Baby #1 and only is a boy & need name help

 I went for my anatomy scan on Tuesday and we found out we are expecting a baby boy in September. Previous to this, I was so convinced (by all the old wives tales) that I was having a girl, as was everyone else. So, having prepared myself for tutus and bows, I was shocked when I found out. I had several girls names I really liked, but only a short list of boys names that were "eh".


After a couple days of toying with some names, here is what I like. I really like the name Jackson, but I hate that it is rising so highly in popularity. I would like to use the name Thomas as at least a middle name, as it is my dad's name. My lovely monster-in-law has already stated that Thomas is not a good name to go with our last name as all the Thomas "last name here's" she knows are losers. She doesn't know this, but I was considering Thomas Joseph and calling him T.J. WTF, whatever.

I also like Max but am having a REALLY hard time coming up with a middle name that flows with such a short name. I don't think Max Thomas goes as well as Jackson Thomas.

Other names in contention:

Silas, Emmett, Griffin, Gunner, Travis, & Jace.


Sooooo any input, suggestions, thought...would be gladly appreciated and helpful :)


By EVie
May 10, 2014 11:10 AM

Well, my son is a Thomas, also named after my dad, so I think it's a good name :) We've only gotten positive feedback on it. We use the full name.

Would you consider a longer version of Max? Maximilian, Maxwell and Maximus are the main ones that come to mind, and I think they give you a nice range of style options--the fancier, more buttoned-up and traditional Maximilian, more modern Maxwell, and more grand and daring Maximus. 

I don't really care for Jackson--it's just not my style. I also don't care for Jace, and if you want to avoid high-rising names, that's one to stay away from--all the names starting in the Jace/Jase sound are skyrocketing right now (see this: And Gunner is just too violent for me in that spelling (Gunnar is the traditional Scandinavian name--Gunner just makes me think of school shootings). But Silas, Emmett, Griffin and Travis are all very nice names.

May 10, 2014 2:06 PM

I have a hard time attaching to any of the longer versions of Max. =/

I agree with you on was really one of the "eh" names.

I've never seen the Scandinavian spelling of Gunnar...I think I prefer it, actually. Thanks!

May 10, 2014 3:38 PM

To clarify a bit, Gunnar is not an alternate spelling of Gunner.  Gunner is an English word, person who shoots a gun.  Gunnar is the Nordic form of a Germanic bithematic (compound) name.  The German form is Gunther, and the Old English form, no longer in use as a name, is Guthhere.  The first element of the compound is a word for war, battle, and the second element is a word for army, host.  Together the compound name reads something like war band, battle host.  Now the word gun, firearm, is likely derived from the same root as the initial element of Gunnar, but by a very circuitous route.  So Gunnar and Gunner are not equivalent, but rather at most distantly related.  Both, of course, have, shall we say, aggressive associations.

May 22, 2014 8:07 PM

Gunnar is also pronounced slightly differently than Gunner.

GOON-are vs GUNN-er

May 10, 2014 1:06 PM

Monster-in-law! I must tell my husband about that! (That's really how my mother behaves around him.)

To repeat my advice given many times in many threads: don't worry about middle name flow unless you actually plan to use the middle name every day. The flow and rhythm of first and last is the only thing that matters for most people.

I'm not a fan of surnames as given names, so I far prefer Max over Jackson, but my favorite is actually Thomas.

May 10, 2014 2:08 PM

She is so a monster =/ It's unfortunate. LOL


I suppose I won't be using the middle name on a daily basis. I realllllly am liking Max.

I do love Thomas, but after Monster's comment basically branding her grandson as a loser if he's named so, I don't know what to do.

May 10, 2014 2:50 PM

I'd ignore the monstor in law!  In fact, I'd stop talking to her about names.  A lot of people can be really rude before the baby is born.  But sometimes they at least have enough sense to keep negative thoughts to themselves once the baby has arrived & the name is official. If she makes a comment like that after your son is born, let her know you look forward to seeing her grandson give her a better impression of the name.  :)  If I had listened to my MIL when my 2nd was born, he'd probably still be called Baby.  I know I would have always regretted not using a name my husband and I really love just to try and make her happy.

Using a nickname like TJ is cute, gives your MIL an "out" so to speak & would help avoid potential confusion with your father.  

If you do decide you really prefer Max, then go ahead and use just Max.  While flow is a consideration, I agree it's not that important-especially if the middle name is a family honor name. Family connections almost always trump flow.  Max Thomas LastName is a fine name.



May 10, 2014 3:02 PM

The funny part is, we never mentioned any names to anyone. She texted that to us a mere 3 hours after we had found out the sex. SMH

It's funny you say your son would still be called baby. My best friend's mother referred to her son as "the baby" until he was like, 6 years old. "Where's the baby, Andrea?" We just rolled our eyes. lol


I've decided when it comes to Monster, silence is the best answer :)

May 16, 2014 2:09 PM

In the movie "St. Elmo's Fire", Demi Moore referred to her many step-mother's as step-monster. I stole the term for my now deceased step-monster and use the term for myself for fun when talking to my step-kids.

I do want to take up for some people who use the term "the baby" even after they are no longer babies.

My first husband and I had a lot in common in that we were both raised by older grandparents - I'm talking people who were born 1898-1900. They used the term baby when talking about little kids - like "let me see that baby." When my brother (half - so we did not share this set of grandparents) kinda got offended years ago when we asked about his son - then probably about four "where's the baby." He thought it was odd and made kind of a deal out of it, letting us know that his son was not a baby. We grew-up with calling little kids - especially the "baby" of the family a baby - I think it is an age thing and maybe the part of the country you're from. Anyway, we offended him then he offended us because it just was a natural thing to say.

Anyway, your monster-in-law should mind her own business. My grandparents used the term "baby", but I don't think they ever tried to dictate what names people should name or not name their children.

I think you like Max Thomas - you should go with that - sounds fine to me!

May 17, 2014 8:18 PM

I think I should go with that too :)

May 20, 2014 5:37 PM

I named my son Max Everett and it's so distinctive, but sounds like a good, decent guy you'd really want to know (not just another a "loser" -- though sorry you have to deal with that voice-in-the-ear!) You could always do two middle names, like Max Everett Thomas -- which has a great flow! GOOD LUCK :)