main hesitation about Harrison is the potential for the nickname Harry, I wouldn't worry about it too much. People don't automatically use nicknames the way they used to. I know lots of kids with longer names who don't have nicknames. I usually don't care for alliteration, but it really doesn't bother me too much with Harrison & what I'm assuming is your last name. It's a double "ha" but the actual sounds are distinct enough that it doesn't bother me.
I quite like Oliver. I did notice that with Oliver Harrison, the initials will spell Ohh. I don't think that's a reason not to use Oliver as a first name, but since the HOH bothers you, I thought I should point it out. Based on just flow, I prefer Harrison Oliver Have_.
I don't care for Kingston at all, sorry. It strikes me as very trendy, while Harrison and Oliver don't. I also agree with your husband about it sounding a bit pretentious. It's not quite as bad as naming your kid King or Duke or Prince, but it's close.
Honestly, they both look a bit off to me. Probably because I'm most familiar with the spelling Coulson.
I'd just use the spelling you like best. I don't think anyone would raise an eyebrow about why you are spelling the nickname Cole when the "e" isn't in the given name.
Yep, these are also my favorites.
Arlow strikes me as very much a boy's name. It also looks misspelled.
If you like Harlow but want to avoid the celebrity kid connection, perhaps Marlo, Margo, Harley, or Harper?
William is a great name and it really seems like the best option for you. I think having so much honor name potential negates any potential problems with popularity. FWIW, I have a William & despite its popularity, we've only ever run into a handful and he as yet to encounter another William in class (and William actually ranks higher in my state than the national average).
Beau seems like a stretch as a nickname to me, but my preference is for nicknames to have some connection to the given name. Perhaps Beau as the middle name? Or, you could do Beau/Beauregard/Bowie/Bodhi as the first name and use William in the middle position? This would also eliminate your concerns about the popularity of William/Liam.
Copper, I like that it has a personal connection for you. I don't like that it is the surname of friends, I think it would depend on how close they are. In general, I think perhaps Cooper would be a better middle name option for you.
I like Lucas a lot, but I like William better because of the family connection.
Bodhi, I don't think it's too out there, and it give you the nickname Beau/Bo that you want. William Bodhi called Bo works and would give him an "out" if he decides he prefers something more traditional for resume purposes. In fact, I think William Bodhi & Bodhi William are my favorites for you. Nice blend of unique + traditional, honor name from both sides of the family and you'd get a nickname you like.
Beckett & Hudson both strike me as really trendy. I'm honestly not a fan of either. Between the 2, I slightly prefer Beckett.
McKenna is OK. I like the honor name for your husband and I'm usually a big fan of cross-gender nicknames. However, the overall trendy feel of all the "Mc" names for girls makes me like this a little less.
Kirra, I'm guessing it sounds like Keer-ah? I like that it has a personal connection to you. It fits current trends but doesn't seem overdone the way the "Mc" names do.
Keegan, I'm just not a fan of this one (for girls or boys).
Piper is nice.
Linley is also nice. I like the family connection.
Looking at your girl names, I think Kirra is my favorite. I really like the idea of Kirra Linley.
Like others, the non-letter characters really throw me. I have no idea what to do with them. However, with enough patience, I think people would eventually be able to pronounce these names. I'll second the suggestion of having a nickname handy for your mainlander friends/family, just in case.
Hi'ilei: I'm guess Hie-ih-lay? The meaning is nice, and the "lei" element should be familiar to most people. Though I've heard the pun "I was Lei'ed in Hawaii" often enough that I wonder if the "lei" element would make this a difficult name to carry on the mainland.
Nanea: Nahn-ee-ah or perhaps the first syllable in more like Nan (as in Nancy)? Either way, it's a pretty name with a pretty meaning that I think that with guidance, most people will be able to figure it out. Nicknames could be Nea or Nan or even Nancy (depending on pronunciation).
Lauwa'e: Lao-wah-ee? This one is harder for me to figure out even a best guess for how to say it.
A.he.nani: Ah-hee-nahn-ee would be my best guess. The periods really throw me on this one. I think the added puncuation will be problematic if she ever lives/works/goes to school on the mainland.
Hala'i: Hah-lah-ee? Not too bad, but I don't think it's as intuitive as Nanea because of the apostrophe.
Hili.na'i" Hill-ee-nah-ee. The puncuation in this one is less of a problem for me (assuming my guess at pronunciation is anywhere close to correct). Possible nickname of Hillie perhaps?
Niele: Nee-ell or perhaps Nee-ell-ee? Like Nanea, I think this could work. Even though I'm not sure of the pronunciation, it seems like I'd be able to remember it without too many reminders. Nicknames of Nia or Elle would be a plus I think.
Ko 'i" ula: Koe-ee-oo-lah? Again, I think the puncuation could be problematic for mainlanders. The only nickname potential I can see would be Ula.
Ka.'i'o: Kah-ee-oh or perhaps Kay-ee-oh? Puncuation problems. Possible nickname of Kay?
Is the puncuation actually part of the name? If it would be considered proper to drop it, I think names like Kaio and Hilinai would be a lot easier.
Had to rush off before I could post my girl suggestions, so thought I'd come back and throw a few out there.
Claire, Elise, Lily, Lilah, Gwen, Tess, Paige, Maeve, Tate, Rose
Old fashioned names are becoming new again. Opal Juliet is lovely and I think Opal would fit in well with other vintage revivals currently popular.
FWIW, Opal is not currently ranked in the top 1000 names. However, Pearl has started to make a comeback (#677) and I wouldn't be at all surprised to see Opal break the top 1000 again sometime in the next few years.