Expecting #1 - second guessing a name in tentatively 'themed' sibset
I was just coming online today to officially delurk and ask for help with this naming delimma, so the forum was a nice surprise -- takes some of the pressure off just jumping into the post threads. Sorry in advance -- just realized this is a bit long:
After a long time TTC, my husband and I are finally expecting our first in December. We've been married for two years, but we've been a couple for nearly ten, so we've had a lot of time to talk baby names and narrow down our different tastes into a list of two full names for each sex. The plan is to use family names for middles, which is a compromise I made with DH. Our last name is two syllables, starting with H.
We chose the first three names a few years ago, and after a lot of debate, we have not wavered in these names being our favorites since then:
Girls: Caris, Sofia
I immediately saw a theme in the letters these names share (A, I, S), and I felt strongly that all other names should follow suit. DH agreed and ever since we've been going back and forth between the names Isaiah or Josiah - leaning toward Isaiah. (I actually prefer the name Matias/Mattias - mah-tee-us - but DH doesn't care for it as much.)
Obviously, the whole 'theme' rests on our having two boys and two girls -- we'd like four children, and are under no delusions that we can choose the sex. But I'm getting a bit worried about the fact that our three favorite names have locked us into a theme, and it has been really difficult over the past two years to find other names that have a similar feel and sound in case we end up having more (or all) of one sex compared to another. So far I've come up with:
- Isla (doesn't seem to quite fit given the sound)
- Asiya (a-sigh-ah: the feel of this one seems off -- it's a name I sort of 'made up' several years ago back in college, and that DH has always been partial to even though I've cooled on it quite a bit)
- Sarai (again, the letters are there but the feel seems off)
- Elias (don't like the near-rhyme with Tobias)
- Nikolas (seems wrong)
Please share your thoughts. Now that the possibility of naming real children is approaching I'm worried about not having a true favorite second name (or third...) name for a boy. I'm also worried that maybe the theme seems a bit cheesy, as well as the fact that it really narrows down the field of names we have left to choose from. Nymbler and I have been very well acquainted over the years and I feel like I'm going in circles -- I could definitely use a third party opinion.
Our two favorite names are Caris and Tobias - we're 99% sure these will be the names of our first girl and first boy, should we have one of each.
What am I missing? Are there other names with a similar feel containing A, I, S for either gender that I haven't thought of?
If we start from scratch, keeping only Caris and Tobias, what other names do you think would be great in a sibset? (It has always worried me just a bit that Sofia/Sophia/Sophie is such a popular set of names these days -- Sofia is one of DH's top names and has been a longtime favorite of mine, also.)
Thu, 04/12/2012 - 7:07pm