I want to change my name, family not supportive
To make a long story short, I want to change my first and my middle name, but now I am having doubts.
I don't have the best family life at all, and my mom was pretty abusive growing up and my step dad let her run the house. My real father to this day will not have anything to do with me because of my mom.
My name is Edward and I never liked that name and I told her that I wanted to change it, but she always told me no. As a teenager, the kids at school used to make fun of me all the time about it and they would even say it in a "mentally challenged voice" as I walked down the hall.
Fast forward years later, and my mom finally passed. The main part is that when going through my baby stuff, I found out that my mom named me after a relative on my FATHER's side. That was the final straw and I told my sister that I wanted to change my name.I was named after an uncle as a "favor". I was furious because I don't think that is how baby names should be chosen. I also feel like all the abuse stems from the fact that I always reminded her of my dad, now everything makes sense.
I decided that I wanted to change my new name to Alexander or Alex for short. Its been a few years now but I recently brought it up again with my sister and she told me that she would never be able to adjust calling me a new name and I should just stick with what I have.
I am not happy with "Edward" and I cringe when I hear it, in public, even in intimate moments. I hate it so much and even the nicknames are horrible. "Ed" is the name of a horse from Mr. Ed and Eddie sounds like an immature little boy. So my problem is two fold, 1. Should I change my name even though my family may not be supportive? and 2. Once I do change my name, how do I go explaining it to any significant other in the future without it sounding weird? Thanks.
Fri, 01/02/2015 - 10:26pm