Boy #3

Hey! 

Need some name help from the pros. My third boy is on the way, due in early September. Our sons names are Oliver Atticus and Hugo James. We perfer names not in the top 100. I know, I know, Oliver is definatley in the top 100, but when he was born in 2010, is was like #98, so close enough. 

We both like Sebastian as a middle name, but suggestions are open.

Hubby Loves Theodore, and I like it too, but it doesn't stand out to me like Hugo and Oliver did.

A few we have talked about but don't sound good with our last name/ just aren't the one/too popular: Felix, Silas, Nathaniel, Julian, Roman.

We both like Julian a lot, but it is in the top 100 :( I have been thinking about using a different spelling, Julien? The 'e' makes it look a little feminine, but I really like the name. Maybe even Juliun?

Also, we like Thaddeus. it was our second pick for both Oliver and Hugo, but I feel like if we use it it would be like saying "You're our last choice", or "You're our least favorite", and I really don't want to give out that message. Hubby says that it doesn't matter, but I think it does. It was part of the reason why we named Hugo Hugo instead of Thaddeus.

Help!

Replies

1
July 21, 2016 4:25 PM

Julien looks French, not feminine.  Juliun, just no.  A favorite around here is a medieval (and literary) variant Jolyon.

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July 21, 2016 5:20 PM

Ah, yes you are right. it does look french.

Juliun is my least favorite spelling.

I don't really like Jolyon, sorry, it's something about the y.

 

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July 21, 2016 4:58 PM

If you like Julian and Thaddeus, perhaps Julius would appeal?

Since you also have Felix and Roman on your list, some other Roman or Roman-inspired names:

Cassian

Caius/Gaius

Crispin

Luca/Lucan

Severin

Tiberius

Titus

 

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July 21, 2016 5:38 PM

Julius doesn't appeal to me, nor do the others.

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July 21, 2016 5:29 PM

Julian is currently at #45, yet somehow I do not know a single person (of any age) with the first name Julian. Names tend to be pockety and if Julian is not incredibly common in your area/circles, I wouldn't let it's national popularity ranking be a deal breaker. If, however, there are lots of little Julians then perhaps it's best to look elsewhere.

As far as a variation of Julian, I really don't think an altered spelling is the way to go. A Julien/Juliun/Julian are all going to sound the same on the playground, in the classroom, etc. etc. I don't think a different spelling would result in the differentiation you are hoping for and would only create confusion.

I do like the previous suggestion of Julius as an alternative. While similar to Julian, it is its own name which would differentiate from possible other Julians.

Other names that come to mind for you based on your style: Jasper, Oscar, Angus (nn Gus), Otis.

I think Jasper Thaddeus is a great name that goes nicely with your other boys! Or Oscar Theodore, Angus Julian, Otis Nathaniel?

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July 21, 2016 5:41 PM

A couple other thoughts: August, Cyrus, Everett, Beau, Emmett, Rhett, Gideon, Jonas/Jonah

7
July 21, 2016 6:23 PM

I sort of like August but the others are bland to me.

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July 21, 2016 5:45 PM

Now that you mention it, there is not a single Julian I know, except for my brothers neighbor, but he lives halfway across the country.

I see what you mean, and it would cause confusion.

I don't care for Jasper or Otis. While I do like Oscar, two O's in one house is too much! I'll just leave the O to Oliver. As for Angus, My dad has a dog named Angus, so that's off the list. 

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July 21, 2016 7:23 PM

Is there any reason why Sebastian has to be a middle name?  I think it fits well with Oliver and Felix.  I realize it is in the top 100, but I would urge you to reconsider that rule.  As you've seen with Oliver, a name right at the cusp can become quite popular.  Another name could be top 100, but on it's way down and therefore might seem less popular.  There are also name pockets, so you may never encounter a top 100 name but could be saturated by a name ranked much lower.

If you like Julien, I'd urge you to use it (see comments about popularity).  If you do nicknames, a less common nickname like Jude could be a plus, just in case he needs it.  Jude could also work as a similar stand-alone name.  FWIW, I've yet to meet a little Julien, though I have encountered a Felix and several little Olivers.

Same for Thaddeus.  I don't think it sends a message that this baby is the last choice or somehow "less than" his brothers. Unless you go pointing it out, it's unlikely he'd ever even know you had considered it for the older brothers.  If he does find out, and actually seems to care, I think it'd be an easy thing to spin.  Something like "we've always loved the name, but it just wasn't right for your brothers.  We were so excited when you came along and we realized it was the perfect fit for you" should be all that's needed.

I like the suggestion of Jasper for you.  I'll add Milo, Myles, Simon, Elias, Titus.  Perhaps a bit more of a long shot, but Nigel also occurred to me.

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July 21, 2016 10:21 PM

I like Myles/Miles nn Mylo/Milo

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July 21, 2016 8:00 PM

I'd like to encourage you to rethink Thaddeus. I just named my third son, and the name we gave him was the name that we didn't give to son #2... and the name we gave to son #2 was the name we didn't give to son #1. I'd encourage you to think about the fact that you didn't use the name previously not because it was "not as good" but because it was just "not right for that particular baby". Son #1 really didn't FEEL like son #2's name, but for son #2 it felt right. Likewise, we just had undiluted pleasure about getting to use a name we'd loved for a long time with this third boy. In fact, I had kind of been hoping that we'd have a boy for our last child just so we could finally get to use this name... and it is so great to have it attached to a kid, and it absolutely fits just-right now that he's here. There's nothing second-best or hand-down about it.

Otherwise, with that attitude, you'd have to come up with a totally new list for each child, and that seems logistically challenging, especially with children spaced close together.

Julian is a name I hear periodically, yes -- I'm kind of attuned to it, because my eldest is a Julian-variant. I agree with other posters: if you love it, I would use it, regardless of popularity. It's not a name you'll hear all the time everywhere you go, and there are a variety of nicknames that you can use to distinguish your Julian from another if you do overlap (Jude and Jules both). Changing the spelling only means you have to do a bunch of clarifying -- and that's absolutely worth it for us because we had important reasons for using the variant we did, but if your only reason for using Julien-with-an-e is because it's less popular, I wouldn't.

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July 25, 2016 3:28 PM

I totally agree about Thaddeus! I think if it's a name you have thought of and considered for your other boys, that is means its a name you care about and think about, and the reason you didn't pick it doesn't make it a bad name or a second rate name at all. I also love the name Julian, and have never heard it used, despite its supposedly high popularity.

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July 21, 2016 10:42 PM

I think that Julian is a great name and I have not heard it often despite its Top 100 name. I think Julian Thaddeus is a good name. Below are some options that may work:

Atlas, Aceson, Beckett, Brooks, Clark, Declan, Demetri, Deacon, Everett, Edison, Fisher, Garrett, Gavin, George, Griffin, Graham, Isaac, Jude, Joel, Jeremy, Kieran, Keenan, Killian, Knox, Lewis, Landon, Milo, Maverick, Meyer, Nolan, Noel, Porter, Rhys, Ryder, Tanner, Tobin, Theo, Tate, Wilder, Wesley, Wyatt, Walker, Zane

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July 22, 2016 10:19 AM

Graham is nice, as well as Aceson. Could Aceson be spelled Ayson? Aceson just has too much going on.

Thoughts on name Cullen? Too Twilight-y?

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July 22, 2016 11:12 AM

Names that are unique are very hard and i am going through the same problem. But what about Knox, Zion or Teagan? Great names and fit great next to Oliver and Hugo!

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July 25, 2016 1:53 AM

I love your existing sons' names and can see why you're having trouble finding anything as good. I love Sebastian or Thaddeus as a middle name. Throwing some more names into the hat:

Conrad, Anton, Conan, Niels, Fergus, Timon, Roscoe, Arthur, Giles, Douglas, Mortimer, Leon, Tristan, Tobias, Lucas, Phineas, Rupert, Albert, Dashiell, Alistair, Xavier, Maxwell, Dominic, Pascal, Charles, Fabian, Rufus, Curtis, Casper, Francis, Eustace, Linus, Gregory, Jerome & Vincent.

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July 25, 2016 1:43 PM

I think you should name him Thaddeus. If you've liked it all these years, that means you'll obviously continue to use it. Plus if you think about it, you didn't give Hugo your first choice either, considering after Oliver was used, Thaddeus was the next best. So really Hugo has third best or so on. Thaddeus also has remained way less popular than Oliver which sounds like its important to you, so in that way, Thaddeus has faired even better than Oliver did. I don't think you should go with an alternative spelling for Julian. It won't end up mattering if he has another Julian in his class for example since they'll be pronounced the same. 

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July 26, 2016 4:22 AM

I agree that Thaddeus is your winner.  When you write about it, your enthusiasm comes through, then you over-think it.  Also, nobody needs to KNOW that it's the #2 choice for his brothers. Or, you can re-spin it: "Thaddeus was one of our top name choices for our first two, but somehow it didn't seem right.  I guess the universe was telling us that a third boy would come and this name was meant for him!"