Another Irish Name Dilemma
Back after a long absence... A miscarriage at 12 weeks last year made it emotionally difficult to think about babies.
So, a year later, I am *very newly* pregnant! It's a tense time, and we don't want to make any decisions or announcements etc until well after the 12-week mark. But the waiting and the secrecy and the anxiety is driving me a little crazy, so I was hoping you all would indulge me in a bit of useful distraction.
Regulars may remember the epic debate between my husband and I over our first daughter's name. It continues now with the possibility of a second girl. To summarize: I have long loved the Irish name Aoibheann (EE-van), which has a myriad of personal meanings for me. DH vetoed it for our first daughter, who was named Sorcha (SOR-a-ka) as a compromise between our two positions. And, I am the first to admit, it is *her* name, suits her utterly, and I wouldn't change it. However, a year after her birth, DH relented on Aoibheann; quote: "If we ever have a second daughter you can use Aoibheann". And, prepare for the flip flop once again: now that we are anticipating our second child - enh. He's not keen on it. "Well, you can still you use it, or whatever. I'm just not ever going to be a big fan", he says. Great. Fantastic. Thanks for your input.
This leads to two related questions: should I use Aoibheann, with the grudging acceptance of my husband, even though it's obvious he dislikes it? Or should we aim for another compromise name like Sorcha which I will grow to love and associate with my child?
If it helps, the compromise name he suggested is Cobhlaith (as in COVE-la), which I kind of love as well. I can see a daughter of ours with this name. But I worry that, if I pass up Aoibheann a second time, I will always regret not using it.
And finally, for the curious, our boy's name is set in stone: Callum Hart (as a combo of our fathers, Calvin and William, and Hart to honour a dear friend).
Middle names under consideration for a second daughter are: Cecily (a family name), Serenity (DH loves Firefly), and Reverie (thanks to Girl's Gone Child).
Any help, feedback, suggestions, or empathy would be so appreciated!
Wed, 07/04/2012 - 12:08pm