2nd Girl, Can't Agree On Name

Hi!

We're expecting little girl #2 and we are so far apart on names, it's ridiculous. Boys names have always been easy for us, but girls are more difficult.

Our first is Avery Rose. Our last name starts with H and is long: 10 letters. It is British/Scottish in origin, but my side is Irish and French. This baby's middle name will be Joanne, after my hubby's grandma...we just need a first name!

My list:

  • Audrey Joanne (although I feel that it may be too similar to Avery)
  • Vivienne Joanne (long, especially with our last name, but I love it)
  • Lauren Joanne
  • Marlo Joanne
  • Margo Joanne
  • Claire Joanne
  • Clara Joanne
  • Finley Joanne
  • Bridget Joanne

 

Hubby's list:

  • Arlow Joanne
  • Lydia Joanne
  • Chloe Joanne

 

Help!

Replies

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October 7, 2014 4:01 PM

Hmmm. I actually don't see a HUGE contrast in your naming styles, but I'm not an expert and I'm sure the origins of all those names are vastly different. You have a longer list to make assumptions from though, so I'd peg you as liking fairly classic/traditional names that are "pretty" sounding. The only outlier in your list for me is Finley, which I read as equally as masculine as feminine. The only Finlay I knew was a male, but I've heard it most recently with the Finley spelling on little girls. I feel like Chloe and Lydia could just as easily have been on your list! You also have some common ground with Arlow and Marlo. Would your husband compromise with Marlow(e)?

As for what goes best with Avery Rose, from your list I like Vivienne and Lauren best. However, it's only because they're soft-sounding like Avery, not because there's anything about the other names that's really "wrong"... Lydia is also really pretty with Avery. Honestly, the only name I don't like at all is Chloe, but it's never been a name I've warmed up to.

EDIT: On second thought, I think Finley might be a great choice. Avery, while very beautiful and feminine to my ear, DOES have unisex usage. Maybe that's a plus for using Finley! Marlowe is also historically masculine but is pretty acceptable for use with girls.

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October 7, 2014 4:49 PM

I agree with Sasro - I don't think your choices are that far apart.  I'll suggest some names that have similar sounds:

Alaura/Elaura

Arla

Arlyn

Charleigh/Charlie

Harley

Harlow

Harlyn

Marlis

Marlow

 

Good luck!

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By mk
October 7, 2014 5:33 PM

Your choices are not really far apart in style, they just isn't a name that falls on both lists. Marlo and Arlow are very close, and Margo is not much different. So maybe one of those?

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October 7, 2014 7:11 PM

I agree Audrey seems too similar to Avery.

Marlo and Arlow are very, very similar.  I like Marlo, not a fan of Arlow.  Is it supposed to be a feminized version of Arlo? Marlow without the M?  I'm just not quite sure what to do with it.  I'd also count the repeat initials of Arlow & Avery as a strike against Arlow.  Another similar name is Margo, maybe you could agree on that?  Marley seems like a nice compromise/mash up of Marlo + Chloe.

I do like the repeated V in Avery & Vivienne.  However, I think the Vivian spelling is better visually.  Vivienne looks too frilly next to Avery.

Lauren seems a bit meh compared to your other names.  Perhaps Laurel, Lila or Lola?

Claire/Clara and Chloe all seem very similar.  In this instance, I prefer Chloe with Avery.  Avery has a more modern/spunky feel that I think is better reflected by Chloe, while Claire & Clara both feel more vintage/sweet.  Similar names that I think could work with Avery are Clancy, Cleo & Cora.

Finley is a nice fit with Avery. I'm surprised your husband doesn't like it, as it also seems very similar in style to Arlow. Emery, Marley, Riley, Kiley, Sydney & Delaney seem similar.  Finley + Lydia=perhaps Sylvia

Bridget is the only name from either list that feels really off.  I don't think it works with Avery and it seems like an outlier on both lists (though your tastes really aren't that far apart).

I'll also suggest Fiona, Lucy, Mia, Zoe, Phoebe, Celia, Mallory, Keira & Veronica.

 

 

 

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October 11, 2014 12:45 AM

I like a lot of your names but with Avery I would choose Vivienne.  I actually think the spelling Vivian goes better with Avery. My next choice would be Marlo or  Clara.

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October 26, 2014 12:25 AM

We have 3 girls. Our oldest is Avery Clare, then we added Sydney Cate and Cassidy Rose. Our origins are fairly similar - DH is Scottish & Polish. i'm Englsh, French & German. 

 

I thinks either of our other 2 girls names would work. I particularly like Sydney Jo(Anne) as a F/M-combo like a NN.

 

Congratulations and best wishes!

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October 26, 2014 12:31 AM

Personally, and althpugh I like the name Vivian a great deal, I wouldn't pair with Avery. They can sound quite similar, especially when shortened. My ~6 YO gets called "Ave" a lot and with "Viv" could cause some confusion. I'd have similar thoughts about Audrey.

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November 29, 2014 11:19 AM

Interestingly enough, I agree that your styles seem quite similar. It can be very frustrating when you feel you can't agree on names, especially when they are not so different from one another. I think striking a balance would be fairly easy, and there have been some great suggestions! I think Leila or Lilah would be a beautiful choice if your husband is willing to meet in the middle with Lydia, and both seem to fit in well with many of the two syllable name choices you listed above. Also, Liliana could be a great alternative to Vivienne and would definitely lessen any confusion with "Ave" and "Viv" as some said above- plus it is absolutely beautiful! I don't tend to worry so much about how sibling names sound together, I think it is wonderful for every child to have a unique identity, and how better to do that than by giving each a unique name that is distinctly different from their siblings? It gets boring when there's an Aaron, Bethany, Courtney, and David, or an Ava, Sophia, and Isbella or three girls all with gender neutral names such ad Ryann, Stevie, and Danny in the same family- I think it is much more interesting to mix it up with sounds and styles! Hope this helps!

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December 1, 2014 12:44 AM

Probably this will be utterly unhelpful, but here are my 2 cents:

 

I LOVE Margo and Clara.  Arlow is interesting to me but looks unfinished somehow.  Like it should be Harlow or Arden.  Arden is probably my favorite name ever but Hubby shot that one down early on.  I do think Avery and Arden is a super cute pair.  

 

Hubby's name is Finn, so I can't find anything even remotely feminine about Finley, but that's just my own personal association with the name!  My aunt is in the process of adopting a baby and her name is going to be Finley Harper.