I hate my name. It's Molly. Yeah, I know, it's such a cute name, bla bla bla. But I don't want a cute name, I want a name with dignity and strength and worth. It sounds like shopping mall, it sounds like mauling someone. If I never hear "Good golly Miss Molly" ever again, it won't be soon enough. And even though it's not common enough connection to be a real issue, I hate knowing it also means a drug, and a prostitute, and a gangster’s girlfriend.

I guess it's cute on a baby or dog, and I think that's why my parents chose it when I was a baby. But I hate it.

My middle name is Madeline. It's not exactly "after" anyone, but there are some other Madelines in the family. I like the name, I suppose. There's nothing very special about it, but there's nothing wrong with it either. I don't really feel like a Madeline though.

I want to change my first name, in life and possibly legally too. For a while I was looking at long names, like Odessa, Theodora, Viviana, Meliora. But I think people would shorten them to nicknames, and there are ok nicknames for those, but none that I love with the exception of MAYBE Thea.

So now I'm looking at shorter names again. I like Rain/Raina, and Lena and Briar. I also like names with X or Z, but I haven't found any that I just love yet.

So any ideas of anything along those lines?


January 12, 2014 4:12 PM

If you like Rain, consider Reine, a French name with history (not made up) which means 'queen.' My aunt was named Lena, hated it, and insisted on being called Lee, a possible problem if you don't like nicknames.

January 12, 2014 10:30 PM

"Regina" is Latin for "Queen" and many of the Romance languages have some name like that. Spanish has Reina, French has Reine.

These are lovely names with great meaning, and I am looking into them. The name Rain isn't made up, however, and does have history of its own.

By jmay
January 13, 2014 12:41 AM

I don't have any good name suggestions, but I just thought I'd pop in to say I empathize with your plight! My name is Jaime and it's never sat well with me. I could live with having a boys name, and the creative spelling is only a minor annoyance...but the cutesy informality kills me. A little gravitas never hurt anyone. I thought long and hard about changing my name and ultimately decided against it for a number of reasons, but its an uneasy truce at best.


Ok maybe one suggestion, how about Zara? Exotic but refined, and not cutesy :-) 

January 13, 2014 12:31 PM

I'm sorry to hear of your troubles with your name, but it is a little nice to know I'm not alone in this :)

I like Zara. Maybe a bit too close to Sara, but I'll surely consider it.

January 13, 2014 3:56 PM

Hm.  What about Xenia, Xanthe, or Xandra? Xenia is sometimes transliterated into the Roman alphabet as Ksenia, which I think is kind of fun -- but would definitely be weird if you haven't the heritage for it. 

January 14, 2014 11:35 AM

I'm not Greek or Italian at all. And the surname that I'd use with it is English and Scottish.

January 27, 2014 1:27 AM

I've always liked the idea of having a longer name and a nickname to go with it- it's like having formal clothes for formal occassions but comfortable clothes for home if that makes any sense. But hey, you know what suits you better than i do.

I like the name Denise- it sounds so classy to me.

I really love the name Zelda. Although it does have connotations to "Legend of Zelda" the video game. 

Maybe Xanthea? (Zan-thee-a) very cool and you do get the option of the the "Thea" nickname. Maybe longer than what you had in mind though.