Husband Help

I have been trying really hard to explain pregnancy to my husband Lucus, but he doesn't seem to get it. He doesn't understand that I can't have sex with him anymore right now and that I can't drink or go to parties. I am ready to be a mom, have read books and watched videos and know a lot. Lucus is really sweet and I know he loves me but is clearly going to be an interesting parent. What can I do to help the process?


By EVie
October 5, 2018 5:06 PM

We usually stick to discussing names and related topics here, as there are a ton of other pregnancy and baby forums around the Internet, but since you are here and asking... You don't say how far along you are, but I would recommend bringing him along to your next prenatal appointment and letting your doctor explain to him what you can and can't do. Maybe hearing it from an authority figure would help. Drinking is a definite no, but usually it's fine to have sex and go to parties (find a non-alcoholic option to drink, don't smoke or do any drugs, and stay away from people who are smoking as much as you can) unless your doctor has given you a specific reason why you can't. Unless of course you're just feeling so tired and pukey that you don't want to do those things, in which case, you don't have to! Just tell him that. No man should ever pressure you into sex, drinking or partying when you don't want to, whether you are pregnant or not.

Your doctor might also be able to recommend parenting/infant care classes the two of you can take together. Sometimes they're offered through the hospital where you are delivering your baby. 

Good luck, and come back if you need help naming the baby.