I want to change my name but no one listens

My legal name is sophia, and I have tried to change my name various times over the past 6 years. I tried Lilly for 3 years, it was the name my mother had initially picked out for me. Needless to say I had to remind her and she butchered the pronunciation when she did call me by it. So I tried numerous names closer to sophia or sophie. I tried to get her to sit down with me and choose a name but she never would. I'm told constantly that its a beautiful name but, and I understand this is shallow, I hate the fact that it isnt special in terms of how many people have it and how It doesn't relate to my family heritage in the least.

It gets upsetting. I cant leave the house without hearing sophia or sophie called to 20 different people.

My last name is white. I went to school with a girl named sophia whiteway. 

Ive finally decided on Rosey. Its my great aunts name. It felt good introducing myself to someone as Rosey, but my family will never even try. What do you suggest I do.


August 11, 2016 8:08 AM

How old are you? If you are over 18, you can make the change legally on your own. Your family may never accept your new name, but your friends will adjust. New acquaintances won't know you by any other name. Over time, you will become more Rosey and less Sophia. My husband changed his name when he was in college. He's in his late 40s now and his mom still sometimes calls him by his birth name. Everyone else, even his sisters, call him by the name he chose. 

I am very curious how anyone could butcher the pronuncation of Lilly. Please tell us!

August 24, 2016 2:00 AM

I am called by my preferred name by everyone except my family.  They (and my parents in particular) insist on using my legal/birth name.  I agree with Elizabeth that convincing your family to call you by a new name might be hopeless.

For the rest of the world, though--just introduce yourself as Rosey (or Lilly, if you prefer that, but "lily-white" seems a bit much), and new people will call you Rosey.  People who've known you as Sophia may take some time to catch up, if they ever do, but as time passes, a larger and larger percentage of the peole you interact with will call you by your preferred name.