Help needed with boy names

We won't know what we are having until we are holding baby in our arms, so we need names for a girl and a boy.  I'm having a hard time with boy names (girl names seem easier). I've got just a few more weeks to figure this out. Eek!


Before we get into specific names, would anyone care to comment on giving a kid two middle names? My husband and each of his siblings have two middle names. Husband has always liked it, and he always said he'd like to do the same with our kid. I was on board at first, but now I'm slightly unsure if it's worth doing. I could probably go either way. Any thoughts? (For the record, I am not too bothered about the "official form" aspect of having two middle initials. That hasn't been a big deal for my husband.)


So...I asked my husband what sort of image or characteristics he'd like the name for our potential son to project. He responded, "Intelligence, poise, cleverness, and elegance." I asked him which names he considered to project that. He said names like Simon, Oliver, Colin, and Desmond. I said, "So basically any name that reads as more popular among the English?" He said, "Yeah, I guess." I said, "Well that makes sense, because many Americans tend to think of the English as more elegant and intelligent than we are, haha."

Out of the example names, Simon, Oliver, and Colin have been used for pets of mine when I was a teen about 16 years ago, so I'd have a hard time using those names specifically. But since I once chose them for pets, I guess it's safe to say they appeal(ed) to me too. 

Desmond has been one of our frontrunner names and I think it would be perfect for us for many reasons. But now my husband is rethinking Desmond because in our discussions about names, he is realizing the vast number of trendy names that end in an "N" sound being given to boys, and he has decided he'd like to avoid that. I know Desmond ends in a "ND" but I guess it sounds too close for comfort.


While I also like a name that progects elegance and intelligence, I think a name that projects friendliness is also nice.  I wouldn't use these specifically, but names like Charlie, Sam, Jack, and Hank seem so easy-going. We really liked Archie, which I think fits the bill, but like the others I just mentioned, Archie is a nickname, and I'd have a hard time giving only "Archie" and I couldn't bring myself to use "Archibald." Baldness runs in my family!


Some names that either one or the other of us likes (we don't agree on all of these), to give a sense of our style (if we even have "a style!"): Felix, Silas, Arthur, Philip, Liam, Luca, Lucas, Malcom, Leander, Ellis, Elias, Donovan, Melvin, Mervyn, Merlin, Edgar, Leonard, Aldwin, Nestor, Lennox.


Our last name is something similar to Garrett. It is a common Italian or Spanish last name (we have no real ties to those cultures).  




March 15, 2013 3:29 PM

I like a lot of the names on your list! I wouldn't worry about Desmond falling into the trendy category.  It has a very different feel from the currently trendy -n ending names, in my opinion.

More suggestions based on the rest of your list (with what I think are friendly, easygoing nn's): Theodore (Theo, Ted), Graham, Wesley (Wes), Dexter (Dex), Archer (Archie), Leopold (Leo), Thaddeus (Tad), Everett (Rhett)

Can you give us an idea of what you're thinking for a girl, so we can get a better idea of your style & find a good match?

March 15, 2013 6:14 PM

Good suggestions, Emerald Bee! In fact several of them are ones my husband and I have considered:


Theodore - with nn's Ted or Teddy, I like this, but husband not so much...

Graham - we both like, but know one already in our circle of friends (plus, I prefer pronounciation "Gray-am" but almost everyone here says "Gram."

Wesley - not bad! Like the nn Wes, too.

Dexter - our friend's dog, named after the murderous TV character. 

Archer! - This was on our list as a way to get to Archie. Then I shared it with my sister and she felt it was a name that comes off as trying too hard to be hip and edgy. Sigh. (Bonus: Husband is a Sagittarius ["The Archer"]; Anti-bonus: kid will not be, lol)

Leopold - not too sure about this one...

Thaddeus - husband says he's not crazy about "Latin-ized" names (Darius, Cornelius, Julius, etc.)

Everett - husband says sounds more like a surname, which isn't our style


Girl names we like: Gwendolen, Alice, Josephine, Maeve, Fern, Sylvia, Hazel, Agnes, Lucinda, Julia, June, Diana, Coral, Pearl, Jane, Helen/Helena. Yeah, the old lady names. :-) 

May 13, 2013 4:01 PM

How about Arthur as a way to get to Archie?

I also thought of the Graeme spelling for you. (Would that help with the "Gram" pronounciation where you live, at least when read?)

By hyz
March 18, 2013 5:03 PM

I don't think Desmond sounds too trendy at all, so if it is a name you both love, I think you should feel comfortable using it on that front.  I love a lot of your name choices, so I'll share a few of my favorites that aren't on your list, in case any of them resonate: August (maybe Gus or Auggie if you're looking for nns), Alastair (nn Alec or Alex), Tobias (Toby), Frasier, Lionel, Dashiell, Edmund, Calder, Calvin, Alban (Albie?), Alden, Ansel, Ambrose.

On the two middle names issue, you might try searching for it in the forums, because it has been discussed a fair bit.  I think the general consensus is that it may cause minor administrative hassles, and some people may find it a bit stuffy depending on the particular family or unwieldy based on the actual names chosen, but most people don't have anything really negative to say about it, and it seems like a perfectly reasonable choice in general.   


May 13, 2013 4:02 PM

Ali can also be a nickname for Alistair.

May 7, 2013 10:18 PM

Of all you listed, I really like Desmond and think it is unique, rather than trendy. What about Grant, Henry, or Reese?

By ozy
May 16, 2013 11:36 PM

Desmond is a beautiful name, and Desi is a great nick name.

Other thoughts: maybe Miles or Milo, Lysander, Julian (nn Jude)

I think the suggestion of Arthur nn Archie was a good one. I love Arthur but was never crazy about the nn Art.

May 18, 2013 7:18 PM

I second Milo as something easy going and likeable! Also other "-o" endings: Theo, Leo, Arlo. I see you like an "M-" beginning too - maybe a Max as an easy-going likeable nickname (Maddox, Maxwell)? Possibly a Declan as an alternative to Desmond (though it ends in an "-n")? Desi as a cute nickname for Desmond? 

I really like Elias and Felix. 


Overall, I think it's great to focus on boys' names! They're much harder!!

May 21, 2013 1:29 PM

What about Hugh, Victor, Edmund, Bruce, Wallace or Hubert?

July 11, 2013 9:29 AM

Thanks for all of the replies! I had my baby in the middle of June. It was a boy! His name is Sil@s @ldwyn Fel!x. 

July 11, 2013 9:32 AM

Very handsome choice! Congrats!

July 11, 2013 9:55 AM

Congratulations, and nice choice!

By hyz
July 11, 2013 12:02 PM

I love it--very handsome!!  Congratulations on your sweet baby boy!!

By Coll
July 11, 2013 2:16 PM

What a great name! Congrats!

July 11, 2013 8:02 PM

Awesome name!! Congrats!!

July 11, 2013 10:55 PM

Congratulations!!! Lovely name....  I adore both Silas and Felix so excellent choices! Hope you are all doing well :)