Do I change one name, or all of it?!
Hi all! I have been lurking here for a while, obsessing over baby names for a future time that I will need them, but now I have a more pressing issue to deal with and I have uncloaked to ask for advice from all you clever people.
I have an unusual first name that I have disliked to some degree since I was very small. I remember being around 5 and deciding that I was going to be called a different name. It is pretty enough, but requires a lot of spelling when I have to tell it to anyone, and then requires a spiel about how I ended up with the name, often ending with "Oh... were your parents hippies?". It also sounds too much like Brenda, or Linda, or any number of other such names. When people get it right first time it's an event worth noticing.
Last autumn I moved to a different part of the country and started a new job, and with this move I began using my middle name as my main name and it's just so much easier! People get it first time, and I haven't had to spell it once. I'm now becoming far more comfortable with this name, but of course all my family and friends - everyone I grew up with, studied with, worked with - know me as my first name and annoying as I have found my name, it's inextricable from my pre-now identity and it would feel weird if they were to call me something different.
I've been thinking about swapping my first and last names so I can have the simpler one as my official name and people can call me by my middle name if they like, but I've never been sure of the flow. It has recently become more urgent than idle musing as my partner and I are getting married in August. Neither of us has a particular attachment to our current surnames so we are both going to take my mum's maiden name, which is nice and has a great history.
So now my dilemma is this: I'm changing my surname, so do I also make any changes to my forenames at the same time so I don't have to go through changing everything twice? It's kinda now or never, but our engagement is a short one and people won't have much time to get used to the fact I'm changing my surname - and that's without me juggling around every single name. Will people still know who I am online? Should I give up on changing my first names around and carry on as I am now, or should I change everything when I have the chance and hope it works out?
My first name is Vrinda, my middle is Eva, and my soon-to-be last name begins with E.
I really like the flow of Vrinda Eva, I don't like Eva Vrinda. Is this just because I'm used to it the other way, or does it sound as clunky as I think it does?
I've been over this in my head so many times that it's all one big muddle! Any and all comments or advice will be taken most gratefully!
Wed, 03/12/2014 - 12:51pm