First baby! Surprise gender!

We are expecting our first baby March 3rd 2016 , we decided to keep the sex of the baby a surprise! We don't really like discussing names with friends/ family because of the feedback): we need a boy and a girl first and middle name , last name is Ferro (pronounced pharaoh). My name is Cortni Rachelle baby's dad is Chad Allan I don't really love the whole "C" theme. I like for a girl

Bradley Skye

Bradley Brielle 









for a boy 









We need help deciding if we want to do a theme? I love boy names for girls with girly middle name but our boy will have to have a very manly name:p I love weird names but it's hard to pick middles that go with!! Please help!!! 


December 10, 2015 10:32 AM

I may not be the best person to respond to your post, as I really dislike boys names on girls.  If it is something that you like, I agree that you should be careful with your choices.  If you have a boy later, it sounds like you are not OK with people assuming you have 2 boys, or having people express confusion over who is the boy & who is the girl.  One way around this is to consider traditionally feminine first names that have boyish nicknames.  That way she always has something to fall back on.  You can also help distinguish who is a boy & who is a girl when you introduce your children to people.  For example, "this is my son Brady and my daughter Charlotte, we call her Charlie."

As for loving weird names, you've come to the right place if you want something a bit unusual!  I'll suggest looking at name stats on the Social Security Baby Name website (I assume you are in the U.S.).  I suspect many of the names on your list that you consider "weird" or unusual are more popular than you expect, which might leave you feeling disappointed.  Also, be sure to check alternate spellings.  Kamden & Camden are really the same name when said outloud, which is how names are most often used.  For example, Kamden & Camden in the same class will both end up being called Camden LastInitial.  

I would also not worry about middle names too much at first.  Pick a first name you love and the middles have a way of falling into place.  It also helps to consier that flow between first & middle is nice, but unless you plan on regularly using both, it's not really that important.  Considering middle names that have meaning to you in some way can also be helpful. Sounding good will matter less if the middle name has some sort of meaning or importance for you.

I would eliminate Bradley, especially since you have Brady for a boy.  They are too close to use both together.  I also think Bradley will lead to confusion as there is nothing to signal it's a possible girl name (i.e.; a girly nickname to fall back on).  

I really like both Ruby & Delilah!  I think these are nice examples of girl names that don't sound frilly.

I've personally never warmed up to Soren because it sounds like the word "sore" to me.  However, I think this is an example of a boys name you could probably get away with on a girl.  It's not as common as Bradley & the lower rates of use mean that some people may not already have ideas about it being a girl or boy name.  Another name you might like is Sorrel, which is currently being talked about on another post.

I have the same issue with Blake that I do with Bradley.  Too recognizable as a boy name, nothing to fall back on or distinguish it as even possibly a boy's name & too similar to Brady for you to use Brady later.  Some other suggestions include Blythe, Brook, Berkley, Brynn

December, Nelley & Grae are all nice.  December is very interesting and I don't think people will have assumptions about boy/girl.  I would prefer the spelling Nelly, as I'm not sure what that extra E is supposed to accomplish.  It seems like it'd just set her up for a lifetime of confusion and having to correct people.  I'd also prefer a more standard spelling of Gray/Grey for the same reason.

I rather like most of your boy names, with just a couple of minor changes.  Kamden & Karter are very Kardashian looking to me, I'd suggest sticking with Camden & Carter.  I also thing Graedie is more complicated/confusing than it needs to be. I'd go with just Grady instead.

December 10, 2015 12:22 PM

Why do boy's names on girls appeal to you? Is it that deep down you really do think it's better to be male?

I don't want to completely derail your thread, but I see an opportunity to figure something out about naming styles that continues to perplex me: _why_ do people give their daughters names that clearly signal "male"? Why is this OK, but the other way around is emphatically Not Done? (Karen, Susan, Helen all match the modern boy name pattern of two syllables ending in 'n' -- but nobody uses them for boys.)

When 13th-15th century Englishmen gave their daughters masculine names (and they did, frequently -- nothing is new under the sun), it made sense in their misogynistic culture and world-view: their religion taught that women are inferior to men, that they're the source of original sin, and are weaker in morals as well as body. Women had no legal status except through their male relatives, so it really was better to be male back then, both philosophically and practically.

Our laws no longer make exceptions by gender, for the most part. (Name changes in some states are still governed by different rules for women than men.) Only the more fundamentalist or crazy sects still actively teach about the moral inferiority of women, and culturally, I think -- or hope -- that we no longer believe a word of it. But judging by naming trends, maybe we haven't moved as far as I'd like to think?

December 10, 2015 12:28 PM

I LOVE surnames which ends up with a (at best) unisex name on a girl. Bradley skews way too male for even my taste. 

Agree with pp. I love carter spelled correctly. 

I suggest using the expert tool name matchmaker to help you narrow your list. 

By mk
December 10, 2015 2:11 PM

I think it's not done because boys being mistaken for girls or seen as having "feminine" qualities is still considered "bad." Personally, I see no reason why a boy can't be named Helen, if his parents choose that. Go for it! I think it will eventually happen. Gender is becoming more fluid.

From the list though, December is good if you really want gender neutral. Blake works for that a bit, as does River.

December 10, 2015 2:16 PM

I'm not the OP, so she could have a completely different take than me. I like the concept of gender neutral names simply because they don't push a gender onto children.

Unfortunately the ones considered "gender neutral" today are the ones that were boys' names and are starting to be used on girls, which speaks to current sexism.

December 10, 2015 2:40 PM

I personally like choosing names that have gender flexibility built in, personally, and I can see how picking genuinely unisex names might be an appealing target for many parents. I tend to prefer more solidly masculine and feminine long forms that might have the flexibility of a more unisex short form (my children could be Jolie, Ru(e) and Tom), but I have spent a good bit of time thinking about what I'd name a child if we didn't have a conclusive sex decision at birth (Hero, and Aubrey and Robin were runners-up).

There were some good suggestions here: and -- happily I don't think think the options are entirely consisting of boys' names starting to be used on girls, which is fortunate, because that's not a shtick I really enjoy myself.

December 10, 2015 3:22 PM

I also know many people who wanted the sex of their child to be a surprise but who also wanted to name the child ahead of time, so I think that can be a really nice thing - picking a name before knowing the sex. The OP seems to be after masculine names for a girl and hyper-masculine names for a boy, though, which is a bit different.


December 10, 2015 4:35 PM

I think, sadly, we have not moved as far as most of us would like. While I'm also not a fan of masculine names on baby girls, there are some practical advantages: she's more likely to get her emails answered as a Bradley than as an Elizabeth (let alone a Uniqua or Mei-Lin), for example, and may have an easier time being promoted in some fields. On the other hand, evidence for whether women with male names are more likely to get job interviews is mixed at best: at least one study suggests the opposite, an effect that may be more pronounced for "ethnic" names.

I also see this as part of a larger trend of gender-flexibility for females that we don't extend to males: women dressing in men's clothing are sexy women, men dressing in women's clothing not so much--they may be humorous or sexy as women, but this is not seen as enhancing masculinity; women succeeding in traditionally male fields are powerful, while men succeeding in traditionally female fields are suspect.

December 11, 2015 1:18 PM

I feel that you should just let it go. if she likes to make boy names unsex and use them on girls- let her. I love how boys names sound on girls. i do agree that it does seem as though boys never have girl names, but it still happens. To me, Addison is a total girl name, but I hear it on boys al the time, and It sounds great. i don't see why you have to be so harsh on this subject. 

December 11, 2015 3:12 PM

I'm sorry if I came across as harsh. It was not my intention. All I want is some input from people like you, who find gender-switched names appealing. Why do you "love how boys names sound on girls"? Do you feel the same way about girls' names on boys? Why or why not?

Some quibbling (because I'm good at that -- please don't take it personally): Addison is a totally masculine surname (Adam's son) that happens to be used for girls. Ditto for Madison, and almost all of the other -son names in current use. (The exception is Alison, which is Alice plus an old French diminutive suffix -on.)

There are quite a few placename-based English surnames that have become given names. They almost all start out masculine, but eventually switch to unisex or nearly-exclusive feminine use: Shirley, Beverly, Kimberly; Riley, Ashley, Hayden. Bradley for some reason hasn't made the switch yet, but this thread is evidence that it's destined to do so.

(That's another thing that perplexes me: what is the appeal of naming a child "broad meadow" or "rye clearing"?)

December 14, 2015 4:19 AM

We've made strides, but we still have a lot to go. Modern culture sneers at women and anything related to women (e.g., femininity, which is seen as weak, because strength is defined solely as masculinity).

Going by pop culture narratives, for example, a certain chunk of the supposed "empowerment" of women is really about trying to set yourself above all other girls, by pitting women against other women. Relationships among women aren't as valued as relationships among men. "You're not like other girls" is considered a compliment instead of the insult it's supposed to be to all women, including the one being "complimented"--it implies that the default state of being a woman is weakness, silliness, and having "undesireable" traits (that are far more likely just traits not valued by our masculinity-worshipping culture). I say silliness because this compliment (and others of its ilk) is given by some male character awed that this one girl, better than all the other girls, is more like a guy than other, silly girls who like silly girly things, because the things women are interested in that men aren't are often dismissed as silly. Instead of both being seen equally without stigma, the tomboy character is seen as cool in modern culture, while the girly girl is, depending on the level of condescension in the narrative, is usually seen as less cool, if not outright looked down on. In fact, this contrast of the tomboy and the feminine girl is seen a lot, and, besides being a lazy narrative choice, can also be condescending as a concept (that's the best some writers can do apparently, when characterizing women--their idea is how different they are from men).

Even the idea of a "strong woman," in certain usages, disturbs me, because sometimes it's used to imply that weakness in women is natural and expected, and this one woman is set apart from all other women by being "strong." Some "strong female characters" are called "strong" because of their prowess in the battlefield--instead of, say, being well-written, well-constructed characters who just happen to be female--all the while wearing outfits entirely created to pander to the male gaze without any thought to practicality and logic.

And of course, women are also relegated to The Other. The male perspective is the default in a lot of narratives--female protagonists are scarce compared to male ones--which makes it harder for women to be seen as relatable (and as people.) I.e., we're "the girl" before we're a person who, as I'd said above under "strong female characters," just happens to be female.

December 14, 2015 7:35 AM

I've never been a fan of boys' names on girls. I also agree with what everyone has said about how the trend seems to imply that there's something wrong with being a girl, that it's good for a girl to have some male qualities, while it's not good for a boy to have female qualities. This is not only highly sexist towards women, it does our society endless damage in how it constructs what a man should be as well.

That being said, I wonder if the boys'-names-on-girls trend is a reaction against the idea of girls' names as "frilly", in which case, however it may come across to us, the parents are in fact trying to do away with gender stereotypes. Names like Isabella and Lilliana (to me) play to the opposite idea of femininity -- that prettiness should be a top priority and that a girl's role is to be decorative. Isabella and its frequent nickname Bella is a huge offender in this regard to my mind -- literally boiling a daughter's value down to "beauty."

Of course, there are many other all-girl names that aren't frilly which parents could choose. But I think it's worth considering that sometimes the reactions against perceived female qualities comes from those very female qualities having been defined very narrowly throughout much of history.

Then again, I've seen parents name their daughter Tyler or James and then but her in frilly pink dresses, so go figure.

December 14, 2015 12:03 PM

Another problem with boy name on girl is that it sends the message, whether unintended or sadly sometimes very much intended, that "we" wanted a son, and that "you" daughter are a disappointment from the moment of your birth or, these days, gender reveal.

December 14, 2015 12:54 PM

*or sex reveal (I'll beat lucubratrix to it). ;-)

December 14, 2015 1:50 PM

According to the trend articles in the style sections of newspapers, the official term is "gender reveal" as in gender reveal parties (yes, that is apparently a thing).  I guess whoever coined the term was a tad squeamish about saying sex. :-)

December 14, 2015 2:19 PM

Even I will admit that if one is inviting guests to a "sex reveal party", they might be a little confused (or disappointed) to show up to platters of pink or blue iced cupcakes!

December 14, 2015 10:45 PM

But I think it's worth considering that sometimes the reactions against perceived female qualities comes from those very female qualities having been defined very narrowly throughout much of history.


Yes. This. The problem is rooted in how society and human culture in general has constructed and interpreted what it means to be a woman, what femininity is supposed to be. Hence the importance of beauty--it's rooted in and says far more about our culture, our social perspective about women, than what women are and should be. The backlash against this is well-intentioned, but tends to spiral into an outright rejection of anything associated with women, which is a problematic attitude in itself. There's nothing wrong per se about wanting to look good or liking stereotypically feminine things like fashion; the problem is valuing beauty above all else because you've bought into society's definition of femininity, as is looking down on women who like stereotypically feminine things because, to you, being a woman and how our society defines that are the exact same thing.

December 10, 2015 2:56 PM

I like certain boy's names on girls too, but Bradley and Soren are just so firmly masculine to me that I can't see them on a girl at all. 

Ruby and River are my favorites on your list. They are so pretty, Ruby in a more classic way and River as a modern nature name that isn't over the top. Blake, Nelley, and Delilah are also okay but just nms.

December is an interesting idea--I like it. You will likely get some negative reactions but I think it's a great unexpected month name. Maybe a nn like Emmy oR something would work if she ended up wanting to "blend in" more.

Grae feels made up to me. Is it in the style of Mae, Rae, and Kae? I dislike it as a first name but it could make an okay middle.

No time right now but I'll reply to this with my reactions to the boys :)

December 12, 2015 8:34 PM

I think Mitchel and Marshal are fine names. Is there a reason you're spelling them with only one "l"? If you don't mind constantly having to correct and clarify, these both seem like great options to me.

I love both Camden and Carter, so I like Kamden and Karter for you. If you genuinely prefer them spelled like that, go for it. However, am I correct in guessing you're trying to avoid the "C" theme? If that's the case, I honestly think it's won't be a big deal at all, and you totally aren't trapping yourselves into a theme. I personally think the K adds a slight Kardashian effect.

Silas is a lovely name, and although Sylas is an alternate spelling I like it nearly as much. It's uncommon but not unusual, which I think is very appealing in a name.

Dax and Graedie would be my least favorites. They feel a little made-up and nicknamey. Graedie especially I think complicates things unnecessarily, and the "ae" and "ie" combination makes it look significantly more feminine. It wouldn't be a problem if you hadn't mentioned that you wanted very masculine boy names. Grady or even something like Grayde I would have completely different response to.

Brady is by far my favorite name on your list. (Yes, I do realize it rhymes with Graedie, haha.) It's been a favorite of mine for a while, so this is definitely my pick for you.

December 10, 2015 4:39 PM

I'm afraid I'm also not a big fan of decidedly masculine names on girls, for all the reasons other folks have mentioned (more gender-neutral names I do often like, for boys or girls).

I think your idea of pairing masculine first names with a very feminine middle name is the right direction, but unless you plan to call her by both (a la Bobby Sue) most folks won't ever know her middle name. It's easy to forget that when we're so very invested in picking great names for all slots, but think about your closest co-workers or people you went to high school with--how many of their middle names could you list?

Of your list, Bradley does feel over-the-line masculine to me, although she could use the unisex nickname Lee if you wanted a more flexible option.

I also am not a fan of Soren, both because of the internal word "sore" and because it sounds so much like Sauron to me, the mega-evil from the Lord of the Rings (though I suspect it doesn't sound like that in its Scandinavian form(s)). Perhaps you would like related names Severin or Severus? (I do realize the latter is Prof. Snape's name from Harry Potter.)

Blake also still feels pretty masculine to me, but I think actress Blake Lively is probably making it more acceptable on girls. Both Blake and Blakely seem to be coming into fashion right now as feminine names. If you like either, a more unusual name that is also a literary nod might be Blakeney, as in Sir Percy Blakeney and his wife, Lady Marguerite Blakeney, from the Scarlet Pimpernel. It's unusual enough that I don't think folks would make gender assumptions, and it has an awesome couple of namesakes.

December, River, and Grae all strike me as interesting, gender-neutrali-ish names. I would probably choose a more common spelling for Grae, unless you have a compelling reason for choosing this one (e.g. honoring a Greta and a Mae). I'd actually probably group Skye in this category, too--have you considered it as a first name? It does not ring "girly" to me at all.

Of the three very clearly feminine names on your list, I like Ruby best; Delilah and Nelley are nms, but fine names. I might choose a different form for Nelley, and reserve Nelley for a nickname--maybe just Nell, or something from the Helen or Eleanor family/families of names.

Of your names for boys, I like Dax best by a long shot, as an unexpected-yet-straightforward option.

Silas, Carter, and Grady feel the most current, but with fairly different "vibes"--with nothing else to go on, I'd locate Silas in the city, Carter in the suburbs, and Grady in the country, if that makes any sense. I like all three, and I'm sure any of the three could be found in any of those places, but that's just the impression I get. Camden is probably in this category, too.

Mitchell and Marshall both feel somewhat unexpected for a baby, while being very familiar. Marshall sounds a little more contemporary to me (maybe because I have an Uncle Mitch).

Brady feels the most already-time-stamped to me--I would guess a Brady to be somewhere between 10 or 15 and 25 or 30 at the oldest. I still like it, it just doesn't feel quite as "fresh" as some of your other options.

As might be clear already, I'm not a big fan of alternate spellings unless there's a compelling reason for them, so I'd prefer Silas over Sylas, Grady over Graedie, etc. I can definitely appreciate your desire not to get tied into a "C" theme, so I can see why you would want to substitute Ks for Camden and Carter, but I think so long as you didn't name your next child a C name you could go ahead and use a C name for the first without setting a pattern (you will soon be Mom and Dad, not Cortni and Chad, anyway).

By Eko
December 11, 2015 1:41 PM

"I also am not a fan of Soren, both because of the internal word "sore" and because it sounds so much like Sauron to me, the mega-evil from the Lord of the Rings (though I suspect it doesn't sound like that in its Scandinavian form(s)). Perhaps you would like related names Severin or Severus? (I do realize the latter is Prof. Snape's name from Harry Potter.)"

You're guessing correctly about Soren in Scandinavia. The first syllable in Søren/Sören is pronounced like the word Sir, or like surname.

That being said, it's still not very popular here even though it doesn't sound like sore. Guess it's just the wrong generation wibe in combination with people being hesitant about naming their kids ø/ö-names because it's inconvenient in English. So in my ears your suggestion Severin is a better name, and Seven could be a fun nickname.

December 10, 2015 4:59 PM

Your girl and boy names seem to me about the same on the masculinity/femininity scale. If you want there to be a noticeable difference between them I'd suggest picking unisex names that are much more popular for girls or go hyper-masculine for the boys. If you don't care that there isn't much distinction then you have a nice list of names. You could also do traditionally feminine or masculine names with unisex nicknames. 

unisex names more popular for girls: Avery, Aubrey, Morgan, Bailey, London, Quinn, Marley, Blair, Alexis, Haven

hyper-masculine names:Atlas, Magnus, Beau, Colton, Wilder, Blaze, Hunter, Rider, Gunner, Cash, Apollo

Unisex nicknames from feminine names:Alex/Alexandra, Andy/Andrea, Charlie/Charlotte, Cole/Nicole or Colette, Connie/Corinna, Gabe/Gabriella, Jamie/Jemma, Mickey/Michaela, Mitch/Michaela, Nate/Natalie, Nicky/Nikita, Ronnie/Veronica, Stevie/Stephanie, Theo/Theodora, Tony/Antonia, Vinny/Vivian

December 10, 2015 5:52 PM

Nikita is a masculine name--remember Nikita Khrushchev.  Also the only Wilder I know is female, a family surname used as given name.

December 14, 2015 9:53 PM

In the US the name Nikita has been used mostly for girls rather than boys, which is why I suggested it along with other previously boys names like Avery. Nikita as a boys name has never cracked the top 1000 in the US but Nikita did somewhat popular for a bit, it peaked once at #250 in 1985 and again #583 in 1997. I would guess the movie/tv shows La Femme Nikita had something to do with that. It is more popular for boys now, but not very popular for either. In 2014, 79 girls and 98 boys.

Wilder is not very popular for girls, despite your anecdote. In 2014 there were 9 girls and 128 boys. It is a surname that based on what how I've seen it talked in about in forums falls into the more macho type category but like all surname names is susceptible to crossing over. Hunter is another name I suggested that is somewhat used for girls as well as boys. I would guess Wilder will end up echoing Hunter's popularity. I think it has a similar sort of appeal.

December 10, 2015 5:07 PM

Regarding the C "theme" based on your names: my parents both had J names, I have a J name, my sister has an M. It took us over forty years to notice. Forty years.

In other words, don't sweat the initial. If the name you like best happens to start with C, use it. Don't respell it with a K or mangle it in any other way.

December 10, 2015 8:36 PM

The whole "can't discuss names with family because Judgmental City" is why these forums exist. :) That said, I'm going to get all judgmental on you. Sorry.

You said, "I love boy names for girls... but our boy will have to have a very manly name." Think about what that implies. Why is it OK for people to think your daughter is a boy, but not OK for people to think your son is a girl? What, exactly, is wrong with being a girl? I know, I know, you're not changing the world here, you're just trying to name a baby... but just because the attitude you're propagating is subtle, perhaps even subconscious, doesn't mean it's not far-reaching.

(A feminine middle name doesn't solve the problem. Of your acquaintances and friends, how many of their middle names do you know? Instead, consider what others on this thread have suggested: traditionally-feminine names with traditionally-masculine nicknames, e.g. Charlotte/Charlie or Josephine/Jo.)

The other issue I have to address is spelling names differently and thinking you're ending up with a different name. Did you ever have a Courtney in your classes at school? Didn't you then become "Cortni-with-an-I"? Newsflash: Graedie and Grady are the same name. The only difference is that one of them will face waaaay more "could you spell that please?" headaches than the other. (Also, to me, "Graedie" looks like an attempt at  respelling a masculine name to somehow [magically?] make it feminine.)

I understand why you think spelling it Kamden or Karter is better than Camden or Carter, but I can only repeat my sister's story: it took our family over 40 years to realize I was the odd-one-out in the first initial department. As parents, your names will no longer be Cortni and Chad; you'll irrevokably be Mom and Dad, and using a C name for your first kid will not oblige you to ever use another C name again.

December 10, 2015 10:53 PM

Congratulations on your pregnancy! It's such an exciting time, and naming is such a big part of it. Here are some thoughts for names:

You have a name that sounds like "Gray" in both your boy and girl lists. Since that is a sound you seem drawn to, how about Gracen for a girl, and Grayson for a boy?


For a middle name, how about Allyn as a twist on dad's middle name. I had a friend whose dad really wanted that to be her name, but she ended up with Jessalyn as a compromise. (Jessalyn is a suggestion for you. The name honors dad, and she could be Jessi/Jessie, which has the unisex name you're looking for.)

Bradley - I actually like it for a girl if it's a family name. 

Ruby - Love!

Delilah - I personally prefer Lilah. If you're Christian or Jewish, I would probably skip it, but otherwise its ok.

Soren - Not a fan for boys or girls -- "sore". 

Blake - It's okay. I might do Blakely to make it sound a bit girlier. 

December - Definitely not one you hear often. I'm neutral on it, but the name would make me wonder what her parents are like (not in a bad way...just a wondering). 

Nelley - Very cute. Would you consider using it as a nickname for Ellen, Helen, or Cornelia?

River - It's okay. I'd go super girly with the middle. Like River Brielle.

Grae - Looks like a letter is missing in Grace. It's a decent nickname for Grace, though. 



Brady - I really like it

Sylas - I like Silas, but really don't like it with a Y. I want to read it as Sylvia.

Kamden - Much prefer it with a C. (It's really okay to do a C. It's not a pattern with one child.)

Karter - See Kamden. I really like Carter, though. 

Mitchel - Is there a reason you don't want the 2nd L? It looks incomplete to me. I adore the name Mitchell, btw.

Marshal - See Mitchel. I also really love Marshall.

Dax - I really like it.

Graedie - Not a fan. 

For a middle name, how about Raymond as a play on Rachelle?


Overall my favorites are Ruby Allyn  or Jessalyn Ruby, and Dax Raymond or Brady Mitchell.

December 11, 2015 2:59 AM

I know that Blake is still very much in the boy category, but I've always loved it for a girl. It' sounds light and airy and it's very preppy - no worse than a name like Drew or Elliot on a girl. There's a movie from the 80s called Irreconciable Differences and Sharon Stone's character is named Blake, so it was used on girls before Blake Lively. My second choice for a girl would be Ruby. 


For or your boys, the spelling on a few are a little odd to me which makes them less appealing to me. I think Dax would be my choice on this list. 

Good luck!

December 13, 2015 9:29 AM

I love Blake. I also like Bradley Skye, but I live next to a Bradley( but it's a boy, but still a beautiful girl name), Brady, December is pretty, and Grae. I like the spelling for Grae, it makes it feel more girly.

December 13, 2015 12:10 PM

I am not big on typically male names used for girls- just NMS. I think Bradley is definitely a very masucline name and would be difficult for a girl to carry around- she would constantly have to explain herself. Out of your list, I like River and Delilah the most for girls. For boys, I like Brady and Dax. I like Carter with the tradtional spelling; using one 'l' or changing the spelling of the name is also not really my stye, and, same as with Bradley, the child would constantly be correcting people.

Other ideas for you based on your choices so far:














December 14, 2015 4:16 AM

I'm another one who dislikes boys' names on girls (which is why I like Ruby the best on your girls' list), and agree with the question raised by TheOtherHungarian and HungarianNameGeek--it's a dangerous message for a daughter, more so because it's reinforced by modern culture.

That said, a middle name that's a girls' name does help, but middle names tend to be left out (unless she goes by her middle name, or a nickname based on her middle name). If you don't want to be mistaken as a mother of two sons, I agree with NotAGuestAnymore's suggestion of using a girls' name with a boyish nickname, especially for the flexibility it offers.

December 21, 2015 2:14 AM

I didn't read all the other posts, so forgive me if I'm repeating opinions...

I love River for a girl. Unusual and trendy, perfectly unisex but will be feminine on a girl.

For your boy's name, if you're trying to get it more masculine to pair well with a boyish or unisex girl's name, then you should use traditional spellings. Creative spellings of boys' names often signal that they're being used for a girl. Of your choices, I like Sylas best. That one you could keep the creative spelling because it's still a very masculine name. But on one like Karter, that could easily be a girl. And Graedie--that's a girl spelling for sure. "ie" at the end ALWAYS looks feminine.