A girl's first name that goes with the middle name Spencer

My husband and I are having our second baby girl in July. My husband's name is Spencer and I think it would be incredibly special for the baby to have his name as her middle name. Since Spencer can be either a girl or boy name, I think it is perfect for our little one. My only dilemma is that I am having trouble finding a first name that goes well with it. We are looking for something feminine and not too popular. Any ideas?!!


April 15, 2012 6:59 PM

Spencer is a great middle name.  Since everyone's preference on what is feminine or too popular is different, I'll throw out a bunch of different ones and you can let us know which are on the right track.

Lacey, Georgia, Mila, Phoebe, Elodie, Lucia, Adeline, Maisie, Cicely, Ruby, Iris

April 15, 2012 8:33 PM

How about these:

Georgia; Jocelyn; Elizabeth; Rachel; Annabelle; Caroline

I would caution against Diana as before she was Princess Diana that was her maiden name. That is the only conflict I could think of.

April 16, 2012 10:00 AM

Spencer made me think of the poet....





perhaps a little too unusual for your taste?

April 16, 2012 4:59 PM

What is yor first daughter's name?  That might give an idea as to your style.

Some suggestions--Audrey, Amelia, Caroline, Laura, Marianne, Monica, Tabitha, Gwendolyn

I would avoid more of the s sound, with Spencer.

April 17, 2012 11:51 AM

Congratulations on your new addition! I think Spencer makes a very flexible middle name - after all, it was originally a surname. There is a long tradition of using surnames as middle names to honor various branches of the family tree, and in addition everyone is used to hearing girls'/womens' names combined with surnames as First Last, First Maidenlast Marriedlast, etc.

Given that, the world of first names is pretty much your oyster, and the only main criterion I would have for ruling out any would be phonetics and flow. This is very much a matter of subjective taste; I find it pleasing to have some sounds repeated through first, middle and last names, but some people can't stand alliteration. The last name makes a difference to me too in the overall effect.

Myself, I would probably steer clear of other names with an -er ending (Eleanor, Heather, Jennifer, etc.). For a smooth transition to the Sp- sound, I'd avoid -s/-z (Alice, Carys, Rose) and -th (Elizabeth, Meredith) and instead go for clear vowels (Bryony, Clara, Molly), crisp consonants (Ingrid, Juliet) or soft l, m and n (Meryl, Miriam, Corinne). I was about to say I'd also avoid a lot of s sounds in the name overall, but when I say them aloud, Susannah Spencer and Cecilia Spencer actually sound pretty good to me. I think more "sp" would probably be overdoing it, but that's a pretty rare combination - come to think of it, perhaps part of what makes Spencer sound so distinguished. I'd also probably go for 2-3 syllables.

When it comes right down to it though, flow and phonetics are not as important as a name you love, especially one with a good story you can tell your daughter. We just tend to focus on sound a lot here since that's often what we have to go on.

Some more ideas (common and not so, of a variety of styles):

Abigail, Ada, Amy, Avery, Carla, Caroline, Cassandra, Christina,

Daphne, Eva, Evelyn, Felicity, Fiona, Gwendolyn, Katharine,

Lauren, Lily, Madeleine, Maren, Mariah, Olivia, Nadia,

Penelope, Priscilla, Rachel, Rhiannon, Veronica

I'm finding as I type out options that I don't like last syllable s+vowel (ruling out Lucy, Melissa, Theresa, etc.)

To add onto zoerhenne's point about Diana, I'll also note Octavia Spencer came to my mind (though she's less well known). Once you've narrowed down your list, you might want to try googling each first name choice + Spencer to make sure you don't have an accidental namesake ("Oh, that's why they sounded so good/natural together!").

April 17, 2012 1:08 PM

of course, sometimes an accidental namesake is a good thing...not sure how I'd feel about it personally, but I bet there's plenty of people who wouldn't mind an accidental connection to Princess Diana.