have I upset the set?

My husband and I have decided to name our daughter, due in a few weeks, Rose. My older children are named Eli and Clara. I knew that her name didn't quite fit the set because it is one sylable and doesn't have an "l" in it, but I figured no one else would notice. As it turns out, a couple of people have noticed and asked me about it. Should we change the name to something like Alice or Lucy because it fits better or stick with Rose?


By hyz
April 12, 2012 10:40 PM

Keep it!  I think it is a beautiful fit for the set, and it is the name you and your husband decided you like best.  I think it's really arbitrary for people to expect you to match syllables and letters in all your names--sure, if there were a really obvious pattern being broken, that would be one thing (like if you were the Duggars and suddenly picked some initial other than J, or you had kids already named Anastasia, Victoria, Sebastian, and then Lee, or something), but this does not come close.  And anyway, Rose has more letters than Eli, for what that's worth, and there's a good chance you may end up calling her Rosie anyway, and get your two syllables that way, if you want them.  But I think your names have a different "theme"--simple, classic, and beautiful--and that's a much better theme than all having 2 syllables and the letter L. :)  

April 12, 2012 11:14 PM

I totally agree with hyz. Rose is beautiful and goes well with the Eli and Clara.  I think changing the name just to fit a pattern is not a good idea unless it was a name you already loved and the pattern was really important to you! I really don't think 2 previous names makes a pattern at any rate. Definitely stick with Rose!

By Guest (not verified)
April 13, 2012 12:18 AM

I 3rd what HYZ said.  Your theme is classic, don't worry about shared letters.  Rose is beautiful and sadly underused as a 1st name.

By Guest (not verified)
April 13, 2012 10:44 AM

I second, or third I suppose, the comments that Rose is beauiful and goes nicely with Eli and Clara. I will however throw out Rosalie if you want your L and multiple syllables. Rose would be the natural nn and Rosalie and beautiful full:)

By Guest (not verified)
April 13, 2012 11:44 AM

There is no reason to change the name. Sibling names don't have to "fit" each other. Besides, Rose sounds fine with the other names.

By Guest (not verified)
April 13, 2012 5:15 PM

The stylistic similarities make the names fit together well enough that the similar letters don't matter. Rose is a lovely name.

April 13, 2012 11:01 PM

I couldn't agree more that Rose fits beautifully because all of the names have a similar feel.  When I first discovered the obsession that is baby naming I worried that I had messed up my set because I had a Paul, Clare, Mark, and Katharine -two-syllables, long, and tons of nicknames all widely different from the first 3.  But the wonderful people on this board reassured me that they sound great together b/c they are all classic names and even if people pick up on it, so what?  (And my Katharine goes by Kate some, just as your Rose may go by Rosie some).  If I focused too much on fixing the set I was going end up picking a name I didn't like as much for my 5th baby.  I didn't and I named him James and I love it.  And I don't think people in the real world care that I have 1 kid with a long name and the rest with short ones.  Katharine sure loves her name and I'm sure Rose will love hers.  Yes, if I was constructing a sib set on paper then Katharine might get scratched but when choosing the best possible name for her that was name we judged best even if there were some obvious differences from our earlier (and later) selections.

April 14, 2012 1:51 PM

Thanks everyone! You have really calmed my worries :)

April 15, 2012 11:58 AM

Eli, Clara, and Rose is GORGEOUS. I really love it! I have an Eli too (sister is Sofi) and am pregnant with our third and i love the sweet simplicity of a one syllable name for a third baby. I don't think you could have picked three better names. :)

April 16, 2012 10:09 AM

Agree with everyone else. The names you've picked are sweet, simple and lovely - and also distinct from each other in a good way. If the pattern isn't important to you (and why would it be?), you certainly shouldn't let others push you towards a name you don't like as well just to keep it going.

Siblings are only going to live as a set for (hopefully) a short portion of their lives, and each kid deserves the best name you can think of to wear through life. I think we tend to focus on sets a lot here just because they're our main clue towards a questioner's style and sound preferences, but when it comes down to it most names have a fair amount of stylistic flexibility. This is especially true with classics like Clara, Eli and Rose, which have been well-loved for so long and used in such a variety of combinations.

Given a choice between names you love then, what becomes a tie-breaker for me is practical use - and in some cases (not yours), emotional consequences, i.e. I could be setting my kids up for jealousy and disappointment if one gets all the family tribute names, or the "cool" name, or the "pretty" name and his/her sibling(s) don't. You also don't want younger kids to end up with names perceived as less desirable (or just less well-loved by you) because it's obvious they were mainly picked to fit with big brother/sister's. The practical usage consideration in my experience usually argues for names that are NOT too matchy or locked into a pattern: you don't want either the names or the kids to be confused with each other. I don't think Alice or Lucy are too matchy for you, but they're closer to that line than Rose.

In sum: Clara + Eli + Rose = well done!