Advice for same-sex last name choice for baby?
I have long been a lurker on this excellent forum and am now excited to be in actual need of your advice! My wife and I are expecting our first, and we are unsure what to do about a last name (let alone a first!). We both have three-syllable last names that absolutely wouldn't work hyphenated. Hers is very, very New England anglo-saxon and mine is very, very Eastern European Jewish. In case it's relevant, we're planning to raise the kids Jewish. One option would be to combine them to make up some sort of new last name, but she's a historian and I'm sort of a traditionalist and I think we both enjoy last names as ties to history and ancestry.
So we will probably either A) Name the first kid with her last name (because I am pregnant this time around, and we like the reverse symmetry of it) and the second (hopefully to exist, hopefully to be carried by her) kid my last name. But what do you all think about having siblings with different last names (especially last names that sound like they're from completely different types of families, ethnically)? I am not wild about this part of the plan because I worry people will assume these kids came from previous relationships or are stepsiblings. Or does this not really matter?
Or B), obviously, we could just pick one of our last names and name both kids that, and maybe give the other as a middle.
Any opinions? Other options we haven't considered? All thoughts are appreciated!
Fri, 09/02/2016 - 1:01pm