Carter?

So.......my husband and I are expecting our third baby. First two are girls: Elliott and Jane. Last name is two syllable and starts with the sound "rare". 

Girls names are easy: Caroline, Anne, etc.

But boys are harder. I like names with an "arr" sound like Carter, Arthur, Ari (though I think others would question this name since it is traditionally Jewish, and we are not...traditionally Jewish. Or otherwise Jewish). Thoughts? We also considered more traditional names like Benjamin, William and John (a family name).

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December 29, 2012 12:13 PM

more Ar sounding names are: 

 Martin ( a particular favorite of mine with your girls),

 Marvin (time to bring it back?)

Larson (surnamey and seems to fit with todays naming trend) 

Charles

p.s. i have always liked Ari as well. maybe if more non-jewish users used it, then it would become more mainstream.

Ira is another, i think Ari and Ira would be cute twin boy names.

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December 29, 2012 1:37 PM

For me, Arthur & Elliott together read as 2 brothers.  Since Elliott is a traditional boy name that has only recenlty started seeing some use for girls, I think a more modern sounding brother name works best.  So, I like Carter the best from your list.  I do like Ari but I would probably also be hesitant about using a name strongly associated with a tradition that I am not a part of.  

Another "ar" boy name with a modern feel that I think could work is Archer.  

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December 29, 2012 9:13 PM

I think Carter works best from those names you mentioned; I agree that "Arthur & Elliott" will sound like brothers.

I live in northern Ohio, and I've never considered "Ari" a Jewish name, ever.  Is it in the Bible?  I think of Greek Orthodox...Ari Onassis...and the Greek Restaurant in my town named:  Ari's!

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December 29, 2012 11:03 PM

Onassis's name was Aristotle, not Ari.  Ari is a Hebrew (modern Israeli) name and means 'lion.'  It is a stand alone name, but can also be short for Ariel 'lion of G-d.'  Arik is also a nickname for Ariel--Ariel Sharon is called Arik.  If I run into someone called Ari, my first guess would be that he (or his parents) are members of the Modern Orthodox stream  of Judaism.  Calling a non-Jewish child Ari to me would be rather like calling a non-Italian child Guiseppe or a non-Hispanic child Jose.  Not offensive, but a little offbeat and perhaps misleading.

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December 31, 2012 9:44 PM

Thank you for this information!  

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By PJ
December 30, 2012 2:25 AM

Is Charles too much of a stretch to get the "ar" sound? You may still have the "Charles and Elliott" sound like brothers problem but just thought I'd throw it out there.

 

Some non-"ar" names: Blaine, Graham, Simon, Gabriel.

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January 1, 2013 10:47 AM

Thahas everyone for your help. We are leaning toward Carter. We like Charles but it is the name of my boss (and his son) so it might be odd. 

 

Thanks again!

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January 10, 2013 8:27 PM

My mom (who doesn't have a veto-but you know how it is) says Carter sounds too southern (which we are) but now I am starting to second guess it. How do you feel about these names with our girls' names? They are a little uncommon but not strange:

Jude

Henry

Paul

Samuel

What are thoughts on each of these names?

 

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January 10, 2013 9:31 PM

I think both Henry and Samuel are a good match, but both are relatively popular and would be more popular than both Jane and Elliot. Both are great names though.

Paul feels a little dated to me, but I know others on this site love it.

Jude I like, except I'm not sure if Jude and Jane are too matchy? Given there is a third sibling in the mix I'm tempted to say they are fine, but I'd wait and see what others think.

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January 11, 2013 1:28 AM

Regarding Jude:

Now, since you've named your daughters Elliott and Jane, you seem not to have strong feelings about the traditional girliness of names. However, sometimes people have different feelings about the androgyny of their daughters' vs. sons' names, so I thought that I'd throw this out there. If I knew that a family had a girl named Elliott, I would have strong expectations that their Jude would be a girl, too. Jude is not a name given to many girls (73 girls in 2011, ) but it happens enough to make me think of it. If you want your son to have a name that really screams "boy", then Jude may not be the best choice in this case. (Of course, this is really only an issue if your kids' names are encountered together, but still, that's how it hit me.)

 

Regarding Carter:

If your last name begins with "rare", I find the transition between Carter Rare to be a bit awkward, with the Rs slurring together. If you love the name, then by all means, use it, but if you're really unsure, maybe that would help make a decision.