I find myself sort of drawn to the name Dex lately.  I'd like to maybe give the baby a longer name like Dexter or Declan and then call him Dex.  I've not seen the show Dexter, but have this sense that its about killing/bloody.  This makes me warry to use it as a baby name, but am not sure others will get Dex as a nickname for Declan and have never actually met anyone named Declan and am slightly less excited about an "n" ending name.  (For refereance, my other kids are named Brendan and Maggie (technically Marguerite).


Any ideas/thoughts?


May 17, 2012 12:27 PM

I wouldn't worry about whether others will "get" the nickname Dex from Declan.  If you introduce your baby as Dex, the name will catch on. Think about how many other common nicknames don't make sense from the full name (Bill, Bob, etc).   I think Declan and Dexter are cute names.  I don't think you should let the TV show sway you. Dexter is a name with tons of usage and history, so the TV show connection will soon fade.

May 17, 2012 12:33 PM

To me, Dex from Declan makes total sense.  I like Declan with Maggie and Brendan better-I like  that they all read Irish.  However, when I group them using your daughter's full name I prefer Dexter.  So either way I think you'll be fine.  People may ask about the Dexter show for a while, but I think that association will probably fade rather quickly once the show is off the air.

By Guest (not verified)
May 17, 2012 2:05 PM

It sounds like you don't really like Declan at all; you're just looking for a way to get Dex without the negative associations.

I'd go with Dexter, since you like the sound of the full name better and it's a better fit for the nickname you want. 

Dexter is a television show about a serial killer, but it will probably be off the air pretty soon. (It's already on its seventh season.)  I bet no one will think of it by the time your son is in preschool.

And the real meaning of Dexter - like dexterous, having skilled hands - is a good one!

(FYI, the traditional nickname for Declan is Dekko.)

May 17, 2012 2:14 PM

Yes, Dexter on the tv show is a serial killer, but he's a serial killer with principles and is actually rather sympathetic, for the most part. I think that overall, anyone who watches the show and associates the name primarily with the character will not look poorly on your choice, and anyone who doesn't watch will soon forget about the association upon meeting your son. It's not like you're talking about Hannibal or something.

May 17, 2012 4:48 PM

hi, i haven't seen the other replies, but I love the name Dexter! the show is great too, and i wouldn't hesitate to use the name because as twisted as this sounds, he only kills criminals that have somehow escaped justice, like had their conviction overturned on a technicality, etc. plus he makes sure and finds evidence beyond a doubt that they are guilty. aside from all that, i know a couple in Europe who just named their son Dexter and i think it is just adorable! that is the only reason we have knocked it off our list for a potential  boy because we like to pick first names that are familiar, but that no one we know actually has, so it is on a fresh slate or free of prior associations for us. we are a bit nutty that way, but enjoy it, so GO FOR DEXTER!!

May 17, 2012 6:14 PM

In the UK Declan gets shortened to Dec.  Ill refer to 'Ant and Dec'. You might have to google them.Not a bad thing I guess.


have you considered Derek/Derrick

..... or if the baby is going to be known as Dex really you could look at allot of D names. Deacon?




By Guest (not verified)
May 17, 2012 6:18 PM

Another possibility would be something with an x ender, like Maddox.


May 17, 2012 8:21 PM

I'm just going to echo everyone else. If you like Dexter, you should use it. Anyone who's seen the show will think it's a positive association, and those who haven't will just think it's a nice name. It should probably be ending soon, anyway.

You could also simply use any De- name as well. Derrick and Deacon are good suggestions, and I'll add Dennis and Desmond, though I think you should stick with Dexter.

May 18, 2012 10:23 AM

I do like Desmond too, actually, hadn't considered that it might work with a Dex nickname as well.  I think I'd be OK with Dezi as the nickname too though..hmmm so many choices!

May 17, 2012 9:18 PM

I agree with the other comments that Dexter the show is a fairly positive association for the name and it will fade over time. Don't let it in any way put you off.

I kind of like Declan/Dex better as a match for your other kids but I think Dexter/Dex works just as well.

May 17, 2012 10:02 PM

If you want people to "get" Dex as a nickname for Declan, I think you should spell it Decs.  Makes a lot more sense.  

May 17, 2012 10:21 PM

Nicknames don't need to be spelled the same as the root name. Katherine has a 'th', Kate has a 't'. Margaret has an 'r', Maggie doesn't. Joseph has an 's' between the vowels, Joe doesn't. Zander is a perfectly valid nickname for Alexander, without weird spelling tweaks to either name.

Dex is a good nickname spelling whether the root name is Dexter or Declan or something entirely different.

(Sorry: this has become a bit of a pet peeve of mine lately -- friends named their kid Alekzander or some such convoluted misspelling because they wanted the nickname Zander-with-a-Z. Unfortunately, they didn't ask my advice beforehand...)

May 18, 2012 10:25 AM

I am firmly in agreement on the no weird spellings in an attempt to "reach" a nickname or something else so feel your pain there!  When we named DD Marguerite, my husband was a bit confused about why we spell Maggie with two "G's" when there is only one in the root.  I felt fine telling him that that was just the way we (and most others) were going to do it. 

May 18, 2012 3:35 PM

I suggested Decs because the OP said "not sure others will get Dex as a nickname for Declan" and I thought it would be more intuitive spelling-wise, since it is not an older name/nickname combo like Margaret/Maggie.  I do think Dex looks cooler though.

May 18, 2012 3:42 PM

I recommend watching some old episodes of Dexter's Laboratory and ask again if Dexter looks bad from TV (I think the name's fine).