Hubby for sale! (He's nixed our girl name)

GAHHHHHHHHH

 

"Aus, I just don't think I can name the baby Sparrow if it's a girl."

 

This is what I woke up to this morning.  

 

Our girl name was going to be Sparrow Katriel.  I'm torn on his sudden revelation.  On one hand I'm secretly thrilled because while I like Sparrow it was never my favorite, not even close.  However, he's shot down every name I love, he hasn't suggested a THING, and Sparrow was the ONLY thing I could get him to agree to.  We have about 6 weeks left to decide.  

 

Our older sons are Atticus Michael and Malakai Solomon (Kai).  Originally Atticus was going to go exclusively by Ace but I find myself more drawn to call him Atticus as he gets older.  

 

So I could use some suggestions.  If I had naming rights, I'd go with Arden Pearl for a girl and be done with it.  I also have seen Vera quite a lot lately and am beginning to love it.  I haven't put this one past Hubby yet.  Other names I like for girls:

Selah

Georgia

Jemima

Wren 

Louisa

Colette/Cosette (not sure which I like better)

Cosima

 

None of the above have been run by Hubby yet since I thought we were going with Sparrow, but knowing him...ugh.  

 

For boys he said no way to Silas, my current favorite, but he liked Isaias quite a bit and I'm going to try and sell him on Augustus nn Gus.  I just currently have no faith in him.  I swear, he's a good man, a generous man and an incredible father.  He just sucks at names.  *sigh*

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December 15, 2014 2:12 AM

Some suggestions based on your son's names;

Sarai

Naomi

Zora

Daphne

Penelope

Rivka

Simone

 

This may be an unpopular opinion, but I think that hubbies who don't give helpful suggestions/constructive feedback should forfeit their naming rights. It's a lot harder to bring good names to the table than it is to veto them. If you really love Arden Pearl I say go for it.

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December 15, 2014 10:51 AM

My hubby and I have compromised by agreeing that I will bring a list of ten complete boy names and 10 complete girl names that I love to the delivery room and he can pick from the list. Fair is fair. 

For the record, I adore Artticus, and his brother would be named Robin. Like Robin Hood. I love literary names. 

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December 19, 2014 2:36 PM

Murf73, I love this idea!  My husband vetoes everything I suggest and doesn't bring anything constructive to the conversation.  I'm going to see if he'll go for something like this.  Great idea!!!

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By TKB
December 15, 2014 1:08 PM

If he won't be constructive, you should make a shortlist and he can pick from one of those, or start coming up with something other than "nope". What was your husband's role in choosing the boys' names? Is he used to you doing all the work ad not needing to contribute much but veto power? 

As frustrating as the situation is, I think your short list is very nice and any of them would fit as a lovely, ecclectic mix. If you're in the US, do be aware of the racial history of Jemima. (It doesn't need to be a dealbreaker, but something I think a parent should choose with eyes open.) 

Maybe consider: Violet, Isadora, Lucille, Hazel, Phoebe, Ruby, Margot, Tessa

Boys: Ezra, Felix, Julian, Milo, Miles, Simeon, Gideon. This board has also noticed a really strong sibset relationship between Kai and Finn so maybe you'd like Finn, Finnigan, Finnian? 

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December 15, 2014 3:20 PM

I know it's a long list, but I think I remember your hubs had vetoed quite a few suggestions on a previous thread.

If you want to remind us of those, we could try not to suggest them. 

 

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December 15, 2014 5:49 PM

 

SCARLETT

WREN

RAVEN

ZUZANNA

MARAI

 

Good luck!

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December 15, 2014 7:17 PM

Sparrow, does have a sort of manly feel to it.....captain jack, however maybe something similar, like (spar)ROWena? I think Wren rocks as well.

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December 20, 2014 9:38 PM

I hadn't posted a list of names he nixed, except Silas.  He DOES like Isaias (but says no way to Isaiah), which I like okay.  I don't love it the way I love Silas but since I am probably never going to get him to see my way on Silas, I have to remember that I have to compromise too.  

 

Someone earlier suggested Isaias nn Ike, to go with Atticus nn Ace and Malakai nn Kai.  Hubby really liked this idea.  We are in no way set on this one, but we at least have some options for boys.  

 

He thought Isadora was pretty as long as we don't call her Dora EVER.  When I ran my new list by him, he was intrigued by Cosette/Cosima.  Thoughts on these?

 

I ran by Augustus nn Gus.  He said no way, but then mentioned Augusta for a girl.  I don't know how this even makes SENSE but I like Augusta so that has potential as well.  

 

Also, I am not giving up on Arden.  I did tell him he needs to either be more openminded or start contributing.  ;)  

 

I think this is so hard because this will probably be our last child he wants it to be perfect.  He just lacks total naming creativity.  Naming Atticus was the easiest thing in the world.  We had just found out we were expecting and we were laying in bed one night joking about off the wall names that we would never use, and laughing, and he suggested Duke, and I said "I was thinking more like Atticus" and he said "hey.  I REALLY like Atticus." And that was it.  With Kai, Malakai and Solomon were the only names we really agreed on so he was always either going to be Malakai Solomon or Solomon Malakai.  We went with Malakai Solomon because Kai was much easier for then 2-year-old Atticus to say.  Sophie was our girl name both of those times but one thing we both agree is that we're not too into that anymore.

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December 22, 2014 1:53 PM

Isadora is very pretty & I think it shouldn't be too hard not to call her Dora.  I prefer Cosima over Cosette because of Les Mis.

I wonder if he vetoed August because he doesn't like Gus?  In that case, perhaps he'd go for it if you suggested Auggie as a nickname instead?  However, it sounds like you need girl options more than boy. Perhaps it's better not to mention Auggie so you can keep Augusta on the table for a girl.

Based on these names, I'll also suggest Colette, Cordelia, Celeste, Flora.  It's probably kind of a long shot, but I'll also suggest Agatha.

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December 21, 2014 7:01 AM

I'll help you get over the name Sparrow...I knew a girl named Sparrow and one time I accidentally called her Swallow; She said that it happened a lot. Swallow? Yikes. Bullet dodged in my opinion. 

 What about Finley? Was thinking, bird...Atticus 'Finch'...Finley!

Louisa and Isadora "Isa" are cute.

 

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December 23, 2014 10:22 PM

Girls:

Willow

Bay 

Naomi

Jaylyn

Lea

Bri

Freya

Bianca

Dot (for short of something)

Dixxie (short for something?)

Phoebe

Adele

Cleo

Colette (hmmm, you could call her Chloe that goes with Ace and Kai)

Nicolette (Nicky or Nickle kinda goes with Ace and Kai)

Suzette (I love this name, but not with Ace and Kai)

Cosette (same as above)

Dahlia

Thalia

Tessa

Bohdanna or Bohdanka

Petra (Grace?)

Prina

Karis

Ross (for rosiland?)

Wren

Ivy

Jade

Coral

Sorral

Sora 

Vera

Wren

Lark

Robyn

 

Boys:

Jett

Jay

Nico

Stan (for stanislaus?)

Ross

Flynn

Milo

Bo/Beau/Beauregard

Cliff

Red

Heath

Grey/Gray

Tai

Leo or Leon (James sounds good for a middle name)

Ezra (originally a guys name but it sounds good for a girl too)

Ryder

Colton

Finch(ley/Ly)

 

Hope this helps!

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December 22, 2014 3:30 PM

I think Ike is a super cool name for a little boy! 

I quite like all of the names on your girls' list. Any chance of selling hubby on any of them? 

As a whole, your names strike me as English eclectic (at least the girls' list). By that I mean, I could picture them on the names of very posh, British celebrities' children.

The boys' are more of that style I lovingly call, "Portland Farmer's Market," and I really mean that in the best possible way.

A few thoughts (Apologies in advance for repeats...)

Verity, Clementine, Calista, Maude, Seraphina, Amalie

Ezra, Enzo, Jude, Dashiell (Dash), Saxon, Ezekiel

 

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December 23, 2014 11:54 PM

Hah, well, I fell hard for Clementine after some of you suggested it, but when I pitched it to my husband an argument ensued that ended with me yelling "you stink at this, Finnian!" and slamming the door.  Not my shining pregnancy moment!

 

Would you guys pronounce Vera VARE-a or VEER-a?  I like VARE-a better I think but I have a feeling that would be a battle.  Then again, I live in San Antonio so perhaps it wouldn't be as much of an issue as I imagine.  

 

If we have a boy, I think I have him sold on Isaias.  He really likes Ike with Ace and Kai.  I do too.  Any middle name suggestions for Isaias?  I really like Isaias Ezra; he's less excited about it.

 

For girls, we're mainly now kicking around Cosima/Cosette, Vera and Augusta, though Augusta has a little TOO much nickname potential because I wouldn't call her Auggie Gussie or anything like that but others might.

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By mk
December 24, 2014 1:57 AM

Vera=Veer-a for me because that's how the few Veras I've known have pronounced it.

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December 24, 2014 2:15 PM

I know a girl who's name is Augusta and her parents call her "Tati" which means magicical princess in Russian. It'pronoun ounces "Tah-tea".