Everybody doesn't love Raymond

So... I haven't been on here in ages, but knew this forum would be the one with the answers - I hope!


I'm trying to figure out a way of making use of my grandfathers name - Raymond - for a potential son (haven't found out if the little kicker is a boy or a girl)... only problem is that it's also the name of an ex who I have an appalling lack of fond memories of!

So... over you you guys - can you think of any ways to spin the name so that it still holds some meaning but isn't quite so "Meh" when I think of it??




(Isn't it terrible that one idiot can spoil the name of my most amazing grandparent???


September 29, 2013 7:07 PM

Could you go with Edmund or Desmond? I think choosing another Ray- name might be too close to Raymond, but preserving the ending will give you the tribute sound without the dominant memory trigger.

Rosamund or Rachel could work for a girl.

September 30, 2013 11:53 AM

If you were open to versions of Raymond in other languages/countries, maybe Ramon or Redmond would do? I quite like Redmond, and Red is a cute nn.

September 30, 2013 4:41 PM

Thanks for the suggestions! I'll run some of the possibilities by the hubby and see if we can find one which will be a nice tribute to my grandad that we both won't grimace over :) Ah, naming... so much fun! 

September 30, 2013 5:02 PM

Is there another way you could honor him without his first name? Maybe his middle name, birth city, hobby, etc, would provide some inspiration. I think finding a meaningful name, even if it's not his first name, would be a better honor than finding a similar-sounding name that kind of has a link.

September 30, 2013 6:32 PM

I agree something like his middle name could work.  Or perhaps even his surname?  I'll also add that if you do Raymond in the middle spot, perhaps the association with the other Raymond won't be as bothersome.

October 2, 2013 2:23 PM

So, my son is Raymond, named after my husband's grandfather.  Raymond also happens to be the name of my ex-fiance (who is NOT the father of my son), and that relationship ended...badly.  And unhappily and unpleasantly and even a few years ago I would still have flashback nightmares and anxiety issues, even though it's been over for...16+ years or so.

I named my son Raymond because I figured...my husband's grandfather was a really great person, everyone tells me, and all the family says my husband inherited his wonderful personality, and obviously I like that personality because I married someone with it.  I felt like my son's name could be a charm, to bring THAT Raymond into my world and my life, and replace the one I didn't want.

It worked.  I feel like it even helped with the nightmares (a woman I hadn't seen since before my relationship with the ex ended asked if the ex was my son's father a few months ago, and I didn't have an anxiety attack or nightmares or ANYTHING!  I credit the name-replacement). 

November 10, 2013 1:08 PM

Thanks for the input everyone! I think we've almost come to the conclusion we'll just have to wait until the baby is born before we have any idea what we'll be calling him or her. The pair of us are quite useless with this naming lark! 5 weeks to go, so hopefully some names will stick between now and then!