Are These Too Close?

 I've been trying my best to come up with another name for a girl but I keep coming back to this one: Selah. I absolutely love it and I can convince my HB to like it too lol. The problem is that it might be too close to his neice's name Leia. Do you think it's too close? We haven't told family yet so I can't ask for their opinion. I need help son because i keep falling more in love with it! Thanks in advance! 


April 8, 2017 11:21 PM

For siblings, I would say yes, they do seem too close.  But for cousins, I think it should be fine.  I can see some chance for mild confusion, especially if they will be close in age and will see each other often.  But this is the type of thing that should work its self out-and it's really not the end of the world if people have to clairify once in a while.

April 9, 2017 12:56 AM

I would say the same as NAGA, but I'm curious how you pronounce Selah as there is quite the debate on it's pronunciation. Only one mirrors Leia (SAY-luh, like the first half of the word love) while the others do not.

The Hebrew pronunciation (a language I don't speak) sounds halfway between tse-LUH and say-LAH to me, similar to the name Sarah if it had an increasing stress (<).

April 9, 2017 9:26 AM

In Hebrew it's seh-luh (seh like set, luh like luck), but in English, it's typically SEE-luh, which is definitely not too close to a cousin named Leia. (Even if the cousin were named Leela, it would be be doable, unless the cousins lived in the same house. Funny, yes, but not insurmountable.)

EDIT: I just found your other post in the Expectant Namers board and moved it over to this one, since it deals with name issues. In it, you say the pronunciation you expect is SAY-luh. It's the sort of thing that people in the family will mix up a lot, especially if great grandparents are in the picture, I think. I also keep saying Selah and Layla when trying them out together. But, is it worth giving up your favourite name? No, I don't think so. Though be aware that your daughter will very, very frequently need to correct people on both the spelling and pronunciation of Selah pronounced Sayla.

April 9, 2017 10:17 AM

Since the established English pronunciation is see-lah, and you want say-lah, I would go ahead and spell it accordingly. To respond to the original question, no, I don't think it's too close to the cousin's name.

April 9, 2017 10:25 AM

So Hebrew is closer to Stella without a T?

I don't read IPA well. How is Wikipedia saying it is pronounced?

Selah (/ˈsiːlə/ or /ˈsiːləh/ with pronounced audible H; Hebrew: סֶלָה‎‎, also transliterated as selāh)

April 9, 2017 11:16 AM

Yes! Stella without the T. And since the stress isn't on the first syllable like it is in English --they're both kinda stressed -- the a at the end isn't the unstressed a of sofa (or Stella) but more like la in play singing la la la.

/ˈsiːlə/ is SEE-luh, while /ˈsiːləh/ is the same with a breath exhaled at the end.

By mk
April 9, 2017 12:59 AM

For cousins? No.

April 9, 2017 11:07 AM

 Thanks for y'alls input! I like the pronunciation SAY-lah. The niece's name is LAY-uh like as in princess leia from star wars! Sorry for the confusion! 

April 9, 2017 1:07 PM

With these pronunciations they don't sound too close to me for cousins, and while the first sylable is very similar the look and style of the names is quite different. When the family is together there may be occasions of someone mishearing which name is said but I don't think it would be anywhere near enough of a problem to make it worth discarding a name you love. 

April 9, 2017 5:36 PM

To wit, I have a cousin named Tara. Family calls me Kar and her Tar, and I think that at least once per time that we're together, one of us mistakenly thinks that she's being called. We laugh and the other one responds. It's 100% a non-issue.

April 9, 2017 6:20 PM

I have met two Selahs - both pronounced SAY-lah. I think it is a lovely name & not at all too similar to Leia as a cousin. Sisters, maybe. I've heard of cousins with the same name. I don't think it's a problem.  

April 22, 2017 8:34 AM

not too close at all