Do you like your real name?

Hi I am curious. Do any of you actually like the name you were given at birth? 

For a reason I won't mention here I grew up hating my name. It just gave me bad memories. Still does when I think about that name. For some reason though it's ok when other people are called that name just not me. 

I changed my name legally to Luciana. I love it. It is known but not very popular, at least not for my generation. I often get called Lucy as a nickname, another name I equally love. 

So do you like/dislike your name? And why?

If you dislike your name would you consider legally changing it? 


July 2, 2017 10:31 AM

I think it'd be more accurate to phrase the title of the thread "Do you like your birth name?" if that's what you're going after, since one's legal name (whether it's been changed or not) is their real name. (Sorry if I sound picky, but knowing some transgender people getting that right is important to them.)

July 11, 2017 12:37 PM

I would say I am okay with my legal first name, and dissatisfied with my legal surname.

My first name is perfectly acceptable, but rather common and unrepresentative.  When I tell someone my real name, I don't think any particular ethnicity, religion, personality type, or anything else really comes to mind.  It's a Hebrew-derived name, but one that is in wide use by English speakers in general.  I'm okay with that, since it fades into the background, but I might like something that is more unique.

My last name is really not fitting for me, but I'm basically stuck with it.  It's my father's surname, but he had a strained relationship with his parents, and I rarely saw them growing up.  I was resolutely part of my mom's family, and would never use my last name to describe myself ("I'm a [dad's surname]" would never occur to me to say, while "I'm a [mom's surname]" is something I say regularly.  It is also ethnically incongruous: I'm mostly of Irish descent, but German on my dad's dad's side.  Since I didn't spend time with my dad's family I was deeply immersed in Irish American and Irish culture, and know next to nothing about German culture (although I have been enjoying German food lately :)).  So it always feels odd to have a name that doesn't match my self perception at all.

My dad is actually thinking about changing his name, but my wife, who changed her name when we got married, resists the idea of me changing it.  If I were to change it I would probably use my mom's last name, which would fit perfectly and "feel" right.

July 11, 2017 6:19 PM

Wait, your legal name isn't Optatus Cleary? What a disappointment...

July 12, 2017 9:36 PM

No, it isn't. Cleary is a family name, however. Optatus Cleary is really a pseudonym that "corrects" my problems with my real name :).

July 13, 2017 9:16 AM

I too grew up hating my name. It's a name my mother "heard somewhere & liked" but never loved.My Pop agreed to it because he was worn out from naming wars. (I went nameless for 2 weeks while they fought about my name!) My brother got a name Mom loved and a middle that dad loved but I got a name they liked and middles that were compromise names too.  :(  I am inthe process of changing my name. See the thread below this one if you want to know more or weigh in on which name.First name's set, I just want opinions on my middles paired with the first name.

June 18, 2019 4:17 PM

No, I absolutely hate it and changed it in 1981. I renamed myself after my favourite female musician.

August 17, 2019 8:52 AM

i love my name hardcore, if i didn't like, i would have still tried to live with it.