Advice on my top 3 girls names badly needed

Hi

I'm now pregnant with my second child - a surprise!

Trying to find the one, again, especially with girls names, is difficult. All we have is a bunch of names we tossed out last time, deeming them unsuitable because of one flaw or another. 

I've managed to get it down to Cordelia, Aurora and Evangeline.

My husband didn't fall for Cordelia because it was too hard sounding. Cord reminded him of diy or craft material. But I think its growing on him...

Aurora was our favourite until we looked at it with our last name Morrison. Ror and Mor almost in succession was a bit too much rhyme/tongue tripping teasing ammunition. Unless I'm imagining it? I still love this name. 

Evangeline got rejected last time because I was concerned about foisting my religious beliefs onto a child... but then again there must be Atheists named Grace, Mary, and even Faith! The second worry was on how popular Evelyn, Evie, Eva are... We'd like to eventually use the nickname Eve/Eva or Evie. But then again our first child's nickname is also a very popular nickname too, so at least they'd be similar in this way, though completely different. Its so memorable though... Ever since I saw Lost and found out Kate's real name, I have loved this name. Third worry, my friend  (not close) has a daughter the same age as my first, called Evelyn nn Evie. We're in a mummy group together. I would worry people would think I was a) unoriginal, b) copying, c) trying to one-up her with an extra-long Evie name. Help! What do you think?

Advice appreciated. 

:-)

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April 9, 2017 10:00 PM

Evangeline is a literary coinage. Longfellow just made it up. But apparently it caught on fast, because just a few years after Longfellow published his poem, Harriet Beecher Stowe used it in Uncle Tom's Cabin. It's Little Eva's full name. And then there is Evangeline Parish in Louisiana. So I wouldn't say that using Longfellow's made up name is exactly foisting religious beliefs. OTOH, say, Rosary, another fairly common name in Louisiana, has a bit of an air of foisting.

As for the other concern you mention, my view is that a name is chosen for a lifetime of a hundred years. Neighbor children's, dogs', and even cousins' names are irrelevant. My recommendation is always to choose the name that you love, never mind whoever or whatever else has the same or similar name. (An exception: I would avoid names like Idi Amin and Pol Pot.) You also mention that you like the Eve/Eva/Evie group of nicknames, despite their popularity. I'll just note that in Louisiana Vangie is a common alternative.

 

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April 9, 2017 10:06 PM

Cordelia is lovely.  I wonder if suggesting the nicknames Cora, Delia or Lia would help it feel less harsh to your husband.

I would personally eliminate Aurora, but I think repeated sounds is one of those very subjective things.  Some people might love it, specifically because the repeat sound.  But it is very tongue twistery to me.  I'm not tripped up by the "or" sound in Cordelia Morrison.  I think the extra syllables between the "or" sounds in Cordelia Morrison helps a lot.  Perhaps Lorelai?  Seems more similar to Aurora to me, but has some extra syllables to break things up a bit.

People name their children religious names all the time.  I don't think it's a huge deal.  I also don't think I'd worry too much about your friend's daughter being called Evelyn. As you've mentioned yourself, this is a very popular group of name, so she's going to encounter others with something similar. You could always consider Lina as a nickname if you (or she) decide you want something that will stand out more.

 

 

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April 9, 2017 10:10 PM

I think it's funny your husband thinks of cord. I pronounce it Cor-del-ya or Cor-del-ee-a. The r and d aren't connected in my mind. This is my personal preference if he comes around. Of course, I don't believe in forcing a name on anyone either.

Aurora might be a little heavy on the Rs. But still wouldn't consider it a deal breaker, especially since you both seem to love it.

Evangeline is not my style, but I it's a nice name. I'm a secular person myself, but love many biblical and other names related to religion. I think there's no need to worry about it.

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April 9, 2017 10:14 PM

Since I say the name Cordelia approximately six hundred times per day, I'll tell you that in my experience, it isn't really Cord, it's cor-DEE-lee-uh (or cor-DEEL-ya). The stress pattern divides that "word" in two. And because of the stress, Delia is a common nickname for Cordelia, which eliminates the Cor completely. 

(But really? DIY because of cord? Why not power cord or rip cord? Or umbilical? Spinal? That's a very specific association for a very common word.)

 

I agree that Aurora is too much with Morrison (though the nickname Rory Morrison is freakin adorable), and Evangeline is a gorgeous name that does not strike me as foisting anything onto anyone. It isn't actually the same as naming her Evangelist or Evangelism, despite the apparent similarities. (My personal association with the name is the Evangeline Trail in Nova Scotia.)

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April 10, 2017 12:53 AM

Evangeline is beautiful! Evie is such a sweet nickname! I didn't think of any religious connotation until you mentioned it honestly.  

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April 10, 2017 9:36 AM

Evangeline isn't actually a religious name. As another commenter mentioned, it appears to have been coined by Longfellow, based directly on the Greek for 'good message'. This makes it about as religious as Cordelia (which may go back to an old saint's name, Cordula, a companion of St. Agatha).

Of the three, I adore Cordelia with your surname. (I like the name a lot anyway, but the sound/rhythm/echo with Morrison just clinches it. It's poetic or musical, and fun to say.) I don't mind Aurora with Morrison, but it is an awful lot of R, which is a difficult sound in all languages.

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By EVie
April 11, 2017 2:42 PM

Seems to me that a perfect halfway point between Aurora and Cordelia would be Aurelia--it loses some of the Rs from Aurora and loses the "cord" part of Cordelia, but preserves the lovely derivation of Aurora and the literary and historical associations of both. The multiple pronunciations are a bit of a hitch (most often au-RAY-lee-uh in the U.S. and au-REE-lee-uh in the U.K.), but as someone with an even worse multiple-pronunciation name myself, I can testify that it is only a minor annoyance and not the end of the world. 

I do agree with you that Aurora Morrison is a bit much, and I have actually crossed it off my own list because I don't like the sound with my R- surname (especially now that I have a preschooler who struggles with his Rs).

Evangeline is beautiful, but I understand what you are saying about the religious associations--even if they are post hoc, it's kind of hard not to associate it with "evangelical" and "evangelism" when they are such common yet distinctive-sounding words. I don't have it on my own list for that very reason, although in my case it's because I'm not religious at all and evangelism is one of the aspects of organized religion that I am most uncomfortable with. I just wish that the lovely Greek phrase meaning "good news" hadn't gotten so tied up with the idea of proselytization! If you're religious and you have good associations with those concepts, though, I don't see a problem with using the name. As long as you raise your daughter to be open-minded and tolerant, you won't be foisting anything on her--the name is only one small element in what will become her value system. Plus, she can always shorten to Eve/Evie etc. if she wants to minimize the religious associations.

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April 11, 2017 4:17 PM

Ooh, i love the compromise of Aurelia!

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April 11, 2017 4:23 PM

So do I!!

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April 14, 2017 1:56 AM

I think Aurora Morrison is too much, but I love Aurelia.

Cordelia is good too! Or just Delia.

Evangeline has a lot of different nickname options: Eve, Evie, Eva, Vangie, Angie, Ang, Angeline, Angel, Lina...

You might also like Angeline or Angelina.

Or Corinna.

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April 14, 2017 2:37 PM

Cordelia - a gorgeous romantic name!

My daughter's name is Aurora and son''s name Aurelius thus I love the suggestion of using Aurelia for a girl. 

Lorelai -what another person on here suggested is beautiful! 

I don't think you should worry about someone else having the same name especially if it's someone not so close. People come and go in your child's life. My cousin had the same name as me (first and last) besides being in the same first grade for a year we live in different parts of the country and our lives have not crossed for the last 20 years! 

 

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April 15, 2017 4:05 PM

I'm not sure whether you're looking for alternative suggestions at this stage, so I'll start by commenting on your (very nice!) final three:

Unfortunately, Aurora does not work with Morrison for me.  Aurora is already just a bit cumbersome to pronounce because of the two r's, and throwing in Morrison is a definite deal-breaker. 

Cordelia is awesome if your husband manages to warm up to it.

Evangeline does read as religious to me...but oddly enough it's so religious that I would be surprised if actual evangelical parents used it.  Maybe it seems too on-the-nose.  In general I think my preconception of the parents would be that they have vaguely positive associations with religion but are not actively religious.  Same goes for names like Trinity.  I have no idea whether my preconceptions are at all correct, but there you are!  No definite thumbs-up or thumbs-down from me.

As for alternatives, Aurelia was a great suggestion above.  You could also consider Arabella or Coraline.

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April 22, 2017 7:55 AM

I love Evangeline the best from these three and you wouldnt be unoriginal or copying

Aurora Morrison is a bit trippy

Cordelia is ok,  Delia would be a pretty nn