BaBY BoY 1w old and we can't decide on name.

My husband and I are having a hard time agreeing on a name. Here are the names in the lead. Our other children are Devin 13yo and Miller 2yo. Our last name is Helm. I wish I could add in a photo. 















August 18, 2018 8:52 PM

I wouldnt use a name starting to D or M so that cuts out a few,

Austin, Tristan, Hunter, Parker, Fletcher - I like these the best from your list to go with your others, what about Tristram.  I think a different ending to the others is better eg no n's or r

Henry - is ok,  but doesnt go with the others,  what about Harvey, Henley, Hendrix - check if you think the H names go with the surname

Stone - a big no

Sage - not for a boy

Brooks - dont really like

August 18, 2018 9:21 PM

I thought Miller and Milo sounded cute... they will only be one year apart in school so will hopefully be good friends. Devin will be away at college by then. I also thought them both having occupational names was cute... Parker, Hunter, Fletcher... and Devin means Poet. Henry my husband liked because of the alliteration. Stone we were kinda thinking as a middle name. This is why it's so hard. My first choice was River but he vetoed it fast. He likes more traditional and I like more nature based.

By EVie
August 18, 2018 10:19 PM

I'm very skeptical about the claim that Devin means "poet." I see that some baby name sites and Wikipedia are giving that info, but there are no citations or etymologies to back it up, and I don't see that meaning given by any more reputable sources. I did find several other possible etymologies for it, including from French meaning "divine" and from Irish meaning "dark, black" or "fawn," or from the English place name Devon which comes from a proto-Celtic root which may also come from the "dark, black" family or from "deep" or "earth." You can certainly pick another occupational name if you like, but don't use the meaning of Devin as a justification for it.

I would say Miller and Milo are *too* cute, like they're a set of accessories or pets and not individuals. I would lean toward more subtle connections if you want the names to be linked. 

August 18, 2018 10:41 PM

I think Miller and Milo would be too confusing


August 18, 2018 10:49 PM

I also loved Sagan, Nova and Knox but all vetoed. :-(

August 19, 2018 11:16 AM

As an elementary music teacher (so someone who sees the whole school), there would be an approximately 4% chance that I would remember which kid was Miller and which was Milo.  Or Miles.

August 18, 2018 11:11 PM

other alliteration names - Hunter would be good with Devin and Miller

others Harvey, Hendrix, Henley, Harlow, Harris, Hayden, Hudson Harland Hewitt Huxley

other occupational names - Archer, Gunner, Bailey, Banner, Baxter, Carter, Cooper, Sawyer Slater Tanner Taylor Turner Tyler Garnett Spencer Ryder

surnames - Ashley Barrett Bennett Emmett Bradley Bryant Chester Clayton Curtis Gilbert Griffin Griffith Jackson Jarrett Jarvis Jepson Jerome Kendall Kingsley Kirby Langley Lawson Lewis Lincoln Nelson Oakley Pearson Prescott Preston Rigby Riley Roscoe Sidney Sutton Travis Tyson

I think if you can pick a name not ending in N or R



August 18, 2018 11:58 PM

I like Huxley but not it's meaning. I like Hendrix but he doesn't look like a Hendrix... we did have that as a middle name for Hunter though. It was Hunter Stone, Hunter Hendrix or Hunter Phoenix. I do like Archer, Oakley and Nash.

August 19, 2018 2:36 AM

what about Oakley Phoenix or Archie Phoenix

August 18, 2018 10:11 PM

Wesley or Weston? Fletcher is my favorite from your list. 

August 18, 2018 10:27 PM

I already have a Wes in my family otherwise I do like Wesley. 

August 18, 2018 11:18 PM

Echoing others: I would not repeat the 2-year-old's initial, let alone its first three letters (i.e. half the name). Much too confusing. The 13-year-old's initial may be OK to repeat, but another two-syllable ends-in-n name (like Dylan) could still get confusing.

The shared theme between Devin and Miller is that they're both surnames being used as given names. Surnames are grouped into categories based on their meanings or origins: there are names based on relationships (Jackson, Austin), occupations (Miller, Fletcher), descriptions (Divine, Sage), and locations (Darcy, Brooks). Devin has multiple possible origins (as an English name, it's most likely "divine", while as an Irish name, it's from a "descendant of X"-type name), so you've kind of covered three out of the four categories with the two names, but you haven't done a clearly location-based surname. Some ideas in that direction: Logan, Lincoln, Landon, Easton, Colton, Jordan, Xavier, Bentley, Brandon, Kingston.

August 19, 2018 12:06 AM

My husband likes Colt but not colton and likes Easton... would Austin work in that category? I prefer something with a good nickname.

August 19, 2018 3:15 AM

Austin could work in the "location-based" category because it's a modern placename, although in origin it's a full-circle type given-turned-surname-turned-given name. (It's a medieval English contraction of Augustine.)

August 19, 2018 4:00 AM

I think my preference from your list would be Fletcher, doesn't repeat intials and works without being overtly matchy. I also like Austin, Hunter and Tristan with the other names and your surname.  I'm a big fan of Sage and while I feel like it's used more on girls these days it's definitely unisex.

I agree that Milo and Miles are a little too matchy with Miller.  Henry is a great name but quite different in style to the others (and popularity).  Brooks doesn't flow well with your surname.

I took almost 2 weeks to name my son, it's hard when you can't quite agree and several names seem like they can work. Given he has already arrived can you both veto anything you aren't happy with and see what is left?  It's easier to debate pros and cons of 4 or 5 names than 10 or 15.  Once the baby arrived I found it was easier to eliminate names based on 'I like it but not more than X name also on the list'.  Once we decided on a first name it was easier to look at what is left that we still really like and flows well for a middle.

August 19, 2018 4:16 PM

My eldest son has a different last name... from my first marriage. My second child goes by Miller but his full name is Millard Guy Helm V. My husband is the IV and decided to carry it on but I was not keen on calling him Millard nor Guy... My husband goes by Guy. Miller was our compromise. My new list for this baby now looks like this. I removed Milo and Miles. 











August 19, 2018 4:46 PM

I'd remove Nash and Dylan, and add Tristram.  Tristram and Huxley for different endings

August 19, 2018 4:58 PM

I don't like the sound of Tristram and I liked that stan was in the name as it's my dad's name.  Nash was one my husband added. Any other suggestions are wwelcome.

August 20, 2018 9:25 AM

Tristan is nice and the connection to your dad is lovely

August 19, 2018 6:01 PM

From this list, I like Tristan best for you.  I would have gone with Owen but I don't love it with your last name (it's not bad really, the combination is just kind of short and could use a hard consonant somewhere in there).  Third place goes to Austin.


Have you considered Asher?  I don't see it mentioned in this thread.


I think crossing off Miles and Milo was the right choice (although I like them both).  I would get rid of Dylan for the same reason.  Huxley Helm sounds like a comic strip character.  Any of the names that are also words combine poorly with Helm, to my mind (ruling out Parker, Hunter, and Archer).  Nash Helm sounds super smushy in the middle; it all runs together into one word.  I've known a Fletcher for a few years, and I still boggle at how ugly his name sounds.  "Fletch" is just not at all attrative to my ear.  Flesh mixed with retch, I suppose.

August 19, 2018 6:16 PM

Hmmm... that hurts my list. I'm not a fan of Fletch but like Fletcher. I prefer Archer *Archie. My husband likes Hunter Helm. Huxley Helm does kinda sound like a comic book character but as I am a cartoonist and illustrate children's books maybe I don't mind it as much. My husband really wanted the alliteration but I don't like most H names and the ones I do are tainted by jerk people. Dylan doesn't bother me that it's close to Devin since they are 13 years apart in age and would have different initials due to different last names. Do you have any name suggestions?

August 20, 2018 4:37 AM

Austin, Fletcher, Tristan and Owen work best for me with your last name.  I don't mind the aliteration in Hunter Helm but prefer the other four names with your surname. I'm not a big fan of Huxley Helm for the comic book reason cited below.  Nash, Parker and Dylan don't flow well for me.

August 19, 2018 8:53 PM

What do you think of Bennett, Beckett, Theodore or Ty. We still like Hunter, Austin and Archer. He looks like a Dylan or Bradley but everyone says no Dylan and I don't like Brad. My husband is getting frustrated with me but he keeps vetoing names I like. 

August 19, 2018 9:38 PM

I LOVE Theodore.  It works with your last name and is distinctive from both brothers'.  You could use Ty as a nickname for it, giving you a two-fer (see also: Ted/Teddy, Theo, Tad, Teo, Dory, Rory, Thor).


Of the two, I prefer Bennett to Beckett.


Since you asked for suggestions, how about Kieran?  Maybe Lochlan or Rhys?  I guess I've veered off in a rather British Isles sort of direction with these!


I've heard of an app where you input your name list and then you (both you and your husband) are presented with pairs of names to select between.  The more match-ups you select, the better idea you get of which names you're both really drawn to and which you just aren't that excited about.  Something like that might be really helpful for you at this point in the process.  Anyone know what the name of it might be?

August 20, 2018 2:56 AM

I think Bennett or Beckett go well with his brothers names - Hunter, Austin and Archer or Archie are nice.  What about Brody, Brady, Brandon, Brennan, Brecken, Brighton, Bryson, Briscoe, Brantly, Branley, Briley, Brinley, Braylon, Brayden, Braxton, Bronson, Brosnan, Brigham, Bristol,   or Bodhi instead of Bradley

Rylan, Coleman, Kylan, Lawson, Logan, Morgan, Talen, Wilson, Nelson, Nolan, Harlan, Hilton, Quinlan, Greyson Emmett

August 20, 2018 4:41 AM

I like all of three of Bennett, Beckett and Theodore with your surname. Theodore is my stand alone favourite but I think that the other 2 are a better sibling match.  That said Theodore still works.  Ty is a little short with your surname for me but I dont see why you couldn't name him Theodore and nickname Ty.

August 20, 2018 2:09 PM

I agree with much of what others have said regarding Mil- names and Dylan, as well as the names that may be difficult with your surname. I don't think there's anything wrong with alliteration in itself, if the name is otherwise easy to say and you really like it. But at this point it sounds like what you need to do is narrow down the possible contenders so eliminating names that are problematic with your surname for whatever reason is a good idea.

Of the names proposed so far my favorites for you are Austin, Tristan, Beckett, Theodore. I think Beckett and Theodore have the best nickname options of those, though the family connection for Tristan gives it a boost for me. 

I'd suggest that you and your husband make lists independently of your favorite names, limit it to 5 or so, then share lists. Cross off any names that don't appear on both lists and see where you're at. Hopefully that will leave you with 2-3 names you both like and can choose from.

August 19, 2018 6:52 AM

I like Fletcher best of the names on your list, with Sage a close second (there is one male and one female Sage in my kids' grade, and it works well for both).

For a nature-type-name that's also a surname, maybe Rowan?

August 26, 2018 3:00 AM

I like Rowan, Owen, and Theodore!

August 19, 2018 9:46 PM

I also like Fletcher the best from your list, but I do like Tristan for you because of the connection to your dad's name. Beckett or Bennett also work well with Devin and Miller.

August 20, 2018 8:35 AM

Since your second son has his dad's name, I like the idea of having a family connection in the name of this little one. Tristan is lovely in that direction; or maybe you could riff on your own name?

I'm personally partial to alliteration (one of my four has an alliterative name). However, I agree that Hunter Helm sounds a lot like headwear for a guy with a gun, which would bother me. Other possible H- names: Hadrian, Harris(on), Hamilton, Hendry, Heath, Hugo.

August 20, 2018 3:02 PM

So... my husband just gave me this list and cut out my top runners of Archer and Theodore but he added a few.


Austin Helm

Dylan Helm

Hunter Helm

Parker Helm

Tristan Helm

Fletcher Helm 

Vaughn Helm

Alister Helm

Atticus Helm

Asher Helm

August 20, 2018 3:56 PM

I'd cut out Atticus, Dylan, Vaughn and Alister

Tristan I like best - it's lovely to have the family connection

Austin, Hunter, Parker, Fletcher, Asher - These are all ok,  probably like Hunter and Asher -  I think Ashley Helm goes better than the other names with n, r endings

August 20, 2018 5:24 PM

I'm ready to give up and just let him name the baby. Every time I give him the list he takes out the ones I like best. None of my friends or my eldest son like Fletcher... Hunter I feel negatively about even though I like the sound of the name... Austin seems ok but boring and Parker... used to be my #1 name (Parker Bennett Helm) people keep saying it's too popular and more of a girls name. I know I am over thinking everything. Tristan I like but dont care for Tris a nn and it doesn't really flow with Devin and Miller. We just can't agree. I loved Milo, Archer, Dylan, Henri Blake, Bennett and River.. I'm at a loss.

August 20, 2018 6:17 PM

Parker is given to far more boys than girls. It's the 90th most popular name last year which isn't extremely high. it's an occupational surname so is gender neutral. 

most of the preschool and school age kids I know of know if use their full names, so Tristan is likely to stay Tristan. Seriously, William doesn't even get shortened to Will automatically anymore.

August 21, 2018 5:35 AM

The only Parker's I know are boys.  The Tristan I know has never had his name shortened.  I like Bennett to go with the others


August 20, 2018 5:16 PM

My vote still goes to Tristan, with Austin second. I do like Atticus in the sibset as it has completely different sounds to the other two - but do YOU like it?

August 20, 2018 5:20 PM

Loved the book it came from but Atticus doesn't have a nn I like. It seems too different from the other boys names and it doesn't flow out of my mouth. 

August 20, 2018 6:19 PM

I like Ace as a  nickname for Atticus.

By EVie
August 20, 2018 6:58 PM

I dunno about Ace... do you really think it's useable in this day and age, when it seems to be becoming extremely common as a short form of "asexual"? For me, at this moment, it fails the "would I want this to be my name" test. But then, it's hard to say what slang will stick around and what's just a passing internet fad. 

August 21, 2018 5:59 PM

Unless we find a new name we love it seems are short list is...

Austin Sage Helm

Parker Bennett Helm

Dylan Austin Helm


August 21, 2018 6:08 PM

Full disclosure- I haven't read the above comments, so I may have missed something important about these names and their significance to you. Purley based on my own opinions, I like Parker Bennett. Austin to me is kind-of blah, and I think Sage is very feminine ( I know two girls named Sage). I like Dylan best as a first name, but Dylan Austin is a bit repetitive IMO with the ending sounds. The only thing I don't like about Parker Bennett is that it sounds like two surnames. 

August 21, 2018 6:39 PM

I'm open for middle name suggestions. I love nature and had wanted River as a first name but got vetoed... I dont think it works as a middle.

August 21, 2018 7:05 PM

I think that River works wonderfully as a middle name with either Austin or Dylan, though I do like both of the combinations you've put forward, too. Personally, I prefer first and middle names to have different endings so I'd prefer Dylan Sage or Dylan Bennett -- but I truly don't see any reason for you not to use River in the middle unless your coparent has vetoed it.

Edit: You're totally right about Austin River. Scratch that!

August 21, 2018 7:38 PM

He vetoed it as a first name... I like the sound of Dylan Sage but since both are unisex names my husband might think it sounds too soft. Austin River sounds nice but like a destination. Parker Bennett I thought sounded nice but could do Parker Frost, Parker Sage, Parker Reign. My other sons are Devin Joshua Merrick-14yo and Millard (Miller) Guy Helm V. 2yo

Devin, Miller & Parker

Devin, Miller & Austin

Devin, Miller & Dylan

We also are open to other names but it's hard to find names we both like.

August 21, 2018 9:13 PM

What about Austin Parker? 

August 21, 2018 9:50 PM

Or Bennett Parker?  I've encountered enough of both that they're normal first names at this point - non of the too-many-last-names-syndrome that can sometimes happen.

August 21, 2018 9:57 PM

My husband doesn't like Bennett as a first name... I do. I wanted something not too popular and creative while having meaning to me... spiritually or creatively. My husband just isn't game for most. Today I looked in my local mom group and they had a post on telling the names of their children and why they chose it... in 450 posts there wasn't one William, Timothy, Paul, Joeseph... they were all using Z, X and unusual spellings of common names. Many seemed made up and most were trying way too hard.

August 22, 2018 12:36 AM

I think Dylan would be absolutely out for me with a big brother nsmed Devin, but I know a sibling set that includes a Day-Lynne and a Dylan, so my ideas of what constitutes way too close are recalibrated. 

I like Austin Helm a little more than Parker but both are great choices. (ETA: upon second thought, when actually putting Parker Helm together there is too much navigation/parking stuff going on. I recommend Austin.)

August 22, 2018 3:14 AM

I think Austin then Parker - both good with Devin and Miller