Avery....for a boy?? Or Ashton?

LOVE Avery for a boy, but the upsurge in girl Averys has me worried-- will he be in a sea of little girls with the same trendy name?  Is this a deal breaker? Is the name feminine now or does it still sound like a Boy's name?  Ugh- so torn! 

Also considering Ashton which my husband loves-- can't tell what "type" or Category it falls into. 

Any input is appreciated-- thanks so much! 

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October 11, 2019 2:52 AM

Ashton is nice.  Avery to me goes along with lots of similar girls names now,  what about Averill, Everett, Avriel, Avram, Avran, Everest, Evan, Everton, Everson, Ivan, Ivo

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October 11, 2019 7:24 AM

Thanks for these suggestions!! Love Everest but not sure it flows with our last name. 

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October 11, 2019 2:14 PM

um, I think it would be ok, what about Everett, Everton, Everson or Evan

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October 11, 2019 3:50 PM

I also love Avery for a boy. It is more common for girls than boys now, but I don't think that's a deal-breaker. For sure there isn't a sea of little girls out there with the name--it's not the Jennifer of the current generation or anything close.

Several years ago there was a male character named Morgan on the TV show "Chuck". That's a name that statistically "went girl" in the 1980s and '90s, but I found it very refreshing on a man. Avery's statistics recently look very similar to Morgan's twenty years ago: a name with steady but low-level male use suddenly got semi-popular for girls, with a lower rise in popularity for boys at the same time). Actually, Avery's gender inversion is a little less than Morgan's: it's slightly more popular for boys and slightly less popular for girls than Morgan was at its peak.

For comparison, and to see what I mean about no sea of little girls named Avery: In 1995, the name Morgan was given to 56 girls out of 10,000 and 6 out of 10,000 boys. Avery seems to have peaked in 2014 at 49 in 10,000 girls and 11 in 10,000 boys. So Morgan was more than nine times as popular for girls as boys, whereas Avery is only about four times as popular for girls as boys. And if you didn't feel like there were a lot of little girls named Morgan around in the nineties, you'll find even fewer girl Averys today (but a few more boy Averys now than boy Morgans then).

As with many naming issues, the final decision depends on your personal tolerance and zen-ness--some folks don't mind spelling out the name every single time ("Kathryn-with-a-K-and-a-Y"), putting up with regular mispronunciations ("it's actually Care-uh, not Cahr-uh, but I'll answer to either"), etc. while others find it increasingly irritating.

In this case, you should ask yourself how much you'll be bothered if people assume your Avery is a daughter rather than a son. It may also be worth asking if you'd be as bothered the other way around (people presuming your daughter's name was a male name), and if not whether you can shift your expectations a little bit. Why should it be cool to give girls gender-ambiguous names, but horrifying for boys?

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October 12, 2019 4:06 PM

i love avery for a boy and girl! not a big fan of ashton though

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November 10, 2019 11:48 PM

I just replied to another post of yours. I have a boy Avery. It definitely isn’t a name that surprises people when they see he is a boy. People probably assume girl, but don’t blink when find out he is a boy.  its not like naming a boy Kate or Isabelle. 

 

Go for it if you love the name! I think Ashton could go either way too.